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Did you guys move too fast? Probably. But don't worry, this seems like it can get resolved fairly easily. To reiterate, you guys had your hopes set on an FMF. So you moved on and entered the world of hotwifing. You seem cool with this, and you allow her to have her fun, sometimes with you present, others by herself. The biggest problem I see is that she invited you into an MFM and you were non-committal. I would suspect that this left her feeling confused. She's trying to please you in the new dynamic and you're not being upfront. To fix this, you both need to have some long talks. You need to decide what you want, what you'll settle for. Are you happy with her going out without you? Yes, finding a single guy for her is pretty easy, finding suitable couples is more problematic, and finding a unicorn is well nigh impossible. But that's not a reason to settle. Go to work on finding a solution that you as well as she will be happy with long term. And if her playing with guys without you is not to your liking, ask her to slow down.

Can you better explain what you mean by this? Do you mean cannot control them, cannot control yourself, the whole situation seems to be getting out of hand and dangerous like the other guy is getting too pushy, or ?

I just wanted yo tell you how incredibly helpful your comments were . They made sense to me the way you expressed them. Thank you

Hi all , I just wanted to update you . We have parted ways after his comment : ‘I'm a swinger. I want a partner that is or no partner at all’

Hi all New to this site, just joined. I only found out the name of how I am after 30 odd years. I am 52, always loved watching my husband around woman, he is a natural flirt anyway, but I get so turned on by him enjoying himself, that I asked if he wouldn't mind asking a woman to sleep with him while I watched. When it happened for the first time, it was a dream come true, and after all this time it is still the same. However, I would like a regular lady, we did have a girlfriend whom was my friend in a social way, but was more of my husbands friend in a bedroom way, however, she has since met someone else and has settled down. We have joined all sorts of sites to find that one exclusive lady but its a nightmare and you get people thinking your weird to playing games and winding you up, this is not for us, we are genuine. Not sure if anyone else can help us here, or direct us to where there is an interest for this sort of life style, but I have been researching now for about 5 years and its just negative after negative. My husband did meet another lady recently, but after the first time of me watching, she thought it was strange me allowing my husband to play with another woman, so we never saw her again. This is the biggest issue we have found, and to be honest, still after all these years I do not know how to approach it. I am an attractive 52 year old and my husband is an attractive 55 year old. Any genuine help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Controlling is not considered an asset by most swingers. For us, this hobby is liberating. We have minimal rules with which we both abide. If we invite another male, he'll know those rules at the outset. If HE ignores them the evening ends.

Night stand, underwear drawer, or under the pillows

Good for you! Smart girl.

In any threesome there will be a moment when one feels left out. This should be understood by the partners at the outset, but does not always happen. Even when a couple has set boundaries, e.g., no playing unless I'm right there, people can cross the line especially if they have less experience. Don't get upset if this happens because it happens. Why is it necessary to control the other two people? Let things flow, let your fellow players enjoy themselves. Your turn will come. Don't spoil the moment. Share your feelings later.

The easiest way is to talk with her. Ask her what her fantasies are and be ready to tell her yours. Work on increasing and improving the big three: love trust and communication. Take your time but see if she is interested in making any of her fantasies come true (some women aren't) and if she is, start with some of the easier ones and work your way forward. Try buying her some sexy clothes and ask her to wear them (somewhere safe like out of town so she won't worry about being seen). She's been a 'mom' for the last 18+ years...it's time you reminded her that she is also a sexy woman and it's okay for her to let that woman out. Good luck and let us know how things go...

Us too. Mrs twoy4you does keep her bullet in the night stand on her side of the bed, but everything else is in the hope chest at the end of the bed.