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In your mind singles are simply a toy, worthless...we are human beings too. Somehow you think it is okay to lie to someone, film them without their knowledge, all the while focusing on her. Ever heard of honesty? I am not sure what the LS means to you, but this is a shit show.

The OP couple sounds like drama on a stick! You're way too focused on the alpha male crap and you have absolutely no idea that swinging is about sharing. Until you grow up a bit, mature a lot, you two probably ought to find a new hobby.

Hello, there! So, you’re interested in double penetration but you aren’t sure what it is, if it hurts, or if you’re even interested in it. Well, if you have two patient men and some lube (just in case!) it won’t hurt. Promise. Okay, so maybe you aren’t totally naïve about double penetration. You’ve either seen it in porn or heard about it from someone who watches porn. Or perhaps you’ve noticed that you enjoy being played with anally during sex and have entertained the thought of being sandwiched between two men. For all intents and purposes, let’s clarify what double penetration is before we go on. We’re talking about a male/female/male threesome (MFM) where one male is penetrating the woman vaginally and the other male is in anally. Some might qualify a DP as oral with vaginal/anal penetration but for this article, we will refer that position as a “spit-roast”. I suppose the next step is finding a suitable male playmate to join you and your partner or two males if you are a single woman. Or perhaps you are the single male, in that case, this next part is just as important. A swinging single male with experience or swinger husband with a hall pass (wife verified) is crucial. For one, the males involved will not only be in the same room together naked but they will be in close proximity to one another! Limbs will touch and, from what I’ve heard, males can feel each other move inside the woman during the double penetration. You’ll want to make sure that such incidental contact doesn’t freak him out, and if it does, then find another. Another reason for picking a male in the swinger community versus a male from the non-swinger (vanilla) community is the greater chance that he will be able to perform. Using a vanilla male will increase the odds that he will be too nervous to achieve an erection, more likely to bail, or not show up at all. Now that you know what double penetration (DP) is, you’re interested, and you have your participants picked out and ready to go…when should we go at it, you ask? Foreplay, massages, blowjobs, handjobs, spit-roasting—these are great ways to get acquainted with each other’s bodies and ready for the main attraction. Decide beforehand whether condoms will be used for anal and/or vaginal sex. The use of condoms for anal sex will provide playmates the opportunity to quickly take it off and switch to vaginal sex if desired. Let’s talk about positioning. There’s the cowgirl position, the reverse cowgirl position, the side-by-side-by-side position, the standing position, and the sex swing position. The height and size of the DP participants may determine which positions will work or not. Also, be aware of which positions give the woman the most pleasure. Some enjoy anal sex which might mean cowgirl position might work best because the male on top will be in the position to thrust into her anally. If a woman enjoys having her G-spot stimulated, then the reverse cowgirl might be best. If having both men thrust at the same time is a must, the side-by-side-by-side position is one to try. As for the standing and sex swing positions, those will highly depend on height and athleticism of everyone involved. If engaging in a DP for the first time, it is recommended that the venue be intimate and private so that the male participants will not have extra unnecessary pressure to perform in front of an audience. It’s also a good idea to know where the necessary supplies are (condoms, lube, bathroom/wash clothes) in case they are needed. Here are two of the most important things everyone involved needs to have: patience and a sense of humor! Be prepared that a DP might not happen the first time you attempt it. Technical difficulties may occur. One or both men might not be able to keep an erection during the positioning and maneuvering. It might take some time to figure out who goes where and who goes first in entering the woman. If it doesn’t work the first time or with a certain position, don’t be afraid to try something different to achieve a DP! And remember, if it doesn’t come to fruition in this MFM, try it again during the next MFM. Have fun and happy DPing!

So here is my update. Invited 24 guys due to hearing how many no shows there would be, boy was what we read right. 6 showed up and of those 6 two were unable to perform. With that said I really enjoyed being blindfolded and not knowing who was penetrating me. It felt every bit as naughty as I imagined.I received a lot of oral and some of the guys were talented, one even made me squirt, first person to do that besides CB. Topped the night off with CB giving me a proper banging, lol. I enjoyed the attention of 7 men total, 3 at once was my previous experience. So in summary, I want to do it again but with more men, hopefully we can set this up. We only utilized SLS, next time we will also use FetLife and people from the FB swinger groups we are in.

We are interested in how he organized things, found players, and how things went for you.

I wanted to make my wife as comfortable as possible when I first brought up the idea, so once when we were talking about our past sex lives and partners (which is sometimes foreplay for us), I told her that if she wanted, she could get together with an old boyfriend who she enjoyed and I'd be fine with it. It seemed obvious to me at the time, and still does, that it would have been awkward for them if I were hovering over them while they were trying to have a good time, so I told her it was fine with me for them to get together alone. She did with him and another ex before we started having MFMs with them then doing couples swaps. My point is, do whatever it is that makes it comfortable to start. Besides fucking your wife afterwards will be unbelievably exciting: her telling you about it, you feeling the cum in her, you trying to get her off again.

There is a risk in oral sex, herpes and hpv in particular. But it is safer than genital sex without protection. After all, over 90% of our immune system is between our lips and stomach. There is a misconception that not swallowing is safer. Actually, once the dick and sperm are in your mouth, that's pretty much all that needs to happen. The stomach is safe. Blood born disease like HIV are usually only a problem if the mouth has open sores. Easy to tell if there is blood in your mouth. Stop the activity. I have had oral sex with a lot of men. A lot. Never protection, over 15 years not a single sti. My wife's best friend got a divorce, banged a half dozen guys, caught like 5 STIs. Much depends on the individual. If you are a sickly person, gets everything that comes around, be safe. The problem of STDs comes up in here about once a month. My general advise is if you are concerned enough that it affects your sex life, find a different hobby, go poly, remain within the walls of a committed relationship. Get tested and stay within a swinger group to minimize exposure. Use common sense. Listen to your gut.

It is the person new on the scene who can look at things with fresh eyes.

OP you referred to singles as “worthless toys.” That’s offensive and speaks to your mindset. It shouldn’t take sugar coating to say you are seeking a single male for a one night stand only. Your plan starts with deception, and somehow you justify your lying. You also posted another story about you and your wife going to a vanilla bar to pick up a single male for the first time and somehow ended up in a threesome with a woman you barley spoke to. I am having a hard time believing it. From what I hear unicorns are rare so it won’t likely happen again. You actually sound like a troll trying to get a reaction out of people.

Cannabis (marijuana) gets me super horny. Edibles particularly.

It sounds like Matt needs to decide if he is willing to be in a monogamous relationship with his new lady. You know the old "how you going to keep them down on the farm after they've seen Paris". Matt is your friend first and your playmate second. As a friend, I'd sit down and discuss all of this with him. You, Matt, your husband and Amanda are fine with what you've had. Who knows if new lady would be or not until she's asked? Matt should ask her if she's looking for an exclusive relationship and, if she says yes, then he has a decision to make. I'm wondering if he could give up the FWB situation he's enjoyed for quite a while now. And, if he things he could, for how long? He could end up resenting this new lady for causing him to lose wonderful friends.

This sounds like a bomb waiting to go off. I would not want to be in the line of fire if/when her understanding is tested (especially in the wrong way). Keeping secrets is not open and honest communication, and will likely NEVER end well. Somebody is likely to get hurt, and that should be enough to defeat the purpose.

It’s funny that someone who has been on this board when I was just first learning about sex is thanking me for my insights. I still have plenty to learn about life.

It needs to be her decision. I suggest both of you read more here, talk and ask.

It was me Rick for sure, we started going together when we were 17, she was a sweet innocent church going Catholic virgin, I took her cherry when we were 18, we married at 21, had our family at 28 and 30, we joined a nudist club when we were early 30's and soon found out their was a lot of swinging going on ther, naturally I wanted to join in, it took a lot of talking but the wife finally went with her first EVER other guy when we were 35 and married 15 years, what a Pandora's box I opened, it was very sexy and fun seeing my 35 year old wife exploring her new found sexual freedome, she had me biting my tongue a few times with some of the things she got up to. We are now mid 70's, married 55 years and still very much in love, our playing with others has slowed to almost "ALMOST" a stop, but we sure have had a wonderful and exciting sex life. Rick.

Mr. Lateboomer is 60, Mrs Lateboomer is 54. Just joined the board and are looking for ways to start slowly with other like couples. Right now we're still in the talking stage but the idea of going to an "on premise" club in our area has not been rejected. We've had some hot discussions about what we might like to do at the club, Hell, we're having fun just laying out the groundrules! Haven't really been able to get completely through a discussion about what we'd like to do without the talk just melting into a heated session. Is this a normal reaction for a couple after the concept of swinging is introduced into their relationship? So far, we're liking it! Regarding the club, we're both a little unsure about whether or not we'd look a bit silly attending a club at our age. The last thing we want to do is to "creep out" any of the younger club attendees. Ideas?