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Finally decided to make the jump and try having a "train". Posted a hot date on SLS and have had good responses so far, plus posted in a couple private groups for swingers on FB in our area. I'm going to be in a hotel room, hands bound, blindfolded and laying on the edge of the bed. People show up, put on a condom, have sex with me, then leave. Hoping this is even close to as hot as I imagine. So excited. Also, any males or couple's that the male half is allowed to play separately on here in the NE Ohio area feel free to message us.

Charlie will definitely be there. Would never consider doing anything like this without him present.

I'v always enjoyed being with men 30+ years older than me. Now I am with someone 64 and he loves a full bush. So of course now I have a full bush but it's neat. He loves it and honestly I do too... What surprised me is when he has other younger men join us. Surprised how many men in their 20's and 30's love that I have a full bush too! Seems to be normal for men 55+ that I am with to really love a full bush. So pleasantly surprised and happy!

How many plamates in one night is enough at the party?

The OP couple sounds like drama on a stick! You're way too focused on the alpha male crap and you have absolutely no idea that swinging is about sharing. Until you grow up a bit, mature a lot, you two probably ought to find a new hobby.

I couldn’t agree more. My wife and I are total newbies. We are still working on having our first experience. However, we would never even THINK to pull what you are trying to pull. It’s dishonest, unfair to the unsuspecting partner, borderline illegal due to the filming and simply cruel. The main reason my wife and I are considering the lifestyle is because it forces us to communicate, be honest with each other, and honest with whoever we would decide to eventually swap with. What you are doing is WRONG. Your wife is absolutely right to tell the truth. I think you need to come to terms with your feelings of being the alpha, and truly look at yourself and whether you are truly ready to go down the path and be in the LS. Your path should be built on honor, respect, and above all, honesty. You are embarking on a path of deceit. Please reconsider your path moving forward.

Over time your wife's pussy might become sore from all the friction even if everyone goes bareback. Only she can tell you how much is enough.

In your mind singles are simply a toy, worthless...we are human beings too. Somehow you think it is okay to lie to someone, film them without their knowledge, all the while focusing on her. Ever heard of honesty? I am not sure what the LS means to you, but this is a shit show.

Good luck and let us know.

Have fun and be safe

Thank you. Also I am so greatfuul to have a man like Charlie in my life that is open to experiencing all of our fantasies together. I am blessed as much as he is.

I just had to check out your profile and, of course, your sexy photos. Do I ever envy your husband! And, almost as much, the lucky train passengers. There's just nothing hotter than a lady who allows herself to experience a fantasy for real. Have fun and I hope this lives up to your expectations.

Wow, is it quiet on this board this morning. To be expected, I guess, most of us are running around cooking the turkey and getting ready for all the vanilla folk. I hope you have a great day, and remember to thank God, Fate or the deity of your choice for everything you've got. But . . . this is also a special holiday for me. After three years of talking, considering, and screwing around, this weekend is also the anniversary of our entry into the LifeStyle. We were in our early 50's, sex between us was in that blah stage. If we did anything to heighten it, such as going to a bed and breakfast, it would work for a few days then lapse back to yeah-let's-get-it-on-nothing-better-to-do. We had nothing planned for the Thanksgiving weekend, and as we were getting ready to go over to the relatives for the meal, I said to her, "Hey, want to go to a sex club this weekend?" It was said mostly as a joke, but to my surprise she thought for a moment and said, "Yeah, why not." That night after we got home I got on the Internet (very slow at the time, dial-up modem) and found about a couple of swing clubs near us. She got very excited as we talked about it, had a million questions that weren't answered by any FAQ I could find. So early on Friday we called the club we'd selected, it was returned by the owner, he was kind enough to spend at least ten minutes on the phone with us, filling us in. (Thank you, Jim!) We headed for the mall in the Hot Friday shmush, got her a new bra and panty, and a new babydoll. That night we arrived at the club at 8:10, Jim had one of his volunteers take us for a tour of the place, make sure we knew the customs and more importantly the rules. We talked with other couples, watched a girl grind on the dance floor, danced with other people ourselves. Perhaps around 11:00 we got into the hot tub, I remember how excited I was as other men first got a good look at my wife's naked body. We found no one looking to play with us (we found out later it was because we were newbies,) and so we went into a room ourselves and started foreplay. We left the door open, a man came to it, I waved him inside. With our approval, he kissed my wife, felt her tit, exciting us both. I gave her the option to invite him to join us for sex, she declined, wanting our first experience to be a swap. I remember my orgasm was fantastic, all of hers were off the chart. As we drove home, we were so enthusiastic that we made love again that night and a few times the next day. And thus began our long and enjoyable journey into non-monogamy. Happy anniversary to me!

You left them alone. Expecting your wife to intuit your wishes is not fair. Our threesomes start out the first time with myself acting the role of "good host". That means that I allow the play between the playmate and my wife to develop how it may without interference. My level of participation is determined by what happens. I am there for her support and safety first of all. She knows this and always has a good time and lets herself go with the flow between them. I AM participating. It is just not in a sexual way all of the time. Her appreciation is expressed later when we are alone. The second and subsequent times my role becomes progressively more dominant until the playmate and I figure out our own particular dance in pleasing her. By the end of the second time you might be surprised how well we perceive each others signals. From the outside I think it might look like it was choreographed. (G) As a side note we always choose threesome partners together. One of the criteria is whether they have the potential to be called back for repeats. (This is even before any sex play at all. She has to like the guy enough that she would accept a second date on a vanilla level.) The first time is still part of the audition to see how well her responds to her "instruction".( By this I mean does he pick up on differences in her groans. If she says to hard does he instantly try to correct. etc.)

As the others have said go to a swinger club. My wife and I started going in February. Each time we went, we progressed in our experiences. The last time we were sitting in the main area and started kissing this led us to put on a little show for the small crowd of people still at their seats. Most people did not go out of their way to stare but it was definitely a thrill to have people watch us. My wife had noticed a guy watching her all night and she commented that she really got off letting him watch her pleasuring me.

Same situation here. Wife loves the idea of being watched. We do it in public quite often. I haven’t brought up the idea of a club yet. We discussed having someone film us. Just don’t know who to ask

Exactly how we broke in, which then turned into wanting to be watched. Blossomed from there. GoldCoCouple is absolutely right. Go to a club, don't be afraid to watch others. Part of the reason they are there is because they like to be watched. You guys would be doing them a solid - same as they are doing for you by allowing you to watch them. Club is the way to go. Good luck, and have fun.

The absolute hardest part about going to a club for the first time is the walk thru the door. Afterwards, when you look back on it, it will seem silly that it was so hard...but it's easy to say this after you have done it.

Wow! With the preacher and his wife! I need to find a church like yours! The people at my church are such prudes!