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Settling in to our condo at the clothing-optional resort:

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It sounds to me like you've got an amazing wife and an incredibly strong marriage. You did the right thing by ending it and by doing that you may very well have strengthened the trust and respect you and your wife have for and in each other. Lesson learned and with that in mind give your wife the attention and admiration she deserves. I suspect it won't take long for the two of you to regroup and find a better fit.

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My first thought would be someone calling me a cunt even though it doesn’t really bother me. I have personally referred to someone as a cunt if they are nasty. I don’t know why people get so upset with that and not pussy. Why did cunt become the dirtiest word? I’m a Jersey girl and also heard it all and said it all. Attitude counts more than words. Nobody like someone who is in love with himself. You think you are the gift to women? I say fuck off. Attitude can also be sexy. I think it is depending on the situation. In the right setting I can be a slut or act like one. If we meet someone who needs me to be a slut to get them excited I will be a slut. Two things do bother me. Don’t hit me. You hit me and you will regret it. Your balls are vulnerable and a target. I also don’t like when I’m called a bitch. I’m not a dog! Strange, you can call be a fucking slutty cunt, just don’t call be a fucking bitch.

The first time we swapped (same room) I was playing with the other wife and was in process of pushing my dick in, at the same time I looked over at my wife and her play partner had just went balls deep on the first thrust. The look on her face was too much and I blew my load before I was able to fully insert.

It should not be difficult, we can guide you

That everyone could be open about it without having to worry about your job, the kids school, etc.

Why can't we do both?

My wife and I have developed feelings for sex play partners, her "strong" feelings even. We believe it's a good thing actually to care about the people that you're fucking, and it's never diminished the love we have for one another. Besides, those feelings fade after a while. Fire can be useful, as can be playing alone. It's easier for two people to get together than three or four, and part of the variety.

My current comfort level is much like your wife's. I started out wearing sexy clothes when hubby and I would go out, and over a few years that progressed to me wearing very revealing outfits that might "accidentally" result in a flash (no bra or panties, etc). Frankly, I get a bit of a sexual charge from other men noticing, and so does my husband. We also vacation in the Caribbean where topless beaches are the norm. It took me a little while to get up the nerve to go topless with a regular bikini, and now I have a couple of Wicked Weasel barely there bottoms that I wear. It is sexy and fun for us. Now that we are dipping our toes into the lifestyle, we are still discussing limits with which we both agree. I have gotten to the point where I am bi-curious, and would love to be with a woman while being watched. It hasn't happened yet, but we went to one club party so far, and enjoyed the vibe. We are taking it slowly. Your wife may be doing the same. It does seem to be an evolutionary process for some.

Recommend you start out however you both are comfortable. For our first visit to a swing club we agreed on just soft swap, no penetration. We had a great time watching, listening, and playing with two couples that night. Two weeks later we returned to the club with the same agreed upon rules. But, we met a very nice, compatible couple, started soft play with them, and after about 45 minutes the guy asked my gal if he could fuck her. She looked at me and raised her eyebrows, passing the question to me. After a thousand thoughts went quickly through my head, I nodded, "Yes," and she grabbed his shoulders, pulling him into her. That was ten years ago. No regrets!

Yes we love to host parties for our friends. The key here is never a party open to the public and we invite those we have met and or spoken with over time while keeping the numbers limited to what we have space for. If it's a playu party we make it clear what time to arrive, what time we expect everyone to be naked by and what time the party ends. If we don't know their real names we don't ivite then.

Ah well playing around one day we lost a plum. I couldn't understand why it just didn't pop right back out. I had no idea women didn't have any muscle control "in there". It's been over 20 years and we still laugh about that one. (no plums were harmed in making this story)