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In today's charged political landscape, I really can't complain about the "no politics" rule on this site. We have seen profiles on other sites where the couple says "if you voted for__________, we won't be a match". Our play criterion includes h/w/p, generally straight, intelligent, educated and witty, we have no red/blue check off. Some of the most politically conservative folks we know are damned liberal sexually and conversely, we've known a few very liberal folks who had some pretty severe sexual hangups as in "OMG! you actually have SEX with other couples"? While we both have some firm political convictions we're happy to keep them to ourselves on this site cause after all, you have to wear clothes to go to the polls.

As many of the responses suggest, the issue is not politics (or religion, or sports team allegiance, or...). The issue is (in)tolerance. The toxic blend of the 24 hour news cycle and infinite numbers of electronic soapboxes has numbed our abilities to listen, compromised our abilities to think critically, dulled our willingness to edit. Rational discourse has given way to polarizing rhetoric: "you are 'for' something I am 'against'". Our vanilla and LS lives are thus diminished.

Politics especially these days is everywhere..on TV, sports , school, nail salons, barber shops, chuck e cheese lol...please keep it out of our sex lives...

When discussions become this complex, it is often because several issues are convolved. It might be worth attempting a deconvolution. First, there is issue of preference. There is no accounting for preferences. Every person and couple has them. Second, there is the issue of perception/reality of cleanliness. To some people, oral-genital contact is 'unclean'. Provided there is no authentic illness, ordinary hygiene including bathing, bidet, whatever, is sufficient to make the genital area cleaner than many mouths. Showers with soap are part of the ritual of most in the LS. Finally, there is the risk-management and risk-tolerance issue related to sexually transmitted infections. There are lists everywhere. "Yes" means none of the above are concerns in the moment. "No" means one, two, or all three are concerns in the moment. In most cases, preferences are mentioned early; hygiene issues are either apparent or non-issues; what matters are the STI risks, real or perceived. It's worth reflecting on you/your partner's risk tolerance and risk management strategy before setting out to play, and further how you will communicate that with each other and with another couple.

It’s about being honest that’s important, and how it is presented. I’ve met men who say they do oral but don’t. There is another thread about being asked to use dental dam for oral which would be a bigger turn off than saying it’s just not your thing. Why does your wife want you to only do it for her? My bitchy side would feel I don’t want my partner going down on your wife then. My gut reaction, sorry.

My wife and I just booked our first Bliss Cruise for April 2019. We are extremely excited for this cruise as this will be our first time ever doing anything like this. We’re going on 8 years of marriage and really like the idea of trying new things, just very nervous about trying new things. We’re super strong in our marriage and are looking forward to going to meet and greets to ease into the “swing” of things. Lol. At the end of the day, this will be an awesome cruise away from the kids and a great chance to relax.

I remember when discussing politics was allowed on the Swingers Board. It was a disaster. There was an incident in which a member actually threatened to find another member (they lived in the same state) and do him physical harm. I was an offender, but when the site owner made the rule "No Politics!" I realized the wisdom involved and joined the movement. Most members concentrated on making this site one of the friendliest on the internet. Some disappeared. The rule "No Politics" is probably responsible for this website still existing.

The online one is easy, "Thanks for contacting us, but we don't feel we would be a good match." Simple and works every time, and I don't see why anyone would feel the need to do more than that. Honestly, you sort of come off with an attitude like it's their fault for not being what you want. You set your standards so that responsibility lies wholly with you. If it is in person and they have misrepresented themselves, then that is a different situation entirely. Then it is their fault if they didn't hold up their end of the bargain by providing you accurate information for you to make that evaluation, and the responsibility for that lies wholly with them. In those cases, I'd just disengage as quickly as possible while still retaining some sense of politeness. Lecturing them on the error of their ways isn't going to be any more effective, it just makes you look like an ass. The swinging community isn't that big, and their best friends may be the next hot couple you see that you are just dying to get together with, until "Oh yeah, them..." They know what they are doing, and a meet that went nowhere fast conveys the message just fine. Not sure what this has to do with anything. We go to work every day too and see fat people, skinny people, honest people, dishonest people. Pretty sure that's the same for everyone. I also think it's the height of arrogance to assume someone is lying to themselves, like you think you know them better then they know themselves? Again, if they lie to you in some form or fashion, different story. But, is it a lie, or was it something less, maybe just not meeting the expectation? Has someone ever walked away from a meet with you thinking "They were funny in their profile but sort of dull in person" or "They seemed well spoken in their profile but the way he/she talked turned me off" or whatever else about someone may not live up to what the expectations were. Was that a lie on your part that you weren't as funny, well spoken, etc. as what they thought you were in your profile? Or was it because based on very minimal information they were, right or wrong, expecting X and got Y? Do you feel like they have some obligation or right to spell out for you in detail why you didn't live up to their standards, or do you think "Nice to meet you, we need to be going now" was sufficient? What I just described is the gray area of course. There are times when people are just flat out lying, and for them, don't waste any more of your time than you have to with explanations or whatever, just move on.

I've probably read a couple dozen 'how to suck a dick' and 'how to eat a pussy' articles. How to suck a dick has about 5 steps to follow in order to make a great blowjob. Every article on 'how to eat pussy', should be titled 'how to eat MY pussy'. Every pussy I've dived into was completely different than every other one. Each one has to be treated like there is a direct connection from the clit to the brain, because there is. Every reaction to every sensation has to be interpreted and acted upon. It's like putting a puzzle together, 'oops that doesn't fit', 'yep that one did'. And eventually you know how to eat THIS pussy. Think about the crazy redhead, half drunk on the bed, holding one leg to the air and telling you to get in here and eat this like you are starving. Compare that to religious lady who won't quite spread her legs but will allow access to the top of her slit, kinda. Different techniques needed. Guys, well the dick just kinda sticks out there.

Of course, it's not weird. We all have our preferences and boundaries. I'd say sucking a nice cock to completion is a 10 on my scale. Ass play a 6 and kissing a 3. I am definitely much more interested in the cock and balls!

That is so hot. Wife and I have a couple and the hubby is huge . I love to suck his massive cock with his or my wife. He's like twice my size and I will say I love his giant penis. But I'm not into kissing, ass play with guys. Is that strange that I'll suck his big dick and let him cum in my mouth but I won't kiss or do ass?

Guys worry about size more than women. You have what you have and what you have is what it is meant to be. Some people are tall others short. Big nose or button nose. It is true that women worry about their breasts. 4,5,6 are all normal unless you are watching porn. And large penises don’t necessarily mean great sex. Be yourself, unless you are an idiot, and women won’t shy away.

As others have said personality, compatibility, and presentation are far more important than physical attributes. 99% of the time the decision to have sex with a person is made before getting as far as an erect penis. And 5 inches is fairly average so I would worry you're small. I've seen and been with plenty of men your size or smaller, it's not an issue.

I was circumcised as a very young child, but I want mine back. I bought one of those restoration gizmos, I'll let you know haw it "turns out!"

We have agreed that should I become pregnant while playing we will NEVER check to see whose child it is. It could only be from one of two men but it WILL by my husbands! Still, I am counting on that pill BIG TIME!