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I took a look at your pics. “WOW!!” Your tits are beautiful! You don’t look large to me. But I like a woman with a little extra. Your husband is a lucky man. I would go ahead and try the clubs. I’m sure you’ll have no problem attracting some eager gentleman to help your husband take care of you like you deserve. Just wish I could be that guy. Good luck.

Which "such relationships" The poly or the closed swinger circle? We get into difficulty when we try to define too closely. My wife and I are VERY married. We also play with others. By many definitions of marriage we are being unfaithful. By our lights that could not be farther from the truth. When I talk swinger or poly I always start out with "What do you mean by that term?" The range on Poly runs regularly from, if it feels good do it bar pickup to committed long term solid family structures that just to have several adults and maybe some children. In between there are varying degrees of looser sexual and emotional alliances. All of them see themselves as POLY. FWB?, Swinger?, The same sort of variation applies. For me, Poly would be closed group, mutual emotional ties all around, commitment for the long haul. This view is strongly influenced by my vision and experience with marriage. As we are relationship types my wife and I both tend to develop some degree of emotional attachment to our longer term playmates . The odd thing is that often times I end up concerned for the welfare of the guys and she the women, although we do not play that way. So, are we then Poly? Or are we just normal decent human beings?

Actually, that you think you are a 'bigger' woman is the exact reason you NEED to go to a club. Too many people think that they can't swing (or are hesitant to start) because of some self perceived body issue. Once you finally get out and look, you will quickly find that you are not the 'worst' person (or couple) out there...the others are not just the 'pretty people', but people just like you. The second thing you will find is that there are people that are still interested in you (believe it or not ). There are dozens of threads here (search is your friend) that will show the same thing. Once you overcome whatever 'issue' you think you have and go out and look, you will realize that you are just fine and that others don't even notice some of the 'deal breakers' you thought you had. Swinging is one of the greatest things that can happen to ones own self worth. The only proplem is you won't really believe until you try...so try already (and thank me later). Good luck and let us know how you are doing.

It's hard to tell if true, committed poly relationships are growing, that's for experts who study those things. It's also hard to tell because like a lot of things, poly can be on a spectrum from a group who lives together as a family to people who have other emotional lovers to just a closed group of swingers. I don't consider what my wife and I are doing as poly, but we are in a closed group of married couples, there are some emotional feelings, and we will play alone when convenient. How this compares with the more casual sex, I don't know.

You would be welcome at any gathering. If you want to date online just be open about your size. You will be amazed at the men who dream of meeting someone like you.

Sorry for the tardy response. Bravo! It's the first step on a lovely journey. Best wishes to you both.

This past Saturday, we had our first *tiny* foray into the LS ... we visited an on-premise club (You Know Where in Fayetteville, NC). We just wanted to let everyone know how it went ... hope it won't bore you! Things started out badly ... nothing major, just that when we called for them to send their hotel shuttle, they said it wouldn't start. No big deal ... we just called Uber. We were greeted immediately upon entering and directed to a PC to register and then to a window where a nice woman took our membership and entrance fees; issued us our membership card; and gave us glow bracelets indicating it was our first time there. We waited less than five minutes for our tour, which we took with another couple and a single female. The guide showed us every corner of the place; told us where we could and could NOT have sex; demonstrated how the machines work; explained the rules for the playroom doors and chains; and answered all of our questions. Once he let us go and wished us a good time, we checked our wine with the bartender (another nice young woman), got a locker key which required a $5 refundable deposit, put our stuff away, and walked through the back play area again just to take in everything at a slower pace. We returned to the main floor, poured ourselves two glasses of wine at the bar, and hit the buffet table. Within five minutes after we sat down to eat, the owners -- Chris and Annette -- came over and introduced themselves. They were really cordial and said to please ask for them if we had any problems that the staff couldn't handle. So we had been there less than an hour and things were off to a good start. For the rest of the night, we alternated amongst snacking; wandering around the main floor to see if we could catch anybody's eye and make introductions; and checking out the back to see if we could get a room and/or watch any action. Very few people spoke to us, but we didn't really feel like they were being deliberately unfriendly. We just think that a lot of them know each other and truth be told, we didn't go out of our way to strike up a conversation either. So now we know that next time, we need to take some of the initiative. One man *did* ask me to shake my butt for two women he was with, and another young woman across the room asked me why I stopped doing it so quickly. And the same man caught us later on and thanked me for doing it, telling us he hoped we'd had a good time and would come back. But the fact that we didn't meet anybody didn't put a damper on the night ... we STILL had a blast! We drank a whole bottle of wine; danced with our hands on each others butts; made out in a sort of semi-private room in the corner of the main floor and groped each other (breasts and below the waist) right in front of three other people who were in there. During our makeout session, I even got a hard-on with those other people watching us ... giving me the hope that maybe I won't have performance anxiety the first time we get naked for sex in front of other people. The only disappointing thing was that we never managed to snag a playroom for ourselves -- they were occupied solid from 11:00pm on -- because we REALLY wanted the experience of having sex knowing that people were walking by right outside the door. But we were sufficiently turned on by the whole atmosphere and being so openly "touchy/feely" with each other that when we got back to our hotel at 1:30am, we were rarin' to go and had a great session together. In conclusion, since we didn't hook up with anybody, I guess we'd have to call this a "swinging" experience ... but we consider the night a success and we're already looking forward to going back. Maybe something will happen on a future visit and we can take the quotes off of "swinging". ;-) PS We've posted a report about the club itself in the Swinging at Clubs, Socials, and Hotels forum.

We’ve been in this to one extent or another for more years than I care to remember. My most astounding discovery was the educational value it provided both of us. We’re all reluctant to critic the love making skills of our SO. We are also unable to conceal our reaction to somebody doing something new and very pleasurable to us for the first time. The course we adopted was to not look at it as somebody being better, but instead ask what it was they did that you found so pleasurable. Most often, that proved to be a simple technique easily learned and added to our repertoire of skills. Lovemaking skills aren’t inherited naturally. They are learned and perfected skills, taught through trial and error. The greatest lovers are those who took the time and effort to learn how to provide ecstasy to the person they’re with. With that in mind my suggestion is to not ask, “was he/she better than me.” Instead ask, “You really got off on whatever he/she was doing to you. What did they do to get that reaction from you?” Then work on whatever it was until you are better than they were.

Your post has so many things that match our experiences. On top is my wife's favorite position. She has orgasms that way. On top is the only position that she can have an orgasm while fucking. I seem to stay hard after I've cum long enough for her to cum also. I didn't think it was common. I thought it was a thing with my wife. The only other way to get her to cum is by using a vibrator. The Hitachi Magic Wand is the ultimate vibrator to her. No more dead batteries or no longer functioning vibrators. She/we had worn out over a half dozen vibrators My routine is to bring her to an orgasm with a vibrator first. Then It's my turn. My goal when we have sex is to make her cum. I love bringing her to an orgasm! When we play I know that if she ends up on top she is most likely to cum with him. She has had an orgasm with one of her playmates while on her back. I was extremely jealous and extremely happy for her. When we play at home the toy bag is always ready.

WARNING: You young people might now want to read this if you have any kind of normal fear of getting old. Some women of my acquaintance who have my same number of years would like to do cowgirl or reverse cowgirl but cannot owning to discomfort in knees or hips. One of these has recently had knee replacements and is now restored, to my complete satisfaction and happiness, to her former "ride-em-cowboy" capability. She even gets over me while the bottoms of her feet are flat on the floor and slides up and down on my disk without her legs or butt even touching my abdomen. I ought to send her surgeon a bottle of wine and a note of thanks. Yes, women like the on-top position.

IntrovertSwingr has prompted me to add to this discussion. I don't find stockings, hosiery, boots, etc. to be all that sexy - not that I have any prejudice against them. I would much rather the woman I'm with to be comfortable than trying to dress sexy for me. If stockings make her feel sexy, great, and I've been with women who feel that way. But, to me, stark naked and desiring play is the very sexiest thing for me.

I don't wear pantyhose or thigh highs.... mainly because the thigh highs won't stay up for shit. I prefer to be comfortable. I also don't wear heels. So, I go in my pants and shirt, change pretty immediately into whatever lingerie I am going to be wearing that night with flat sandals. Bare ass white legs and all If people don't find me as I am sexy, they can move on. --signed, the non-girly girl woman

Stockings and heels PLEASE!!! And garters too if possible. They frame the ass - and pussy - so nicely. Personally I hate pantyhose - not sexy at all for me - except something like a fishnet body suit maybe.

I think I'm an oddball when it comes to this so I'm going to ask and find out just how odd. Ladies, when you are giving a guy a blowjob do you require that he warn you first? If so, what do you do when he warns you he's about to come? Do you pull his dick out so that he doesn't come in your mouth? Keep sucking and swallow? Or something in between? And the most important question... does your response differ when it's YOUR man vs someone you are swinging with?

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I wear them sometimes. I like thigh highs with a garter belt. You can wear underwear on top. They are convenient in the ladies room and for having sex. They look and feel sexy. They cover varicose veins. Some people really like the look and it gets them turned on. I really like the way they feel.

Yep, pretty common site. Stockings/holdups are seen as sexy by most men, myself included. I can't attest to women's opinions, as I am not a woman. However, I do know there was a study done some years back which showed that women who wore sexy underwear were more confident, self assured, and assertive in business settings. I.e., their underwear wasn't showing, but still made a distinct difference in their outlook. Maybe that tracks with the swinging world too.

Love this site and the questions you ask. Like the answer above times changed for me. My first bj was scary enough. I knew what to do but taking a dick in my mouth, I must have been in love. I think I was just kissing it and licking it then he sort put it deeper in my mouth. Think he was sliding it in and out more than me going up and down. The warning was the OH FUCK as he held my head. So my first bj was him cumming in my mouth and me choking and gagging and spitting after he finished. He joked it was coming out my nose. After that I told him if he did that again it would be the last time. The next time he came on my sweater. In the few months we dated I gave in and he would rather have sex than a bj. Over time I learned the telltale signs most guys give. I also learned that a fountain of cum could be messy. I have never told a guy to tell me but some will on their own.

Speaking as a married-but-solo guy myself, I think it makes sense to "hear it from the spouse" before doing anything more than a little flirting. This can be hard to accomplish if you meet for the first time in a club, especially if the club has a "hookup" vibe -- if people go there hoping to play that very night. I'm hoping that the local meet-and-greet that's coming up in a couple of weeks will be a better starting point for me. I'm hoping that people there will be more ready to be patient. Because my wife will be happy to meet a few people face to face, for *mutual* reassurance. She just won't want to meet a lot of people all at once, in a setting where she might get a lot of attention herself! Attention she tells me she does not want.

Honestly it is very hard to give tips on how to give a good BJ. But I will give it a shot, now remember not every guy likes it the same just as no woman likes to have her cunny licked the same. Here is what I like. Start slow, make eye contact, there is nothing like looking in your eyes as you take it in your mouth. Then mix it up, hard sucking, light nibbles, a little hand action as you suck on just the head. Then don't forget about the berries, I shave those for a reason. I guess the most important thing is your being into what you are doing for me. Hope that helps.

My guy kindly lets me know although I always swallow....but it's nice to know when it's coming, because then I do something at the end that makes him come out of his skin. If you don't want to swallow though, don't....it's your decision...however if your not into the guy emotionally, then swallowing is something I wouldn't do personally...I just think that's a personal thing!

I like my husband or other male too warn me and I rather swallow my husbands cum (sometime )most time I have my husband cum on my face or my breasts. Most time it's my breast .................................................. When too comes with (other men ) I have them cum on my chest only..... Missy

I have never cum while giving head. But I do have a feeling of total satisfaction. Picture it. My guy lay spent on the bed, I jump up hands on hips shouting "I did that". I am so proud of me. OK its not quite like that, but I do smile and feel great about making him feel so good. Your friend, Prettylady

I have come while giving a guy a blow job, but I don't think it's so much the taste of his cum, it's more of the total sexy feeling I usually have that giving a blow job gives me.

My mother taught me that spitting wasn't ladylike Actually, I enjoy the build up of the guy's orgasm and although I have never felt the need for a warning, I love hearing it. I HATE vomiting (yes, there is a point to that admission) so I have developed a great deal of control over my gag reflex. The added benefit to this is that I can deep throat it when a guy comes. I would feel very put out if a guy pulled away from me during oral sex when I started to orgasm, so I enjoy reciprocating. PrettyLady, I would think that right before grabbing onto a penis is a good time to broach the subject.

Coming from a guy (no pun intended), I just think it is a question of respect. Just let her know your gonna cum. If she wants to take it in her mouth then great, on her tits, face wherever...great... and if she just makes an "ok" sound because she doesn't want to take it out of her mouth than by all means...."FIRE". But as far as I am conserned, if I am on the receiving end of a little oral pleasure, than I will abide by her rules. Just my 2 cents worth. Jim

I don't require a warning, but most guys do give it. I'm with Teresa though; I've not given too many blowjobs to completion, just because that's not how they wanted to cum. I'm fine with swallowing. Pepper

I require a warning!!! I don't swallow nor do I like the texture.... OYSTERS... yucko. Ok, now that is out of my system. I love to suck on a guy, get him to the brink, relax and do it all over again. I will let them cum on my chest sometimes in my hair, but not on my face. Although I hear it is very good for the skin. On extreme rare instances, I will close my lips and continue stroking till he cums or flick my tongue under the head till he cums. Both ways seem to work for me and my partner. Sorry didn't mean to make this a technique thread... As for me WARNING WILL ROBINSON, WARNING!!

I can usually tell when I guy is getting near, so I don't need warning. Plus, try as I might, I can't go very deep so gagging generally isn't a worry for me. As for what I do, I expect it will be the same with a playpartner as with hubby and past boyfriends, which is to keep doing what I'm doing.

I want it in my mouth, and YES, I DO prefer a warning. Something like "I'm about to CUM!!!!" is great. I always swallow. That's part of the reason I like to do oral. (I admit it....I'm a cum whore!) I just love the taste. Here's another twist.....Feeling him cum in my mouth usually makes ME cum! Anybody else have that reaction??

I don't swallow either. I hate the taste of cum. Please warn me. if it goes in my mouth, just like the other lady, no more play time. Same for my man.

I always ask for a warning because, like Amanda, I have a very strong gag reflex. The warning gives me enough time to reposition the penis in my mouth so that the cum shoots into my cheek rather than the back of my throat and then I do swallow. facelick

From the guy side, I always tell...give a warning...if just polite. That way the lady, even my wife can decide what she wants to do...sometimes is diffrent, sometimes she swallows, sometime I cum on her breasts etc...ditto with partners.

No warnings needed here but most do warn me. Guess someone trained them I can tell with my hubby. I can tell with most guys but I don't care if they warn me cuz I most often keep sucking but let the cum dripple out of my mouth onto my hands to add more 'lube' that I keep stroking to the last second with. S