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Its all about communication. We have both been in this situation where the partner we are with wants to go slow. Two weeks ago, the guy and my wife got started very fast. Although we are all undressed, I wasn’t sure if his wife was ready or willing to dive in with me. I put my arm around her and asked if she wanted to watch for a while. I could tell she was relieved. We sat back and watch our spouses enjoying each other and it was great. As she got turned on, she started to rub my cock and things escalated from there. Always good to just go with the flow and never force things.

We have a couple of close friends and she prefers that they ejacukate inside her. They are both much bigger than me. She always wants me to go second when she is loose and full of cum. I like the way her pussy feels after she has been pounded hard. She loves to tease and tell me she can’t feel me and how good their big dicks felt exploding inside her. I’m totally into the humiliation so it’s a turn on. When i am with another woman, I prefer to pull out and ejaculate on her. I tend to shoot some pretty impressive loads so my wife and her friends enjoy watching.

We have friends where we allow cumming inside the girls. My wife absolutely insists on bareback. We met old friends and had unprotected sex a few weeks ago, fantastic. I don't believe We want to go further than these friends. We one had condom swinging experience and it was not too much fun. I love the feeling of shooting inside the girls vagina. We are not suprrswingers, no clubs and orgies, just trusted friends,,

I am responding for other people who may read this post. Aaron’s posts have been confusing to me, sometimes he seems to be joking and only wants other people’s stories. At one point there was a comment about seeking advice by him and he didn’t sound fully comfortable about the situation. I asked for clarification and sure it a nerve. He only wants other people’s stories, perhaps there is another website for cuckhold husbands if someone could direct him. If how he has communicated on this board is reflective of how he communicates with his wife that could explain much of his difficulty. It’s a good example of not communicating clearly, not directly answering a question and deflecting instead.

Swinging isn’t about what “the norm is.” It’s what you and your wife agree to that’s important. With the “lol” it’s hard to gage if you are serious. Some people are fine in your situation, and some would not be interested in being a cuck. I wonder if when trying to express to your wife you are not happy with it are you taking a light tone and she doesn’t take you seriously. C is for communication.

Are you enjoying yourself? Is your wife enjoying herself. Are the other couple enjoying it? If the answer to all three questions is yes (and I think it is from what you wrote,) you're doing it right. Don't worry about expectations. Just have fun.

We prefer MMF. She enjoys watching us masturbate first. It's kind of a test for her - she loves a confident guy that doesn't mind sharing such an intimate act. She also has an orgasms when she sees us ejaculate. If he is smaller she enjoys DV or DP. If he is bigger, she lets him penetrate while I watch or get oral from her.

Amy loves the feel of a man exploding inside her and it's a turn on for me to espically if they are kissing when it happens

We have had quite a few experiences in the short time we have been participating in the LS. One couple we have been with a few times, the husband hangs back and watches for the most part, some participation but mostly seems to enjoy watching things play out (which I can understand, I find watching my wife an incredible turn on, but I like to play too) But they are about on the same ground as us. Slow moving and each time takes some warm up and talk before we dive in. The other couple is very experienced, the husband usually has my wife's attention within a few minutes, and has her undivided attention in just a few more, I love seeing this ,however I am more shy (while clothed) and will sit next to his wife and place a hand on her knee, or just sit close to her, I have given her a back rub to start things off. I don't really know where I am at after 14 years with the same woman. It feels like trying to date again, without the objective of a full relationship . I brought this up the third time they came over, apologized to his wife for being shy. LOL, she said, "hun, you're anything but shy". Her husband said "When you have been swinging for a while, you get a feeling for what people are looking for, and when to do what" Does this seem normal to those in the lifestyle for a while? I can turn on the charm no problem and I am good at making people feel at ease, but that is mostly talking. Maybe it is just because I have been with the same number of people since 2004 until early this month, and am still really new to working my way up. Any thoughts, suggestions? Mr. Dazed

Having even less experience than you (only one LS'ish event) I feel much the same way as you. I have realized that I need to initiate rather than wait to be invited in. This will be a leap for me as I am a bit shy as well and then there is also the whole #metoo that gets in the back of my head (even if everyone is naked).?

I agree with you 100%, but I think the reality of it is that he's not better, just different. What is better for me and my wife is getting multiple partners - more. Variety and in a way, selection; who she wants sex with that fits her needs at a specific time.

Funny, but the couples we swap with it's the women who get together to talk and map out a strategy. Usually they have their clothes off first, are playing with each other, and deciding how to use us for their pleasure. When it comes to sex, having more than one woman telling you what to do is a good thing.

My wife can distinguish between Braxton Hicks contractions and Lorentz contractions.

We have gotten to where we play alone with the people we know well and play with regularly. Usually it's a threesome when one of us is unavailable, but we'll also do twosomes, mostly because it just makes it easier to have more sex. "Spending the night" is fine, we do it with couples swaps mostly. It adds variety and let's the play go places it otherwise wouldn't. And yeah, sometimes there are emotions, but it hasn't caused any problems, our marriage is still as strong.

I always hoped my wife finds the man she is playing with is better than me. If you are playing with someone new, it should be very exciting and better than anyone else at that particular time. I also get really turned on by her really having a great time.

Both my wife and I prefer MFFs and couples swaps because she likes pussy (and so do I.)

My wife and I are very longtime nudists and have both modeled for figure drawing classes. Both of us really enjoyed being models. I never had a problem with getting an erection. I did find being nude in a college classroom very enjoyable. The modeling I did was for an evening figure drawing session open to everyone at a college. Everything was very professional and friendly. The funniest thing that happened to me was when a middle aged woman was sketching in the session where I was modelling. At the break, her teen daughter came in to wait for her mother to finish so they could drive home. Here I am sitting nude on a platform and the girl asked me if I was the model. That was an example of a girl who realized that nudity was not necessarily associated with sex.

Viva la difference. Fat ones, skinny ones, long ones and short ones. To be honest there is an Oh Fuck moment on a large one and no disappointment on a smaller one. For sex give me an average one with a curve.

We don't really have visitors at our place, it's a little out of the way. It is currently in our storage room, that's why all the clutter in the background. We are putting in a dedicated playroom at our new house that we are remodeling.

I like to have a pillow under my head with my ass up high and my legs wide. This gives the boys plenty of room to work. Getting down low also makes it easier for their big balls to slap my pussy while they are pounding away.

Update on my dilemma. Thanks for the comments and posts. So my beautiful wife and I finally had a very honest and open conversation. Long story short, come to find out she actually admitted to slightly pulling away due to her excitement and how I was going to react. We both agreed that this honest talk should have come way before we started our venture. We also both shared our fantasies. But also realize the difference between fantasy and reality. Biggest conclusion was having an honest and open conversation with no repercussion, Understanding what’s most important in OUR lives. Followed by some amazing sex!! Thanks again for everyone’s comments! FYI: I have a birthday coming up and she promised me a bday to remember.

From what I can see, men are more obsessed with dick size than women. I’m also noticing all the big dicks like to post about their size. That is not to say I don’t notice a bigger one and I’m not the only one who notices when I’m a group. Even guys will notice when someone is bigger. Guys will also notice big tits even though so many have said they like smaller boobs. Back to big cocks, I don’t need a big one. It’s more of an attraction that I might want to play with because it’s there. Stroke, play and maybe oral. It’s a visual thing. Having sex with a large one isn’t much different than a smaller one. I think I feel a bigger difference with a wider one than a longer one. I think I might not be as tight as other women and that’s why I can’t tell.

We went to a local on premise club. We’ve been 2 times before, and ended up having sex the first time with the bedroom door cracked open. It was great! Second time, Nothing happened. We went back this past Friday. Hung out for a few hours, talked to a few couples, then went to the dungeon and the Mrs. was feeling frisky enough to try the Sybian. LOTS of people stopped to watch, and she was a bit too uncomfortable to orgasm with so many watching. Then we went down to a bedroom to fuck with the door wide open this time. Just as things heated up, an African American guy walked into our room. I was flummoxed big time. Lost my erection from nerves. Then a gay guy who works there comes in and watches. Next thing I know, they’re both jerkin themselves off. Not knowing if the gay guy would let my wife blow him, and wanting to finally take some sort of leap, I asked my wife if she’d blow the African American guy. She asked if I was sure. I hesitated, then took the plunge. I said yes. She got up, asked him if she could, and I was fully rock hard at this point. The gay guy asks me if he can blow me, I say yep. He starts blowing me while I jerk him off. Wife keeps looking back, checking in to see if I’m ok, and is surprised to see me getting my cock sucked by a guy. I signal I’m good and roll my eyes to ask her back to me. She obliges. We fuck, and as were fucking, I’m jerking this guy off. It’s hot. He’s grabbing my cock as I penetrate my wife. We fuck for a few mins, she comes, then I cum. We lay there for a bit, not sure what to do. The guys are still there. Gay guy knew I’d never done anything with a guy, so I think he was cool we didn’t finish him. African American guy seemed a bit out off. I can understand. We will rectify these situations in the future, but explained it was our first tombs with this stuff. Other than taking care of the guys to completion, anyone see any mistakes here? I was so happy I felt COMPLETELY COMFORTABLE. I was floored actually. We had a BLAST! I(Mr.) could never have gotten here without this forum and all I e read. We had a blast, and we just wanted to say thanks for your wisdom about jealousy, and loads of other info. Thanks for reading!

I first went back and read all of your posts before responding to this one. And, btw, welcome to the best swingers website on the Internet. I don't think you two have done anything wrong at all in this exploration. In fact, your posts are probably going to help a lot of folks who are curious and considering but haven't yet joined or jumped in. The two guys not finishing? Hey, they sure had their fun too and I'm guessing there were plenty of other opportunities to finish with others. For now, just be concerned that you and your wife are being pleased. That reminds me of an old joke; A guy and a gal were undressing for their very first encounter. When he drops his undies, she looks over and sees his small tool and, sarcastically asks, "just who are you planning on pleasing with that?" The guy just smiles back and confidently replies, "me"! And one piece of advice, if you haven't already found out, when you look at ads of other couples, don't let the fact the ad says that the female is bi-curious or bi and the husband is straight make you automatically eliminate them. If everything else looks good, send them a note. If your ad says that you're bi-curious or bi, they'll see it. You'll be amazed at how many couples don't admit the husband is bi in their ads.

Ok here's my story... me and my wife have been together for a number of years and we've always had somewhat of an open relationship but one drunken night we had a mutual guy friend over and I initiated a threesome with us... well it was great in the beginning, he even moved in with us temporary. But things start to get complicated when I'm always at work and he's at home with my wife fucking her all day or whatever they are doing at my house lol. So make a long story short, he becomes obsessed and he's even trying to steal her away from me so I kick him out and he runs and tells everyone. Needless to say he is our enemy now and its super awkward now around everyone.... Has anyone had a similar situation to this here??? Hit me up.

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I don't try to control it. It controls me. I give in and enjoy the ride.

As long as she is enjoying herself I'll let it flow. If she tells me to stop it I will stop it.

Sit back, relax, watch. For what it's worth, the enzyme prolactin is used as a "timer" for giving your body a rest period after orgasm. It increases when you cum and also increases with other stresses. Until the level of prolactin in your system reduces, you won't get hard again. Vitamin B-6 is supposed to be an effective prolactin suppressant, and may help you get hard again faster after orgasm.

i love both… i am bi sexual - so it is Always fun to Play with a hot couple but to have a threesome with two polite guys it is also fun

That everyone could be open about it without having to worry about your job, the kids school, etc.

I'm a male who usually plays with couples. I much prefer the MFM scene which gives her maximum pleasure while relieving each of the men of sole responsibility for her joy. FMF depends on the situation. Am I the center of attention? In that case, no thank you. That would be sensory overload. On the other hand if one of the women is the center and the other two of us please her, then I am in.

We've done both and enjoyed them. Given her preference, Mrs Doc would take (and not in a figurative sense) the two guy scenario. I'd prefer two women. But either way there is nothing to complain about!!

2 guys

I'd have to say the judgment, both by swingers and especially non-swingers. Why everyone can't just let people be who they are accept them for that without wanting to pass judgment on them, I don't understand. In terms of us swingers particularly, that doesn't mean you have to want to play with everyone out there, but just because they don't swing the exact same way you do doesn't make them any more or less of swinger or a person.

We don’t kid ourselves. We/she hates condoms. As result she is VERY picky. We’ve been playing with only one couple for years now. We trust 100%. Known for over 10 years. There’s a good side and bad to that,no doubt, but it is what it is. Thus to answer your question directly, wouldn’t have it any other way for all the good reasons mentioned above.

Well, I knew the time would CUM someday! Dee's GF, the petite little latin woman that I have mentioned spent the night last night again and got a little tipsy too,lol As Dee went into the bathroom she pulls her shorts aside showing me her pussy wanting me to eat her. Of course I couldn't really do that one at the time, but as the true gentleman I , I did with her pussy some and slide a finger into her nice wet pussy! And tasting her wonderful juices from it! So as Dee is still in the bathroom, I tell her, ya know, Dee would be okay with this if it was the three of us actually. So she says, then ask her! Okay, So I ask Dee and tell her that her GF wants the 3 of us to play and of course a big grin CUMS on her face,lol And ya know, Dee's dad lives with us too so we had to make sure he was asleep too,lol We all retired to the bedroom, Dee finding a negligee for her and I found one her GF could use, As the girls both put them on! And in heaven for sure at this point! They both climb on the bed and I get between them, feeling both of their soft almost naked Bodies, sucking on and playing with her GF's nice little titties and then DEE's wonderful tits some! And her GF mentions toys! And she doesn't really use toys much, so again as the true gentleman I , I oblige and grab a couple. And begin using them on both of them. Keep in mind, at that point she mentions to Dee, we should use them on each other too! Well that one didn't happen but I did alternate sucking and licking their wonderful clits along with still using the toys on them! And he GF loved the one I used on her, so we told her she could have that one too,lol Not too much more happened as her GF got dressed and using the toys and our wand vibrator on Dee until she came good! Of course I also enjoy Dee using the wand on me too, my balls and cock getting me hard, Positioning Dee on the side of the bed and fucking her a while until I CUM too! Her GF had already gone back to the couch to sleep and we did the same. Only in our bed I am definitely looking forward to the next time now that I KNOW will happen too! And MUCH more! As well as them using toys on each other and maybe more too! I also mentioned to her GF, she will have to CUM with us sometime to our male friend's place too so we can ALL have some fun and quite sure he's not gonna mind either! lol Sorry guys, she won't let me do pics. I do have a few of my own she has sent me though,lol And the ones Dee took of me eating her pussy a while back for our fun with her and another guy a while back, as we just played with and ate the girls! Kinda funny too, I always call them my two naughty girls, but I never really thought it was gonna get THIS NAUGHTY! And she squirts like crazy and swallows too! I've already tasted her wonderful pussy juices, but I can't wait to CUM in her mouth someday now! Dee is not into any of that but SHE IS!

We have 2 couples that we play with and trust them 100% so for us its not a issue plus you feel closer to them and thats what works for us.

Awesome... and I did the same. I backed off and watched my wife go at it as well. It was like watching an erotic film "live"... After he basically asked for permission to finish on,in etc. her and he did it was amazing and gut wrenching. Then catching him side fuck her next to me while we were sleeping was awesome too as well as me catching a glimpse of them fucking again in the bathroom. Ever since we have hooked up a few times and he has always came inside.

My wife and I are in our 50's and we have talked about a MFM threesome for years and we did finally go through with it this year we met with a man our age after we talked with him and felt good about doing this we got a hotel room.We were all shy about doing this as it was a first time for all of us so we just agreed to all get naked my wife joked about what we were doing and we just all laughed about it.to get started my wife grabbed his cock and mine and stroked them and them she started to suck on us so while she was sucking him I backed away to watch she had him moaning and to me it looked good to see his dick in her mouth after awhile of her sucking him he asked if he could do oral on her she looked at me and I said 69 with him and so they got in bed and went at it,he did not last long he warned her that he was getting close to cumming I though she would stop but she kept on sucking until he came in her mouth,so now I was thinking now what I really wanted him to have sex with her and he asked me if everything was ok and I said yes but asked if he was still wanting to have sex with her he said yes but needed some time to get hard again so he said for us to go at it and that's what we did with him watching I had my wife ride me so he could get a good look he did not say much but I could see him watching but she couldn't so I asked her to turn around and suck him an after a bit he was hard and I still didn't cum I was trying not to so finally it was his turn so she got on top of him and first thing I did was go look at him in her and it looked amazing he grabbed her ass and pumped from the bottom she loved it so I went to the front of her and stuck my dick in her mouth I know he got to see my balls and dick good I didn't last to long and came in her mouth while she was riding him and I went and sat down to just watch her and him and they must of went at it for about a half hour before he came and yes he came in her,,that was two months ago and we have seen him every other weekend since

It’s not a competition. It’s for fun. I hope that my wife meets guys who can do some things better than me. Maybe we’ll both learn new tricks to use on each other.

I don't care if a guy is more handsome, more well hung, or better in bed than me. I'm the one she loves and I'm the one she's coming home to every night.

Fewer flakes. If you say you are going to meet at a certain place at a certain time, don't be flaking out.