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Update on my dilemma. Thanks for the comments and posts. So my beautiful wife and I finally had a very honest and open conversation. Long story short, come to find out she actually admitted to slightly pulling away due to her excitement and how I was going to react. We both agreed that this honest talk should have come way before we started our venture. We also both shared our fantasies. But also realize the difference between fantasy and reality. Biggest conclusion was having an honest and open conversation with no repercussion, Understanding what’s most important in OUR lives. Followed by some amazing sex!! Thanks again for everyone’s comments! FYI: I have a birthday coming up and she promised me a bday to remember.

Look into obgyn chairs, we have one that is super adjustable and swivels, it has foot pedals on the base that turn on a hydraulic pump that let's you go up or down and also tilt front to back for that perfect height and angle. We also added restraints to it. There are pics in our a little fun album on our profile.

Kissing is a big part of getting turned on for both of us. We're physically affectionate and like a lot of skin-to-skin contact. I'm not saying there's been kissing every time, but a rule against it would never work. Mrs. E swallows. She's chronically neat and tidy and that's the fastest way to dispose of the mess, and she was clear that she'd be swallowing if we went through with this. If it's landing anywhere else, that needs to be discussed in advance. The anticipation of men cumming on her makes her giggly-nervous, which is very cute but she needs a second to psych herself up.

Made my own tantra chair shown w/o padding

I checked out the photo in your profile (well, all of them as long as I was there ) and the chair looks great. What a happy piece of furniture to have in your home. (I assume you have it somewhere that you don’t have awkward moments when vanilla friends and relatives are visiting...)

At a swinger club. We ended up becoming friends with the owner, we told him if he was ever interested in selling it let us know. When he shut it down he offered to sell it and we jumped at the chance. You can find them online, Craigslist for example, but we haven't seen one exactly like ours anywhere else.

Absolutely not. Finding that elusive four way match is not easy, but it CAN be done (we are a perfect example of that, we've been seeing one couple for 5-6+ years) It is either that he is extremely rude or just stupid. He wanted something that you already said you didn't want. It isn't a match...next couple please. Take things at a pace that is good for ALL FOUR involved. There's no reason to rush and if it is a match, then everyone will be willing to move at the speed of the slowest person (one of our golden rules: never move faster than the slowest person is comfortable with). Not a match, but that isn't saying that match isn't out there for the two of you. Keep looking and don't compromise on your standards (it will only lead to regret afterwards). Good luck and let us know how things progress.

We have no rules on kissing or swallowing with a playmate, but one of our male playmates has a no kissing rule. I am a big fan of cumming via intercourse.

We have a couple of bisexual male partners that like this - he will grab their shaft and swirl their head around mynopening until i’m good and wet. I love guiding his cock into a female partner especially if she is riding him reverse cowgirl. I like to suck his cock and taste her pussy while Intease her with the head. When she’s ready i’ll hold his cock in just the right position so she can slide onto him.

I like to have a pillow under my head with my ass up high and my legs wide. This gives the boys plenty of room to work. Getting down low also makes it easier for their big balls to slap my pussy while they are pounding away.

Going out separately in a swinging situation requires a great deal of trust and that trust can only be established with time and experience in this hobby. You two have neither. In my opinion, it was presumptuous for the guy to suggest a 1 on 1 date with your wife knowing you were a new couple and it was flat out disrespectful to continue down that path in spite of your initial refusal. We had met a couple at a M&G and later had a get to know you happy hour with them. I learned later that he had passed a note to Mrs Doc asking that they go out without the spouses. Funny thing, the other wife and I were getting on just fine and a 4-some might well have happened that night. I was surprised when my wife abruptly brought the evening to a close but we had long since established that OUR relationship is primary so I followed her lead. Needless to say we never saw that couple again. As for taking it slow, your relationship is primary as well and you should move as quickly or as slowly as you two decide. No one else gets to tell you how to behave in this hobby particularly since you're contemplating getting naked with other people. Our rule of thumb with a new couple is that we play ONLY to the level of the least comfortable among us. Feel free to adopt it for yourselves. Its served us well for more than 15 years.

I ask before I come in a woman’s mouth. Even if they say yes, I give them a big warning before I come. I would rather come via intercourse. At my age, it’s only going to happen once per night.

We like many have evolved over the years to be more a polyamorous swing couple. Over the years we have had couples or lovers that we share more than sex play. A closer bond. It happens naturally over a length of time if you routinely meet in both social and intimate settings. Every couple and individual in the lifestyle have their limits and preferences. No one set of rules, guidelines or preferences apply to everyone equally or through mutual agreement change over time, depending on who you are with.

Started going there about 10 years ago - haven’t been in a while. Lots of great times there! First time we went, one of the ladies was sitting on top of an ice luge and pouring shot across her pussy. We knew it was going to be a great time!

I've always wanted one of these, but alas, no room for it... https://www.tantrachair.com/

To be made by the one doing the swallowing.

I am a swallower since I was first finding out about sex. it is much more intimate and spitting out spoils the mood.

I too always give a warning. Mrs Doc is a swallower, particularly if she's really in the moment but she also prefers a warning so she can decide if she wants to swallow of have him cum on her boobs. Sometimes its a tough call……..

Damn, I hope it comes with an instruction manual!

What sites are you currently on?