Leaderboard

That is why we go on the Bliss cruise. Speed dating on a boat.

Whew! I'm so grateful for all of your posts, as I learned so much leading up to our first time. All I can say is, what on earth took me so long!? My partner and I are a relatively new couple, only 4 years in, but we've known each other on and off since we were children. He has been in the lifestyle for 20 years, but has been monogamish with me since we've been together. It became very clear, very early on, that he would prefer for us to have a sexually diverse future together. Having just come out of a poly marriage, I was hesitant. I mean, I had every excuse in the book. I had no interest in another cock, I had no interest in eating pussy, I was slightly terrified that it would tear us apart like it did my marriage, that I couldn't handle it, that my cellulite is gross, that we were too early on in our relationship, that we would contract some horrific STD, that I would burst into tears mid-fuckery...all of it. We're so spoiled rotten with the hot sex that we have daily, why, WHYYYY did we need to do this!? He gently listened through all the freakouts, while still encouraging me to manage our AFF account and 'just talk to people'. So in the end, it was me who ended up making the plans. Smart man, keeping his ass in line so nothing could come back on him if it went poorly~ ha! We live in a very small town, with no clubs available, so we ended up planning a weekend at a hotel with perfect strangers. While they were lovely, it did not exactly go smoothly~ an unexpected STD reveal, the dreaded ED, and my not being terribly attracted to the guy even though he was super sweet, intelligent and attractive. That said, it was hot. Having someone have sex on the same bed as us, us women playing, and quite frankly, to see my man with another woman was out of control sexy. To add all sorts of whipped cream on top, the woman joined us on her own the following day which was...oh my. Anywho~ what I learned is this. I am desperately in love with this man, and he is hopelessly in love with me. Now that we have officially begun swinging, I can say with the utmost certainty that we are even stronger. To be able to express our desires without fear, to push past hurdles with clear communication, and to truly be on the same team is so fucking cool. I felt so cared for during our time with this other couple. His glances at me, checking in. The squeeze of my hand while he was passionately kissing another woman...and oh dear god the sex we've had for days afterwards. I'm sure there are all sorts of nightmare stories, and we are lucky to have had a great first experience. I do have to say, I am damn proud of myself for deciding to jump in. It has awoken a part of me that I didn't realize existed. It has enriched my relationship with my partner, and opened up a whole new world of passion and desire. Because hell if any of us should deny ourselves conscious and respectful pleasure. The only reason not to, is fear. Fuck fear.

My current comfort level is much like your wife's. I started out wearing sexy clothes when hubby and I would go out, and over a few years that progressed to me wearing very revealing outfits that might "accidentally" result in a flash (no bra or panties, etc). Frankly, I get a bit of a sexual charge from other men noticing, and so does my husband. We also vacation in the Caribbean where topless beaches are the norm. It took me a little while to get up the nerve to go topless with a regular bikini, and now I have a couple of Wicked Weasel barely there bottoms that I wear. It is sexy and fun for us. Now that we are dipping our toes into the lifestyle, we are still discussing limits with which we both agree. I have gotten to the point where I am bi-curious, and would love to be with a woman while being watched. It hasn't happened yet, but we went to one club party so far, and enjoyed the vibe. We are taking it slowly. Your wife may be doing the same. It does seem to be an evolutionary process for some.

Many couples take incremental steps into swinging. Some go the full route and end up with full swaps. Others will not go beyond the first step which is their comfort level. We know some couples that like to get with other couples for sexy fun but don't exchange partners nor allow kissing of others. And another couple that we met and became good friends with. But she would not play in the same room we were in because she "knew" us. And yet, she will go to a club and have her husband screw her brains out while others watch because they are all strangers. My point is, take it to where you and her are both comfortable with. And be glad she feels adventurous enough to do what she does. There are so many other couples out there that would gladly trade their pure vanilla life for a little of what you two do together. It may never go further than that or she may surprise you some day. Mine surprised me on one trip and said she was ready for full swap. We have never looked back...that was a couple of years ago.

Hubby and I went to a Halloween party at a local club. It was fun dressing up and meeting people, but I was not prepared, and may have inadvertently offended a nice, attractive young lady. We arrived at the club, and met some nice folks. It was going to be a busy night, and one of the regulars offered a tour, which we gratefully accepted. During the course of the tour, he introduced us to the owner of the club, who was also very gracious and welcoming. After the tour, we decided to reserve one of the remaining tables, in view of the growing crowd and minimal open seating near the dance floor. After an hour or so, an attractive woman in her mid-30s came to our table and introduced herself. She said right off that she was a unicorn, and had accompanied another couple to the party (they were all cutely dressed in a matching theme). She said that she had noticed me and my husband, and wanted to get to know us better. We chatted for a while, and told her that we were newbies, and we're just here to check out the vibe and get a feel for the place. She told us about her history in the lifestyle, and commented that she knew how we felt as first timers. After visiting for a while, we thanked her for the meeting and she headed back to her friends. 10-15 minutes later, she came back and asked me to dance. I was admittedly a bit surprised, and looked at my husband. He smiled and said "why not?" I then joined her for a dance. It was fun, but was the first time that I had ever danced with a woman, especially with both of us dressed provocatively. I enjoyed it, and admittedly encountered some new to me sexual excitement. After the dance, she joined us again at our table. We chatted further, and she shared some more about herself with us, and her experiences with other couples. She asked me if I would like to join her in one of the activity rooms just to talk and get to know each other better. I appreciated her candor, and told her again that we were enjoying ourselves at the party, but wanted to just watch and take things slowly for now. After a bit more conversation, she excused herself to return to her friends. She came by a bit later with another nice lady in tow, and asked me to join them on the dance floor. I politely declined. After that dance, she came back to our table again, this time sitting across from my husband. We chatted again for a while, and she asked him if we would like her phone number. My husband politely declined, telling her that we hoped to see her again at a future party to get to know her better, but we were not yet ready to exchange contact information. She then said that she loved his Scottish Highlander costume (kilt and all) and asked him if she could sit in his lap. We had as a couple agreed that tonight was "look and talk only", so he politely declined. She then asked for and received hugs from us before saying that she looked forward to seeing us again soon. I told my husband that I had never been approached by a woman before, and frankly was not prepared for it. It was very flattering, though. It gives me a lot to think about. When hubby and I were talking about things on the way home, he asked me how it felt to be approached by someone of the same sex. I told him that it was interesting, and although I am somewhat bi-curious, I wasn't ready to do anything about it yet. I guess that time will tell.

As a guy who enjoys sucking dick, its more about the look of the head,shaft and balls than it is about size. That being said, I like it long enough to reach that spot in my throat and short enough that i can bury my nose in his pubics. Between 6 and 8 inches and circumsized.

We did use lube. The other man playing with her made a comment of her pussie being tight during the foreplay and oral sex. She was little more comfortable when she rode him as she could control the trust and penetration. However, she could not properly enjoy in this position also. This is when she stopped. I really appreciate her call.

So I read this and all I can think about is OUCH OUCH OUCH...but for the sake of curiosity I asked hubby if he ever thought about it and to my shock he said he thought about that just last week If I liked the guy enough I'd give it a try but he would have to know how to use it (in other words probably hold back and not hurt me )