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I have pursued for several years at various house parties one particular married woman. She has always beeen happy to chat with me but has politely deflected any of my invitations for play. Well, this weekend just past, I achieved a breakthrough. During a casual conversation among eight people around a game table, the question of who watches the television series "Nova" came up. This woman of my long-time interest brightens and says, "yes, it was about Einstein and Quantum Entanglement". I replied that I had not seen the TV program but wish that I had seen as I have long been fascinated by the concept of quantum entanglement. My "person of interest number one" seems to loose interest in the game and wants to talk to me about quantum physics. I should pause to give you some background. This person displays in no way the look of a librarian or a stereotypical image of a scientist. She is tall, her body has never suffered the insults of childbirth, and she has the musculature of a classic Greek statue. She ultimately takes me by my hand and leads me to a bedroom. Her stature allows me to experience things I had never before experienced. As we stand facing each other, her small, brown nipples are exactly at the height above the floor for me to put my mouth over either of them without having to crouch down. The location where her two long legs meet at the top means that I can enter her either while standing in front of her or from behind -- I have been able to do this with no other woman. We had great fun. Neither of us had met any other lifestyle people with whom we would have been able to have an intelligent conversation about quantum entanglement. I like to think of our encounter as the Revenge of the Nerds.

What constitutes a "beginning?" Laura and I talked about the concept of extra-marital sex for two years before we got married and another year before our first swap. We were in line at a fast-serve pizza place when Laura complimented a lady on her earrings. The four of us sat together to eat. They were fun, attractive and good conversationalists. After dinner, bills paid, we were getting ready to leave, saying how much we'd enjoyed our meeting and "Hope we run into each other again." Laura asked, "How do y'all feel about mate-sharing?" An hour later Laura was doing Rick in our bedroom and I was doing Jo on our couch.

Good work! My intellectual capacity far exceeds my physical attributes. Recently, a play partner said she was attracted to me by my intelligence. Wow. Just got another SLS message tonight “I am attracted to your wife but my wife is not attracted to your husband (me).” Just for my image, I am 61, but I think I am above average in looks in a studious way. On behalf of nerds everywhere, we salute you. BTW, do you remember in Revenge of the Nerds when Betty thought Louis in a Darth Vader outfit was her boyfriend and he blew out her circuits? The secret super power of nerds.

We usually just say we are not a match. So as to not hurt anyone’s feelings. We’ve received quite a few of their husband would do our wife, but their wife is not interested in our husband. Ouch! Lately, some people just don’t respond. I used to think this was rude, but it hurts less than a rejection. Thoughts? Can’t be a snowflake in swinging?

Several years ago we met a couple on a cruise and we traded spouses in separate rooms. Our first, they said theirs too. I had a great time and we have kept our friendship up, going on other trips with them. That first trip the husband’s pushed us to have girl on girl fun. I hated it. Not for me. We have visited them a few times, they have become more of a swinger couple than we are. We have played at some parties they have had and had limited girl play. Even with men I prefer being alone and not have sex for others to watch. Over Christmas they came to visit us. We do play together though at night we still switch and go to separate rooms. When we are all together there is some play between me and my friend. Kissing and touching and her doing more than I will. One night the men wanted to go to a game in the city and we didn’t want to. We stayed home. It led to my first time alone with her. I will say not being watched helped.

Hello fellow memebers! We just wanted to introduce ourselves to all of you lovely people. My wife and I will be posting separately since I feel it’s best not to share one profile. We both have our own voices and opinions. We’re completely new to this and if all goes well, we’ll be attending our first house party next Saturday. We’re excited and eager to get our toes wet and also really looking forward to meeting new people, making new friends and getting to know all of you. We look forward to conversing with all of you!

My big regret is my first time with a woman I was not with my husband. My first threesome was with a friend and a guy she was friends with.

We would have responded that "We find his wife pleasant, kind and intelligent but we find her husband is a stupid, insensitive ass".

Sounds great, what time should we be there?

It is where I find reality.

We are noted for our hospitality. Here is the game plan. Serve wine, cheese, grapes and apps. Nothing spicy, nothing gassy. BS for an hour. Have your lair prepared. Have condoms, lube, wet wipes nearby. Mouthwash in bathrooms. After an hour of shooting the breeze, lure the other couple to your lair. Fool around. We go out to dinner afterwards. As a friend told us, have sex first, have dinner later. You don’t want food sloshing around during sex.

We don’t contact people on line. If we did I think I would handle rejecting someone tactfully. Rejecting someone face to face is very difficult for me. I hate hurting people. There have been occasions where I was approached by someone who I was not attracted to with physically or their attitude. It is harder to reject someone based on appearance. I feel so superficial. If I am approached by a loudmouth obnoxious person I still try to reject by just saying No or I’m not interested. I did have to tell one guy No, you’re a jerk, and then I felt bad.

Love this episode! Sapiosexuals at their best!

What an absolutely wonderful memory!

for our first time we thought we would keep it soft swap, we graduated to full swap that same night. we had a planned meeting at a hotel.

Our view: a response is always better than no response. Our view: no explanation is ever necessary. ("Thanks for reaching out. We are not a match. Good luck in the journey.") Our view: explanations are more likely to cause unnecessary distress. The only exception is where a remark might point the rejectee (is that a word?) in a more useful direction. ("Your profile suggests that you are looking for a long-term relationship, FWB. Unfortunately, we don't have that kind of time or emotion to invest in this hobby." or "We are only looking for FWB and a couple we can see regularly. You seem to have a new cert every three weeks. Not the sort of relationship we're looking for.") Telling a couple that one member of the couple is uninteresting, unattractive, whatever is unnecessarily destructive. That said, the problem lies with the person who writes this sort of thing, not the recipient.