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...So me and my guy finally went to a club together. My first time at a club, but not his, though he hasnt been in involved in the LS in years. We went to The Velvet Curtain in Dallas, attending the New Years Eve Bash they were having. We didn't play with anyone or even play while there at all. We did watch a little in a public play area and that was hot. I loved the way everyone seemed so nice.. It was a great time, even though we didn't really find anyone to play with, I had a blast. And now I feel much more comfortable going to other clubs and trying other things. We are new to this...so I feel this first step was a total success... Thanks for reading.

Tell him she was trying to wedge in between you. Demean him in your eyes and then hit him up in the play room. Not so much crazy as manipulative.

Tell your husband the truth. When we try to "soften the blow" we risk not getting our message understood. My best to you both, but not the strange lady.

I’m attending a lifestyle event this weekend in Tampa. One of the other participants is a woman acquaintance who lives in the Villages. I’ll ask what she knows about this.

Never in my life have I stopped to worry if a woman who is eagerly trying to get me inside her thinks I'm attractive. You're sort of past wondering once you're at that point. Mission accomplished. She's into you. Now that she's been "all over him", he's probably not going to be offended if you tell him the truth about how she was acting. He'll just realize she's a mess. As a guy, I'd rather know why that happened than think my wife is just no fun for no reason. Maybe save it for the next time she comes up, though.

As soon as I read the part about how she was acting on the dance floor, I knew where this was headed. She's crazy, just ignore her or run the risk of giving her exactly what she wants, which is drama. Regarding telling your husband, right then and there probably not the best time to go into all the gory detail, but I think after the fact that first night I would have filled him in on what happened from start to finish.

The last thing you want in swinging is drama. And that woman sounds like a drama queen.

Be honest with you husband. Ultimately it's about the two of you having fun together. If there was something that put you off to this particular crazy lady, then he should know about it. It's not that you don't want him to have fun, just not with her. I'm sure someone less objectionable will approach you 2 and she won't have a chip on her shoulder. Your husband might not have been "thrilled" and perhaps thought that you did not have due cause to stop the fun from happening when you objected. Ultimately honesty is the best policy, and he will understand that you had a reason to object to the crazy lady.

Does anyone on the board live there? Visited? Supposed to be senior swinger headquarters.

This post begs the question…What kind of man/husband are you? If you can't see that this guy is being disrespectful of you, your marriage, your life, your friends and your choice than I suggest you get a white cane. If your wife is willing to condone the guy's behavior, I suggest you get a new wife cause you're going to be needing one in the near future anyway if the "boyfriend" has anything to say about it.

We have three couples, including ourselves, that we have played with at the same time a few times now. So plenty of opportunities to try different things. FFM with the two other wives and myself, mfm, fffmmm, fm fm fm, The easiest to do and arrange is mfm. Though I really enjoy FFM. All were/are fun, and I'm down for either whenever the opportunity arises (pun intended)

I realize you are pulling my chain a bit, but the point is valid. Just for the record and the enlightenment of the uninitiated : We NEVER play while inebriated. That would be a bad idea. We stick to pre-dinner drinks. It is a rare occasion that we even have alcohol in the room.That is usually at hotel parties for a little libation before venturing out.

Be careful. You might spread some misconceptions about the lifestyle to those uninitiated. I would hate to hear they think bad of us, spreading rumors that we drink from morning until evening and other unsavory stories. Mr. Nomad

Hubby and I didn't search online, personal ads or clubs for women. I approached acquaintances from the gym, coffee shop, bookstore, one from church even. We would date them together: take them to dinner, the theater, concerts, even on vacation with us (separate rooms) paying for everything and never expecting anything. We would never come on to her, but create opportunities for her to take it further: I would leave her alone with David to show I was not jealous and comfortable with it (and call her phone letting her know I was coming back), I would undress/dress in front of them both. While I was primarily looking for her to play with David (and hopefully letting me watch), we were open to her being Lesbian with me and to threesomes. Most didn't go anywhere sexually but were fun, some were willing to fuck hubby, a few get with me and two were lovers for both of us. Regardless, there were no hard feeling or regrets by anyone and we still occasionally get together with all of the women that we are still in contact with, one even openly discusses the adventures we three had in the presence of her husband.

We have been guests at a villa which is situated in one of the newer parts of The Villages. The owners of this villa encouraged us to explore the place. We soon came to the realization that they were trying to sell us on the idea of buying a place. While the many swingers who live in the villages would be an inducement, we soon realized that there are dozens of extra costs that are hidden in the fine print of the contracts that we would have to sign. The Villages are great for people who play golf every morning and drive a Lexus or Escalade. But it's a bit beyond our reach.

More bits of wisdom from my late wife: "There's only one way to find out if we want to fuck a couple the second time. Fuck them the first time." "If a man isn't good in bed, I am. I can bring myself off, and him too!" "If I were looking for perfection, Darling, I wouldn't be fucking other men." If I remember more, I'll add them.

We get a lot of “we’re not a match” on the Internet from people very much in our demographic. Many have no certs and I suspect they do not play. I would like to think that we give viable candidates a shot to meet.The perfect is the enemy of the good.

We've discovered that there is likely no perfect 4-way match so as I've written before, our standards remain high but we look for couples who are "doable" as opposed to a perfect match. There have been a few occasions when my wife has said, "there is absolutely no way Im ever going to boink that guy". Usually it revolves around bad hygiene, bad breath or a closet smoker. Still, there have been times when the guy just hit all the right spots for her but the wife was just OK for me. It was still pleasant and we've had occasions when I thought the wife was just incredible but for Mrs Doc, the guy was just adequate. I guess we do sort of take a bit for the team but we'll never ask each other to do someone totally unattractive to repulsive no matter how hot the partner.

Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it. We play alot with other couples so I thought he would realize right away that there was a very valid reason. I think I will tell him but try to find a kinder version than what she said. It was just horrible. She is crazy, no doubt!

I agree with the Nomads, Tammi. Truthfully explain what happened to your husband. If the lady approaches you again, simply say,"My husband and I don't care to be acquainted with you." Then keep on ignoring the bitch. Whether she's a boor or "on something" are both valid reasons.

I’m a communicate everything kind of guy anyway so I would have told him everything as soon as we got back or else called her out on what she said while in the play area. Sounds like a petty woman.

We have a couple of close friends and she prefers that they ejacukate inside her. They are both much bigger than me. She always wants me to go second when she is loose and full of cum. I like the way her pussy feels after she has been pounded hard. She loves to tease and tell me she can’t feel me and how good their big dicks felt exploding inside her. I’m totally into the humiliation so it’s a turn on. When i am with another woman, I prefer to pull out and ejaculate on her. I tend to shoot some pretty impressive loads so my wife and her friends enjoy watching.

its watching him pump his cum into that gets me off. it did not disappoint. i left such a load in her mouth lol yes we all have taken steps when dealing with std's even though std tests arent perfect.

apparently it has become my favorite fetish lol cant say i want to stop it either

shes already swallowed before so thats nothing new lol after she got off his cock she put her bikini back on and went down on me. pretty sure she sucked my soul out too. she left his load in for most the night. i love watching it happen now. especially when she keeps it in her

Awe I get so wet when I hear the "hubby's" catering to us woman's needs & desires! You are right & only a real man would say that!

this pretty much sums up my entire fantasy lol

With respect, Couplers, that's not an applicable situation. Polyamory is -- almost by definition -- 'Open'. The 'Amory' part names it as a loving relationship among all the partners, so it's open. One should always shout "Love' from the rooftops, because if you can't do that, it's not really love. Does that make sense? Swinging is different; it's casual. Participants might be friends, they might not. They might even have just met. It's this sort of situation, this lifestyle, that some couples we've met have been 'open' about their participation. And that's what's been weirding us out.

Ok so me and my wife are a young couple she is 21 and I'm 24. We're new to this stuff but comfortable with each other and love each other very much. We have a couple we swing with and play with single girls and guys as well and even have done 5 ways. My one friend who we have MFM with though is really into my wife, she likes him for the sex and I trust her completely! Absolutely no issues there, but he is the type of guy who likes the girl to himself if you know what I mean? Our MFM 3 ways usually end with him covering himself over my wife and almost hiding her from me while he has his way. He will also talk to her on the side and my wife says he tells her how beautiful she is. He has told my wife he doesn't like 3 ways and wants to have her to himself which is a rule breaker on our part. For us having this lifestyle is about enjoying this stuff together as a couple and not a way to get away from one another. This guy is a good friend it's just his personality to act that way, he is really possessive with women in bed. So with that said this bothers me and I'm not really into it yet I enjoy letting my wife 3 way with him and me. She is very sexually attracted to him but that's it, he on the other hands if he could would steal her from me if he had the chance in a heartbeat. Is this normal for guys to get that way? If I trust my wife should I let it go? Or is this a nono in people books? Our other guy has no problem sharing and taking turns etc and can go without trying to swoop her away from me lol. On one hand I can't blame him though, my wife is 21, absolutely gorgeous athletic build, deep black hair, and a amazing personality. I'm truly a lucky guy to have her.

It's always all about orgasms. Every person wants to be with the person that gives them the best orgasms.

Short and sweet here. He has no respect for your friendship or marriage. You need to set the record straight with him before any more play takes place if ever. We've seen situations like this time and time again and nearly always end badly. Good Luck

This has always been one of my fantasies. Once we experimented with a favorite toy and my husband penetrating me. I will say it felt pretty awesome, but the old hoo hoo was pretty sore afterwards. I can't figure out though, how you can get two men close enough for actual penetration...I haven't done the splits since high school! LOL For those of you who wonder why I do all the posting...my better half is one of those two-fingered sort of typists and those fingers are better employed elsewhere! Can't you tell I have the summer off and nothing better to do than post!