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Kissing and oral is a big part of what turns us on to do together and to share with friends, so yes, we'd not consider playing with people who require latex for oral.

First, I hope this "rule" comes up before the clothing comes off. That should be mentioned in the profile or the chat beforehand. And, if it were stated in the profile we would likely pass them by. We have "passed" on couples who do not kiss, for instance.

We will probably not be a fan of some for this question but it needs to be asked... What do you do/say when you meet someone or you see their photos online and they are too big, clearly lied about their weight and/or posted old photos? We have been in this awkward situation more times than we care to remember. We aren't here to hurt feelings but if you are too big, we aren't interested. We aren't into all shapes and sizes and physical attraction means just as much to us as personality. So how do you nicely say "if you are fat we are not interested"? How do you nicely say "try being honest to others and yourself about your size?" Clearly everyone has a different definition of HWP in their own eyes and stating that in our profile has been ineffective. We have given birth, have jobs, have lives etc... and we are not even slightly overweight. Those things do not excuse you to put others in unwanted awkward situations or lie to yourself and others about your true size. - Frustrated

I'm an ass but if we get dressed up, ready to go meet someone, schedule a night to do this and then get there and the person is 15 years older and 25 lbs heavier, they don't get a lot of polite "We aren't interested". They get an ear full. We are as considerate to others as others are to us. Honestly I can't even imagine what would go through a person's head to think this is OK and how the heck did they expect it to go down? Oh, you're old and fat, we are here to meet a young fit guy, oh well, wanna bj? wtf As we approached the end of our group activities, J was slacking on working out and had put on about 10 lbs. Our last lover, after our last play date, sent a very friendly note that he must have spent an hour composing. Basically said that if J gets her motivation back to get in shape, he would be happy to help. By then though, we were friends so one can be polite.

I don't think the experience would be 80% awesome if I felt like a bacteria farm.

If we're going to lick and /or suck plastic or latex or saran wrap, we can just skip the middle man or woman and buy a dildo or a rubber hoochie or go to the local Publix and by store brand wrap. If plastic/rubber or latex was required for oral, we'd pass. Period.

Everyone has their own rules and limits and some have none at all. And everyone has their own desires and needs for pleasure. As long as everyone involved is aware of the others rules and limits beforehand, there shouldn't be a problem. I'm in the 'would decline' group when it comes to no kissing and protected oral. And I would respect the person who has those rules and hope they would respect my declining them. To each their own.

I have weight issues, so I am sensitive to the issue. My wife, on the other hand, is in tip top shape. I am ok with a woman who is overweight, but I have limits, too. I think you just have to say that you are not a match. We judge people on height, weight, age, appearance, but we never tell a person that we do not want to get together due to any one characteristic. Who knows why people do not want to be with us. We don’t take it too hard, we have each other. We do note that we have been wowed by people in person whereas we would have declined to play if we just relied on pix or a profile.

I dare say that most women who have enough confidence to walk into a club that first time will find it boosts their confidence even more to be there. Once they find out that their attractiveness is tied more to a sexy and playful attitude the confidence will soar. The ones that don't get that from it probably aren't trying.

Being raised in NY I can care less about what religion a person is. Most of my college friends are not my religion and I think they respect my religion as I respect theirs. I dismiss any derogatory comments as ignorance. I don’t harp on ignorance, I blame it on where they were raised at the lack of people different than them. I don’t take that thought to prejudice based on race. Gratefully I don’t hear many racist comments. I have heard remarks by some of the guys when their partners are attracted to someone of color. Again I blame ignorance and upbringing. I find most of the political comments are associated with race and ethnicity. I usually ignore overheard comments. On the other hand I think I am becoming thin skinned and would shy away from some who become overly political contrary to my beliefs.

The first guys I knew all were circumcised and it wasn’t something I even thought about before I went away to college. I do remember seeing my first uncircumcised one and it was odd for me. I have seen some since. To me it is more of a thing during foreplay and as long as he is clean it’s not a problem. I can’t say I feel the difference during sex.

His real feelings are probably that he knows what he wants and he wants a partner that has a like mind in regards to non-monogamy. At least that it's something that is OK to experiment with. I'm a little younger than him but after a long boring marriage that I should have gotten out of long before I did and then a couple of failed relationships(failed in part because I had an interest). I decided to lead with my interest in Non-monogamy. I put it out there. Either I'm going to find a woman that can accept that this is something I want to explore and we can be happy with that after establishing a committed relationship and communication(the important part)or I will be happy as a single man for the rest of my life. What I wasn't willing to accept was being attached and unhappily monogamous. There is a lot more to the story with how we got there but it happened for me. In the beginning a big problem for us was her stating the desire to explore what I wanted and me actually believing that. She was willing to take steps though to show me that she was sincere(we visited a nudist park) and I took steps in solidifying communication and trust. We built our relationship on a solid foundation of commitment, trust and communication but a desire to explore non-monogamy has always been a part of where we knew we were headed once we built that relationship. It took us a few years. I suspect your man has much the same feelings. He's not getting any younger and he feels like his time is limited. He doesn't want to waste time on someone who isn't interested and willing to go on that adventure with him. That means he doesn't want to waste your time either. You'd be just as unhappy as he would be if you didn't have the same interests. ou say you don't believe in monogamous relationships but you want some time. Just tell him that. He should be willing to give the time to develop a relationship that will be strong enough to allow for swinging. Yes, you should be in a committed relationship but how long do you think that needs to be. 20 years, 10, 1? It's really not about the length of time its about the strength of the relationship. He needs to know that you're sincerely interested and willing though. You don't have to be all in any more than he is all in. It will take time. If he's pushing you to prove something or check something off of a list within a set period of time then his priorities and possibly motives are worth questioning.

Among the folks who we play with, eating your cum or another man's or a mixture of both out of your wife's or another woman's pussy is routine. The women insist on it because even if the guy is a one-and-done, the women aren't, and if the guy can go again, he needs recovery time

I think that : I don’t know enough about it We should be in a longer term relationship Isn’t it a case of experimenting I also do not believe in monogamous relationships I want some time

I would give one of my testicles for my foreskin back!

Is your relationship such that even if he is the most superior lover in the sack, that she will still,happily,go home with you? I assume that there is someone(s) out there that can take my bride to places that I never have. We might even meet one someday. I have absolutely no doubt that our relationship and history would weather that just fine. BTW if you do not think that your lady does not have the exact same worry, think again. If you are not confident of BOTH of your reactions when you each meet these people ,then it might be time to step back. THere is no room for bravado either, just room for a good honest gut check.

By the time we started swinging we'd talked about everything. (It took us three years to get there.) So when she went off with her first lover, it was a separate room MFMF, I had no qualms at all. I was never jealous or concerned, only wanted her to have fun. Of course, I wanted to have my fun, too. The first time she took a lover, it was late at night at a swing club when we'd both had fun earlier. I encouraged her, and she allowed me to be in the room to watch. The problem was that after she was done with him, she shut down completely, didn't want to entertain me with reclaiming sex. We talked about that, she learned from her mistake, it was never a problem again. Our normal threesome process was that she'd get hot and heavy with her man for the night while I watched and took photos. Later, when he began to slow, I joined in. Often he'd watch me and her, which encouraged him to have another go. This worked well for us. The 'breaking your heart' part is called angst. It's a common emotion, even for experienced husbands, and can easily be confused with jealousy. It's not! It's more of a 'I'm glad she's having fun, I just wish I could have the same fun' feeling. After you've experienced it a couple of times, it's very controllable, although with many men, myself included, it never quite goes away. After I understood it, I welcomed it as a part of the fun.