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There is an active post entitled "What makes an unforgettable blow job?" How about a discussion about what makes receiving oral unforgettable for a woman? My list: - I like getting oral while lying on my back on the bed while you kneel on the floor. Let's get comfortable first. - Don't turn me down just because someone has recently been down/in there. I may not be fresh, but I'm always clean. My girls don't have a problem with it. If it's good enough to put your dick in there, it's good enough for your mouth (except my bum; you don't have to lick my bum hole). - Don't jump in immediately. Start by looking and admiring everything I have down there: my hair, my outer labia, the coloring of my inner lips, my clit, my vaginal opening. Turn the desk lamp on, shine it on my pussy, tell me how beautiful it is. - Once you get started, use both your lips and your tongue. Go back and forth measuring my response. - My clit is big, but please don't suck on it like you're trying to suck the life out of it. - Alternate between slowly putting full tongue pressure on my clit, especially from the left and right with quickly flicking across it. - It's nice to have your tongue occasionally go across the opening of my vagina, but trying to stick it inside like a dick is not going to work, it's too small. - Gently slip your index and middle fingers into my vagina. - Even more gently and once some juices have run down, slip your ring finger into my bum. - With your other hand, play with my tits while your licking and kissing my pussy. Don't squeeze my nipples too hard! You can be a little rough with my breasts overall, but just gently brush across my nipples. - I usually don't give instructions while getting oral, but if I do, listen and follow directions. - Continue whatever you are doing at the time I come well through my orgasm. And don't be backing off because something is shooting out of there, sometimes it happens. You should be flattered. - Remember that unlike you (if you're a guy), me having an oral orgasm isn't going to diminish my capabilities for penis-in-vagina intercourse. - After I say "stop," Stop! You can keep your mouth on my pussy, but don't try stimulating me for like two minutes. After I recover we'll decide what we're going to do next - more licking, fucking, moving on. - Optional - I'll get on all fours on the bed, you get underneath and lick/kiss me while I take a dick doggie. You can skip the fingering steps above. You can play with one of my tits, but leave one for the other guy. I'll suck your dick/lick your pussy for a while, but the closer I get to cumming, it's all me, I need to breathe.

Our circle includes close friends, their other friends and in some cases friends of those friends. We have met some really good people and some we could never see us becoming friends with. We were just at a small party where a couple we never met were invited. At first they seemed like a nice couple, our age group, well appearing and seemed like a good addition. Then politics reared it’s head. He was extremely opinionated to the point I was no longer comfortable having my wife play with him. Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation?

So, maybe it's a rude/odd question, but how does everyone ensure they're not getting with someone who has an STD? Always use protection, even when just sucking? Test beforehand? Etc.

For the life of me I cannot understand why separate room play is considered swinging. Many say they can feel more comfortable and more attentive to their play partners if in a separate room. Of course that would be the case. But isn’t this whole lifestyle thing about enjoying sexual fun and fantasies with your partner? Otkersiwse it is just random sex with someone else which really is not that different than a one night hook up. To me swinging is so much fun when my partner is there. I get off watching him and knowing he is watching me all the while enjoying others. If my partner told me he wanted separate room play I would feel hurt he doesn’t want me as part of his fantasy. Thoughts?

I'm all new to the lifestyle with my SO. I've only done it once in my youth. Definitely looking forward to it again. Anything I should know getting into it?

Hello all, first post here. My wife and I recently had our first experience in the lifestyle, it went great. For now it's all about her while I watched and played with the other woman...however I am not big on giving oral sex and my wife prefers that when I do it's only for her. I'm ok with that but is this going to fly in this lifestyle? Are there other men on here who skip that part? Any advice will help as we move forward.

Trust your instincts. If you are planning to play always carry your own condoms.

As many of the responses suggest, the issue is not politics (or religion, or sports team allegiance, or...). The issue is (in)tolerance. The toxic blend of the 24 hour news cycle and infinite numbers of electronic soapboxes has numbed our abilities to listen, compromised our abilities to think critically, dulled our willingness to edit. Rational discourse has given way to polarizing rhetoric: "you are 'for' something I am 'against'". Our vanilla and LS lives are thus diminished.

Well, talking about it is the cure. He should know your side of it. Perhaps a hiatus would help. Take a break. Find another hobby with him. Reestablish your relationship with him. If after six months or more you're both still interested, reengage with new rules.

When my wife and I first started swinging, she was initially hesitant about being with a black person, male or female. She was raised in a very narrow minded family... Another story for another day. We went to Hedonism one year and spent our time on the nude side, pretty much the whole time. There is always a wide mix of race, ethnicity etc. there. One of the things that happened immediately was that we were super comfortable with everyone and immediately made friends with all types of people. Imagine my surprise, however, when I turned around to wade back from the pool bar with a fresh set of drinks and found her enjoying being the center of attention of a black couple that we had been making friends with! I kinda just slid into the mix after dropping the drinks on the table. Afterward I asked her about it. She said that she hadn't even been thinking about the race thing at all, everything just kind of happened naturally with some fun people. I think that this is the attitude you will find most prevalent in the overall swinging community.

We are 100% condom compliant for full swap. We realize that condoms are not fully protective against HPV and HSV. We get tested annually. We don’t ask for others’ tests, because if they have sex once after the test, the results are worthless. You have to be lucky in this hobby.

My first wife and I were together from the late ‘60s through the late ‘70s, basically the period of our 20s. We were both pretty curious about sex and not scrupulous about fidelity. We should have been more explicit with one another about what was permissible and what wasn’t in terms of sex with others. Once, when I came back from a lengthy business and pleasure trip we got into bed and she asked if while on the trip I’d had sex with a woman we both knew, who I was going to be staying with for a few days. I admitted I had. At that point she told me she’d been having sex with our next-door neighbor, one of her medical-school classmates, adding that they had talked about fixing me up for sex with his (recently-acquired) wife, a nurse. I found this revelation literally breathtaking. And completely unexpectedly, in a good way. A very good way. I was so turned on. We were already naked in bed and we immediately began fucking. It was more than 40 years ago and I can’t recall how many times she came, but I did three times before we were finished. She told me she’d recently broken off this sexual liaison but I was seriously tempted to suggest we renew it, this time as a four-way. (She said her lover had complained about his wife that her pussy was so tight he could barely find his way into it, at which point — bless her heart — she told him that with the size of my erect penis sex with his wife would be a non-starter. :-) This was the point in my life at which I realized I was wired sexually a bit differently than many others. We later had a soft swing with another couple and I deeply enjoyed watching her jack the other guy to orgasm several times. (It slightly distracted me from my task of pleasuring his wife.) My then wife and I several times discussed swinging, but our schedules were busy and there was not the internet through which to make connections, nor a place like this one, providing helpful advice to novices. So, it never happened, and a few years later, worn from the stresses of medical and graduate school and the poverty that went with it, we divorced. And now she and I are old. She’s a grandmother. After a period of estrangement that lasted decades, we are again friends, both quite happy in our lengthy marriages. (She has implied that she and her husband no longer have sex, and that she’s fine with that.) We live a a little more than an hour from each other and with our spouses sometimes see each other in social situations with mutual friends. Several times a year she and I have lunch together and catch up. Her hair is white and her face is wrinkled. But I still think she’s attractive and sometimes looking at her across the table in the restaurant, in my mind’s eye I picture us as young and fucking our brains out. And when I think of her having sex with other men at that time in our lives, it still really turns me on.

To be totally honest with you......I have never seen an uncut penis before. When my son was born we had a hard time deciding whether or not to have him circumsized. After research I learned that an uncut penis is much harder to keep clean and the men are more pron to urinary infection. I think that information has turned me against wanting to explore an uncut penis. I may be wrong about my information but I would have to think a long time before I would agree to suck an uncut penis.