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This weekend sort of brought me back to the weekend where it all began. Two years ago after a football game the weather was so bad I ended up sharing a room and a bed with my college roommate and her guy friend. So much has happened since that night. I got married, found a side of me I never knew existed and found a new lifestyle. I am so happy that I found this board and had a sounding platform for some of my deepest thoughts and experiences. Thank you all for helping me through some dark thoughts and directed me to a much brighter time. I look forward to sharing my experiences that might help others on their journey.

I have absolutely no idea what you must believe you just said ...

I read many of your old threads: nearly divorcing, ED issues, wife’s first inter racial overseas in which a condom broke (someone else had a very similiar story) and long delay in reconnecting. Now she has a lover that is way better at oral than you. Sounds like a nasty case of plagiarism.

We have been in the LS for more than two decades, and we are drifting further on the aging scale with a combined age of >130 years (!). An unexpected benefit has been the development of durable friendships with a handful of couples that we have met through the LS--couples we look forward to seeing, to sharing experiences, and so on. Such durable friendships are unusual, at least for us, and it is a bit startling to realize that we have at least as many such durable friendships from our LS experiences as from our vanilla lives. As a matter of curiosity, what has been the experience of others who are aging in the LS? Have you also developed such durable friendships over the years? If so, what are the things you value most in those friends?

My creative juices are flowing today to write another of my swinging experiences. Already have four on Amazon and a how I developed into a sensual woman. Whenever, I am ready to write my experiences, I relive the whole episode and get more wet and horny than when I was in the real event. Anyone else had this experience?

You have to develop a selection process. If you put a profile on AFF you're likely to get trolls. Look at SDC or SLS and PAY for a membership. You can then block single males, those without pics, etc. You'll still have to wade through some people who either can't read or who simply don't fit your criterion. Those websites post parties and sponsor meet and greets where the attendees profiles are posted under the event. You can use that to help screen what you want to do and where you want to go.Don't know what club you attended, there are some upscale places and some that are best described as seedy. This is not an easy hobby, if it were, everybody would do it. You can't just suddenly decide "lets be swingers" and then be inundated with attractive and playful opportunities. You need to develop peramaters for those you wish to meet and work on your selection process together. There are a lot of fun couples out there, especially in the large metro areas but you'll find that you'll have to kiss some frogs in the process.

Good catch Jane It would appear so.

It looks like we are about the longest so far. We were 31 years married and finally empty nesters looking to recharge what we had. I (hubby) was a bit more reserved and had the first time jitters but through communication and patience I was able to settle in and enjoy right along with her.

we got into it twenty years after we married. No problems because we had both had our share of lovers before we wed, and we talked it all out before we pulled the trigger.

It was just under two years after we got married that my wife started, with my encouragement. There was no anxiety for either of us because the first couple of guys were men she had fucked before, one even when we were first dating. We started couples swaps, which we both prefer, about six months later.

You say you'd like some advice . . . perhaps you should ask a question.

We have had an excellent relationship with our LS friends ever since we had our first experiences when we were 29 y/o. Now in our 60's we still keep in touch with many sexy people and play at house parties and the occasional club visits. Of course New Years Eve is always a challenge when trying to decide on the best party option. Our past experiences have been trips to resorts with as many as sixteen area couples and quite a few hotel takeovers. Yes and we have even had a few “parties” when folks have passed away. We have always been grateful that we started with LS fun fairly early on in our lives and we have never had any regrets.

Hello, this is Mike writing. While we have nothing near your experience in the LS I can tell that we are already heading down a similar path. Our tendency is to develop friendships with our playmates. At this moment I am waiting for my bride to finish getting ready to visit for dinner and a movie with one of the couples.

OK, another thought. The next time it happens you might just say, "As I've said before, I'm not a swinger. But, honestly, even if I were a swinger I wouldn't play with you."

As individuals you have to make peace with the decisions you make in your life. I think we’ve both reconciled our faith with the lifestyle. One thing that we’ve learned after going through what we went through with our church, is that there’s a definite difference between religion and faith. Religion is the human church, and it’s run by humans, and all humans are imperfect. People have the right to judge, but that’s them, that’s not God.

Is this the same guy who claimed his wife went to Africa, stayed awhile and then came back and wouldn't have sex with him? If so, I think the OP has a fertile but very weird imagination.

I found that writing everything down, really helps keep the memory fresh. Too many times J said something like "Remember when we were doing such and such and this happened?", and I don't remember it at all. Cuz I didn't write it down.