Leaderboard

Hate you...

It has been a year for us and we are having fun. We have discussed rules and we don't have many. We discussed protection (we do sometimes play without), sex acts (almost anything unless we say no), kissing (no problem, I enjoy kissing), and who we will play with and when. I can play with any female alone or with him. He is allowed to play alone with 3 of my friends but he has to tell me before. I can play with one of his friends alone, his best friend. I originally was very much against playing with the friend and now we are both comfortable and enjoy when he joins us. He is the only guy we have threesomes with. We discuss everything after playing. We made it a rule not to hide anything. I slipped last year and I felt very guilty. We know this will only work if we are both happy and having fun. Recently we were together with his/our friend. They are both straight which make me the attention of both of them. My husband doesn't mind just watching. Most of the time it's one being busy and one in my hand or my mouth. My husband has told me he can sense an oncoming orgasm I'm about to have if I am sucking him. He likes to cum at the same time. The last time I came, he came and our friend was still going strong, which was fine with me. My husband left the room and let us be alone. It seems I got loud and very verbal. After our friend left, we were talking and my husband asked if our friend was better than him. I said no and assured him that our sex is the best and that it was just me being frisky. My husband has not shown any jealousy before. I jus don't know how to handle the question. Am I to hold back? I even asked him that and he said he is happy it was a great time.

I love it when men ask what kind of sex I want,.. or better still, what sex I want on a given night! It's such a great sign that everything will be awesome and it fills every inch of my body with anticipation. It's also the reason I prefer to play with older, more experienced men Young men can be full of themselves and aren't as flexible in their approach.

This is sort of like my wife and the husband of another couple we play with, except the other way around. My wife and he sometimes do a dominance/submission thing (which neither his wife nor I are into) where my wife will verbally and physically abuse him. My wife will insult him every which way, slap his ass, pull his hair, slap him on his face. She'll tell him his dick's no good, which makes him hard, force him on his back and ride him demanding that he cums. He does. She'll also stick things in his ass and tell him not to be a baby boy about it. His wife hates the whole thing, so if they're going to do this thing, we go off alone and have gentle sex, make love.

Trust your instincts. If you are planning to play always carry your own condoms.

We are both 61, started around 5 years ago. Wish we started earlier, but it is what it is. We play about once a month on average, more on cruises. We could play every week if we wanted to. As long as your stuff works to some degree, even with vitamin V, you are not too old.

Friday or (especially) Saturday is always the best night to attend any club. Any other night usually can end up the way yours did. Just not that many people go out on Thursday. Sorry your night wasn't better...

You aren't going to talk her into anything so get out of that mindset. Just bring it up. You could say something like "Back when we were dating you mentioned having a dream about being with another woman. You also told me that you had an opportunity for that to actually happen and at the time it seemed as if you regretted that you didn't pursue it. Is that something that you still have thoughts about? I think about it and I can tell you it turns me on to think about you with another woman." See where it leads but keep this advice in mind. Don't push it. She actually planted that seed 13 years ago and you are just now getting around to responding. Don't get discouraged or worse, get pissed because she doesn't respond favorably right away. It may be something she has given up on and might need some time to rekindle that flame inside her. If she wants to talk about it she may ask you what turns you on about it. Be honest about that and let the discussion go where it goes. She may say she doesn't want to do that now for whatever reason. Are you OK with getting that answer? If you aren't then don't bring it up. If you aren't comfortable putting it that succinctly to her or you are concerned about how she might react then you probably have a long road ahead building the skills necessary to communicate on that level.

Holy Toledo! OK, sorry, couldn't resist. But in answer to your question, it does sound like she was running the possibility by you back then. Now it might be a bit weird but you might just bring it back up. Start out by reminiscing about those dating years. You know, vanilla stuff. Then chuckle and remind her about what she'd said about sex with a woman, and how it excited you, and then ask her if she still has those dreams.

And the correct answer is....... "And I don't want to know thank you!"

We looked for single men. We had a lot of meetings where the guy would basically ignore her and focus on me. I tried to do some coaching for the guys I had hope for. Unfortunately, these qualities, if not a natural part of a person's personality, can be acted. Then you may end up with a guy that is lost in the bedroom, and everywhere. Every successful mmf we had, started with a guy who had a natural way of dealing with people that made everyone comfortable. That comfort always translated to the bedroom. Be careful with that list, best to keep some secrets.

Male response here: Depends WAS it better? If yes how and why? If it was just better this time I would say your "frisky" response was adequate. THIS time it really worked for you. Next time maybe not. This has nothing to do with your husbands ability and would not be a problem with me. IF this is a big issue for you in that you truly prefer this guy. or IF this guy is just generally superior in some way your husband can not or will not match, then there is need for an honest , all cards face up discussion. I could probably deal with a bigger equipment issue more easily than "I like him better" If you are happy with your husband and could walk away from the other guy for keeps then an honest and functional answer would be " He rocked my world this time. You guys really got me worked up."

I have had fantasies about sex with other men. I had a dream once about my wife and I on a charter sailboat with another couple (the captain and crew) and after a few days of close quarter we started with some soft swapping, then progressed and finally us guys gave each other oral. I have often thought it would be fun to give another guys a blow job, and would not have a problem receiving one. I also enjoy anal, so another fantasy is to have a guy fuck me while his wife gives me a blow job. I have had my wife do this to me with a dildo and it feels great. To me it would just be sex. However, the thought of kissing another guy kind of grosses me out. Same with my wife. We have watched some bi porn together and the sex part is OK, but when the guys kiss we both don't like it. That does seem a little funny, that I could suck a guys cock but be grossed out at the thought of kissing him. Any other guys interest in bi play feel the same about kissing other guys?