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Well, yes, sex with one person can get hum-drum, and swinging spices it up. By being excited about being with other people, you then get excited about being with each other. New people bring new techniques, you then carry those to the marital bed. Having said that, a swinger who isn't happy with their own partner probably won't be happy in a swinging relationship.

I would not recommend baby oil as lube. https://www.healthline.com/health/baby-oil-as-lube#1 Ms A uses Yes water based lube in the pre-filled applicators, they make getting the lube where she needs it without resorting to a lube shooter. https://www.yesyesyes.org/products/water-based-natural-lubricant-applicators/ D

KY liquid is our choice no odor and neither of us minds the taste.

My goto is KY liquid. Surprisingly not sticky when it dries.

My first thought would be someone calling me a cunt even though it doesn’t really bother me. I have personally referred to someone as a cunt if they are nasty. I don’t know why people get so upset with that and not pussy. Why did cunt become the dirtiest word? I’m a Jersey girl and also heard it all and said it all. Attitude counts more than words. Nobody like someone who is in love with himself. You think you are the gift to women? I say fuck off. Attitude can also be sexy. I think it is depending on the situation. In the right setting I can be a slut or act like one. If we meet someone who needs me to be a slut to get them excited I will be a slut. Two things do bother me. Don’t hit me. You hit me and you will regret it. Your balls are vulnerable and a target. I also don’t like when I’m called a bitch. I’m not a dog! Strange, you can call be a fucking slutty cunt, just don’t call be a fucking bitch.

Whew! I'm so grateful for all of your posts, as I learned so much leading up to our first time. All I can say is, what on earth took me so long!? My partner and I are a relatively new couple, only 4 years in, but we've known each other on and off since we were children. He has been in the lifestyle for 20 years, but has been monogamish with me since we've been together. It became very clear, very early on, that he would prefer for us to have a sexually diverse future together. Having just come out of a poly marriage, I was hesitant. I mean, I had every excuse in the book. I had no interest in another cock, I had no interest in eating pussy, I was slightly terrified that it would tear us apart like it did my marriage, that I couldn't handle it, that my cellulite is gross, that we were too early on in our relationship, that we would contract some horrific STD, that I would burst into tears mid-fuckery...all of it. We're so spoiled rotten with the hot sex that we have daily, why, WHYYYY did we need to do this!? He gently listened through all the freakouts, while still encouraging me to manage our AFF account and 'just talk to people'. So in the end, it was me who ended up making the plans. Smart man, keeping his ass in line so nothing could come back on him if it went poorly~ ha! We live in a very small town, with no clubs available, so we ended up planning a weekend at a hotel with perfect strangers. While they were lovely, it did not exactly go smoothly~ an unexpected STD reveal, the dreaded ED, and my not being terribly attracted to the guy even though he was super sweet, intelligent and attractive. That said, it was hot. Having someone have sex on the same bed as us, us women playing, and quite frankly, to see my man with another woman was out of control sexy. To add all sorts of whipped cream on top, the woman joined us on her own the following day which was...oh my. Anywho~ what I learned is this. I am desperately in love with this man, and he is hopelessly in love with me. Now that we have officially begun swinging, I can say with the utmost certainty that we are even stronger. To be able to express our desires without fear, to push past hurdles with clear communication, and to truly be on the same team is so fucking cool. I felt so cared for during our time with this other couple. His glances at me, checking in. The squeeze of my hand while he was passionately kissing another woman...and oh dear god the sex we've had for days afterwards. I'm sure there are all sorts of nightmare stories, and we are lucky to have had a great first experience. I do have to say, I am damn proud of myself for deciding to jump in. It has awoken a part of me that I didn't realize existed. It has enriched my relationship with my partner, and opened up a whole new world of passion and desire. Because hell if any of us should deny ourselves conscious and respectful pleasure. The only reason not to, is fear. Fuck fear.

Swinging will never save a boring or bad relationship. Instead it is the sprinkles on top of the sundae of a great relationship. It will magnify the faults of a weak relationship just like it magnifies the strength of a great one. If you are looking to save a relationship by swinging, you are looking in the wrong place. Swinging is entirely built upon love trust and communication. If any of those three are weak or lacking, then jealousy, lies and deception is given the change to undermine the foundation. Swinging isn't a cure all. Sure, it may seem like a way to jump start an old relationship but this usually doesn't fix any of the other problems and just quickens the end.

It can get boring having sex with other people, especially if they are not as attractive or proficient as one’s own wife. But generally, it’s a charge to play with other women.

If you have children and family underfoot for the holidays, it can cramp your play time. Otherwise, the club Xmas and NYE parties are fun and well attended. In our case, we're both off work for two weeks so there has been a definite uptick in our own love life plus, we've had some opportunities with good friends AND we've been invited to a house party tomorrow and another for NYE. We've turned down a couple of invitations as well due to vanilla commitments during the holiday season. So no, in our experience, swinging isn't "taboo" during the holidays.

I've always felt that a gal can handle two guys much more effectively than a guy can handle two women. For the threesome to be two women and a guy, it should be with two bisexual women. Hey, just my opinion!

The wife met a guy at a bar from SLS. This is the first time she's met anyone alone, so I was a bit nervous. Our unicorn helped her get ready for the date. I told her if he acts weird in any way, call me or tell someone from the bar to walk her to her car. So they had drinks and apps, then i got a text that they were heading to the backseat! She came home shorty after and handed me her bra and panties...then told me all the hot details of how they played in the parking lot! All in all I would say it was a success.