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Our view: a response is always better than no response. Our view: no explanation is ever necessary. ("Thanks for reaching out. We are not a match. Good luck in the journey.") Our view: explanations are more likely to cause unnecessary distress. The only exception is where a remark might point the rejectee (is that a word?) in a more useful direction. ("Your profile suggests that you are looking for a long-term relationship, FWB. Unfortunately, we don't have that kind of time or emotion to invest in this hobby." or "We are only looking for FWB and a couple we can see regularly. You seem to have a new cert every three weeks. Not the sort of relationship we're looking for.") Telling a couple that one member of the couple is uninteresting, unattractive, whatever is unnecessarily destructive. That said, the problem lies with the person who writes this sort of thing, not the recipient.

Although I had engaged in threesomes more than once before (MMF, FFM, FFF), as well as a couple of orgies when younger and single, I'd never actual tried swinging; let alone when married. My husband had only had threesomes (a couple of times when married to me), but never more. After being married a few years and already a couple of kids, we were curious about swinging and started to look into it, but didn't really get into much online before stumbling upon a couple we met through my son's preschool of all things. They had two young children like us as well and we hit it off with them, building a very friendly relationship, with plenty of get-togethers like BBQs, coffee times, date nights to movies and the like. Over time it was clear there was more to our relationship than just friendship. My husband was constantly checking the other wife out (we'll call her Tina, not that you'd ever know who she really was! LOL) and her husband (Andy) was doing the same with me (and, yes, us girls were very flattered and reciprocated- it really feels good being noticed after having a couple of kids! LOL). Tina and I also had some sparks between us, as we had similar tastes in clothing (both pretty feminine/girly girl types) and a woman's form (I am bisexual and was openly so then, too). So over time we started drinking more together at one or the others' place (kids always babysat, if you're wondering!) and doing things like dancing (and, increasingly, swapping partners for that, plus sometimes the wives would dance while the men watched and, yes, it was getting more sensual and, even, a bit lewd). We eventually started playing games like strip poker, jokingly played spin the bottle, truth or dare, and other silly games that might lead to some more naughty results. One night, we all had a lot to drink and the tension in the air could be cut with a knife, when Andy made the first move and slide his hand up my thigh and under the skirts of my dress, then kissed me. I looked a bit shocked but also smiled and looked over to my husband and Tina, who were clearly enjoying the show, so I kissed back and deeper, putting my hand on his thigh and hitching up my skirts a bit more, legs a bit more open too. He saw this as his invitation and slide his hand well up my dress as we kissed. Tina then turned to my husband and kissed him, while running her hand over his crotch. So then things really took off. Soon Tina was on her knees fellating my husband who was running his fingers through her hair with one hand and the other in her blouse playing with one of her breasts, which he'd pulled from her bra. Andy had 2 fingers buried in my puss as this was happening and our kissing got more intense, my legs wider and skirts hiked up much more. In time, Andy had his head up my skirts licking my wet puss, my legs wrapped around him, as I squirmed and moaned. By then, my hubby was behind Tina, her skirt to her hips and panties to her knees, as she was on all fours, her breasts now fully dangling freely below her as he fingered her with one hand and felt her breasts up with the other. She was still lactating after the birth of her second, so he was basically milking her a bit, too. There was so much moaning, sighing, gasping and the like then, and the air was filled with our scents. LOL After fingering and licking Tina to orgasm, my husband then filled her wit his cock and truly pounded her from behind. It was such a beautiful sight seeing her jerking and her breasts swaying, as she grunted and moaned. Andy could tell I was excited by what I saw and told me to kiss her, so I went to her and did that as my husband fucked her. She had such a sweet mouth and she was so eager to kiss me, our tongues played for what seemed like forever. As I kissed her and kneaded one of her breasts, Andy got behind me and filled me like Tina was filled and soon there were two girls grunting, gasping, and moaning. When our husbands were ready to cum, we each licked and sucked their cocks together: two wives enjoying each cock on their own. Our faces and breasts were covered by their cum (and our mouths had some, too). It was glorious! After our men were spent, us girls got together and enjoyed one another, kissing, feeling/licking/sucking breasts, fingering one another, scissoring a bit, then ending in a 69 position that was a beautiful time. When we orgasmed again, we all cuddled together, the wives together with Andy close to me on one side and my husband on Tina's side. We were so content and knew this wasn't the last time we'd do this. I later found out Tina had limited experience with girls, but did experiment a bit in high school and college, but nothing significant and she never considered herself bi. That changed after being with me during our swinging sessions. LOL We were regular from then on and still see them from time to time as part of our little group of swinging couples, early 15 years later (and we have done a fair bit more than we did that first time! LOL).

First you need to get your marriage worked out. Swinging will put additional stress on any problems you are having. You mentioned your husband wanted sex to be more adventurous, did he mean swinging or for the two of you to do sex acts you aren’t doing? Have you asked him if he wants to swing and if he does who does he want to swing with? Does he just want your blessing to not be monogamous? Are you sure he is monogamous? I would say marital problems must be solved before going forward. Friends. You will most likely get responses to not play with friends. There are plenty of posts telling you about all that can go wrong with having sex with friends. You have to weigh if those comments can apply to you. For me it was a friend who expanded my sexual horizons. I was a heterosexual monogamous woman living with a great man. It was a close friend who I had in college who introduced me to another side of my sexuality. This friend and my new found sexuality did put stress on my relationship at first. Jealousy reared it’s head. The stress briefly caused a breakup at home and great conversation brought back together and to marriage. Our original play was with people who lived ours from us. We were able to separate our everyday life to our play life. At my husband’s suggestion we brought his best friend into our play. For me having sex with someone I know and like and who I can enjoy outside of the bedroom is so much more fun than being with someone who I have no connection with. I think a friend can be a great partner to play with.

Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement!! It’s truly helping us on this journey I’ll post updates as we progress!

I also loved watching my wife as she engaged with a man. She wasn't bi, so there wasn't any point in an FMF threesome, or me sitting out while the other three had fun. I did enjoy being with the other wife when we had a foursome. As a result we sometimes had foursomes or moresomes, and my wife and I had MFM threesomes where I would watch for awhile and then join in or not at my and her option. It worked for us.

No jealous issues and we'd like to try a couple

It's a little late now but obey and follow your rules and limits, go with no preconceived expectations other than having a great night out with your SO, and have fun. The hardest part is walking thru the door and it gets easier from there. Now, how about an update?

They probably did want more to happen, but they already knew your limits and respected them...I don't see what the problem was. It's OKAY to have limits, in fact you NEED to have limits (although they will probably change as time goes on). You current relationship is more important that what another couple MAY want; limits allow you to experiment and see how things go without really threatening the relationship. That they respected your wishes is a good thing, don't feel bad about it, feel great that they are interested enough to wait for you to maybe someday be ready for what they (may or may not, you don't really even know) want. Either way, you have already been there and are back by now. How did it go? What happened?

This hobby involves some risk regardless. There are three ways to nearly eliminate the possibility of STD's. 1. Abstinence. 2. Sex only with spouse (presuming he/she isn't cheating) or 3. Refine your selection process.