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This couple drinks what I would consider well within normal for people. They have a drink or two during the week a couple times a week; more on weekends, and they do it together. They don't get falling down drunk or blackout or anything like that, but it does clearly lower their inhibitions, which could cause them to do things they may later regret (I think). Their pot use, I would guess, is once or maybe twice a month. Although we have no moral or ethical problems with people who use alcohol or marijuana reasonable, everyone in our poly family doesn't drink, other than sipping less than one drink to be social (you can't always get NA beer or grape juice). Our reasons vary, but the primary one is that we all want to be in control of ourselves, others are sleepiness, headaches, loss of a perceptual "edge." We are admittedly the non-normal ones in this. None of us remotely likes the idea of using drugs. Red and I found what we did to be fun and would like to explore it with them more. They are physically/sexually nice, but Red and I don't find them attractive enough in all respects to be thinking that we want to have full intercorse swap with them, or even play that leads to orgasming. Our concern is that exploring soft swap with them will either: a) go to far for them (I was worried that Red seeing her exposed tits may have upset him; it didn't) and lead to regrets after the buzz wore off, or b) set them up to think there will be more than Red and I are willing to do, disappointing their their expectations. As I have previously said, I called her up the day after to tell her that we had a great time (reassuring her there were no regrets on our part), and to assess his and her feeling by asking a couple questions ("I hope you did mind that I let him touch my tits?" "He was OK with Red seeing your breasts?") So for now it seems OK. Communicate and move cautiously.

I told him his junk was fine. His scrotum is pretty big and though I find it as a plus he claims he doesn’t like it. I think he does and he’s proud of it but he claims it’s not comfortable. My sex with this friend is totally different than the sex I have with others. He’s a real close friend of ours and the only male I am with alone. I talk to him as if he was a girlfriend. Make no mistake, he is all man.

Smart casual. Collared shirt, pressed slacks, nice shoes. As far as the shirt, tucked or untucked doesn't matter as long as it looks classy.

I got a chance a few weeks ago at a convention in Vegas. Started talking to a fellow from SLS who liked cocks. We talked on KIK and hit it off pretty well. Met and had a cocktail and talked at the casino bar then went to my room. We quickly got naked, his member was enormous, especially with what I was used to. Mine is 7 long and 1 3/4 wide and his was a bit longer and wider. I think he sucked me first, then we rubbed our cocks together. We then got into a 69 where he got me off with his hands and mouth. I tried to swallow him all but I think I need a little more practice. He got himself off and I was there to catch his load with my mouth. Kind of quick but fun! He sent me a photo of a threeway swordfight the next week!

Thank you all. I think I just became obsessed with a non-problem. I did build up the nerve to ask a guy friend and he told me he never gave it a thought of how I looked down there. When I asked what may have been too many questions he did say my larger clitoris is a turn on not a turn off. My husband had said the same thing but a spouse can’t always be believed when it comes to those things.

We've always taken "soft swap" to mean everything short of intercourse. It seems like "without orgasm" would be a much finer line. Hands go down pants and up shirts on vanilla dance floors, wives visit strip clubs with husbands, or couples would call a chat line (when chat lines were a thing) to talk dirty for laughs, but that's why I found that phrase "dirty vanilla" amusing. Lots of vanilla couples enjoy that kind of play, but would never consider themselves to be "swapping" or swinging at all and would definitely be having an argument if somebody actually unzipped their pants and had someone else get them off. On the flipside, I realize that depending on culture, some couples see oral sex as a much more meaningful step. In the vanilla dating scene I spent my twenties in, oral sex was part of heavy making out and didn't really imply anything about the relationship at all.

I like to get under the wife while another man is fucking her so I can lick her clit and his cock at the same time. I like him to pull out once in a while so I can taste her on his cock and I love to clean her after he has cum in her. SKY.

Remembering when it was all new, the unknown had this air of mystery. Once you get going you'll see it's just hanging out with cool people, going with the flow, and sexy good times. If you're down with giving it a try who better than your partner to reassure you it's fine? You have a leg up on most people, so I'd consider that something good to rely on where most people struggled needlessly together. ?

Thank you for you words of wisdom! We really appreciate it!! We will use the tips you mentioned to "weed" out flakes, and others we don't want to meet. I am glad your wife stayed with you!! Lol I think as long as your wife and you go into it with the understanding that it will be an experience primarily for the too of you and that, you will respect the other person's feelings, but ultimately this is for you and your wife and the 3rd person is a temporary passenger in your relationship...then things will go smoother. That is the mentality we are approaching this with. I feel like if you have strong communication, love, and understanding of the goal/rules, then there is a much better chance of having success and a great time together! A great adventure together! Lol

I think he was giving both you and your husband a compliment. My reaction would be to look over at his wife and reassure her that she has an awesome pussy also. Lets go again!