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If swinging was easy, everyone would do it! We gave up on finding the perfect couple a long time ago recognizing eventually just how hard it is to find four people who share a mutual attraction. We have had dates where we thought everyone was good to go only to be more or less blown off when trying to make a play date. I always assume it's me because Mrs Doc is just so damned attractive that I can't imagine anyone wouldn't want to get naked with her. Whatever the reason, we've come to understand that we are part of THEIR selection process as much as they are subject to ours. If we don't make the cut, we simply accept it and move on with no hard feelings. If we don't click with a couple, we don't go into details as to why, we'll simply say that our calendar is full for several weeks since many swinger couples seem to lose interest without near instant gratification. Or, if we feel it necessary to be more blunt, we'll say, "we're just not a match." One thing we have learned is that it's not easy to reject people who think that as a couple, we're worthy of getting naked with them and sharing sex. Golf is probably an easier hobby!

While we may feel a bit letdown, particularly if we've emailed back and forth a few times, we just figure it's part of life. Just as there are people who are not our cup of tea, we realize that sometimes people find out we're not exactly what they had in mind either. And sometimes, people simply change their minds (and may be a little less than completely honest about it.) Chalk it up, move on . . .

And it's not just watching the penetration. I love watching her flirt, seduce, be seduced, see who is going to move in for the kiss first, who is going to make the first sensual touch. I like anticipating her putting her hand on his leg and slowly sliding it up waiting for him to get hard so she can feel the fruits of her seduction. I like hearing him ask her permission to touch her breasts. I like seeing her go through all the other mental and physical foreplay preliminaries of her getting herself and the other guy turned on and worked up. Watching the culmination of all that is the icing on a very erotic cake. At a very basic level it also reinforces, for both of us, what I tell her all the time. That she is an attractive, sexy, passionate woman that any guy would be lucky to spend that kind of time with. She's just too damn good not to share!

Agreed. Nothing is more erotic than watching another man mount her and the second his cock enters her, all barriers are down and it is like watching a great art work unfold.

I always assume that I am the weak link because my wife is very attractive and is in the top 1% of people our age in physical condition. I am a little less in shape, but ok for our age group. We also use the vague “ we are not a match” on the internet. We’re busy followed by radio silence may be as effective and less hurtful. My personal fave is when the other husband says he is interested in my wife, but his wife does not find me to be of interest. We’ve had that one two or three times. We’ve also twice been invited to a house party, accepted the invitation, then we’re advised that we were uninvited. Doubt it happens in golf.

I am totally onboard with this concept. Although we have looked for couples,l and that I would participate, I tell my wife that my biggest turn on is watching her being pleasured and giving pleasure to another man.

The bottom of my underwear drawer. Nowhere special.

I applied for one of the dinners, included a photo and SLS info. I was accepted but then somehow they didn’t receive my picture and wanted another. My mail history showed clearly the photo had been sent. It didn’t feel right so I passed. What is notable is no one from this board has ever said they went and it was good. The couple in the podcast - did they pay for it or was it comped as publicity? Maybe it depends upon the source.

We just put everything in a couple drawers in the night stand next to the bed. Nothing too special really.