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I didn't know where else to put this. Mrs. Dazed is down 67lbs from her heaviest today. Nov 2017 she was 267lbs. Super proud of her and this is all for herself, I'm just happy to share this journey with her. She hit her 200# goal, now she says she is working towards 190#.

It’s an LOL post if you know what I mean. There is no question, he is sharing his story. If he likes the cuck situation and being disrespected and piles of drama, congratulations. I’d be curious to hear the wife’s version.

Some one needs to be kicked to the curb YESTERDAY. The boyfriend or your wife. Her choice.

If this story is veridical from the OP’s perspective and the writer is not simply trolling us, this is one of the sorriest tales I’ve ever heard.

This post begs the question…What kind of man/husband are you? If you can't see that this guy is being disrespectful of you, your marriage, your life, your friends and your choice than I suggest you get a white cane. If your wife is willing to condone the guy's behavior, I suggest you get a new wife cause you're going to be needing one in the near future anyway if the "boyfriend" has anything to say about it.

Danger, Will Robinson, Danger. This is classic batterer behavior.

Here is my 2 cents...(It's Marni). We hosted a private party and invited 8 couples. There was one man who was coming and I did not have any real interest in him, mostly because he was somewhat introverted and I took that as disinterest. We knew them from a club. After everyone arrived and we had a drink, he came over to me and kissed me. Just like that. You know what, it worked. As soon as he showed some interest, I was onboard. Sometimes when you are shy, it comes across as disinterest to the other person.

The key I've found is to dig deep and channel your inner cool guy. Be friendly, be social, smile, have a good time etc. The more you look like a confident fun person the more people will gravitate to you. I know that sounds easier said than done, but it's the only way. In the last four years since we got into the ls, I myself was not who I am today. I'm a good looking guy but I had serious confidence issues going back to being bullied in school, shot down by many girls before my wife, etc. The longer you're in the ls the easier this will be. Also, think as your wife as your wingman. You said she gets some interest already and that's good. When we're in a new club with no friends we just stick together, talking like we're in a date, making jokes and smiling at each other. If you're doing that people will see that you look fun. When you see someone you like, have her be the one who initiates talking first. I let my wife do that as it works great. She'll go hey what's y'all's names, where are you from, etc and you just chime right in behind her.

Its a dump and has been a dump since our first visit in 2003.

Why not try Secrets near Orlando? Although we have not yet been, we hear wonderful things about it! Rooftop was really horrible the 2 times we went. One was in the past year. Really such a sketchy place, can't compare that to Hedo or Desire. Whatever they did or did not do the place is rancid. So many single guys lurking around. Very creepy. Caliente in Orlando also has a good reputation.

It is important that when you go out to meet other swingers in person (whether at a club or on a date with just one other couple) that you bring your “A” game and that both of you are in top form. If you’ve been fighting or are having a really bad day then you may want to reschedule the meeting, unless you can find a way to put all of that behind you. If the vibes between you as a couple are bad, couples that you meet will pick up on that. When you do go out, do so without any expectations of what the night may bring. If you’ve seen pictures of the other couple you plan to meet, then you are justified in expecting them to look reasonably like their pictures. Overall, the fewer expectations that you have, of the couples you meet or of the night overall, the more likely you are to enjoy the evening. Also, keep in mind that you are to some degree responsible for the expectations of others. In other words, if you have given them some reason to expect certain things, then beware. Unless you know for a fact that you intend to have sex with them that night, do not give them any reason to expect it. If you don’t look reasonably like your own pictures then don’t be surprised when they walk out on you before dinner arrives. Keep the alcohol to a minimum. In all swinging encounters, whether first meeting or not, you should keep alcohol consumption to a minimum. There is nothing wrong with having one or two drinks as you might normally when you are out for an evening, but be careful not to over-indulge, as this is probably the number one cause of regrets when it comes to swinging. Even if you don’t end up playing you don’t want to come off as someone who doesn’t know their limits or who can’t handle their alcohol. Remember to exercise discretion when meeting other swingers in public places. Just because you are there to establish whether or not there is a mutual interest in having sex together, does not mean that the entire restaurant needs to know about your past escapades or experiences. While you may choose to be open about your lifestyle choice, most swingers are not. So keep the sex talk to a minimum (and a very low decibel) until you are in a private place. There are a million other things you can discuss when you first meet, so try to focus on those rather than strictly on sex. You will be nervous, but just remember so are they. Your first meeting with another couple is a lot like a blind date, except now there are three or four of you who have to hit it off. Take it in stride and remember to bring your sense of humor. I would suggest having your first meeting at a restaurant, coffee shop or bar; someplace public, but quiet enough that you can easily talk to and hear one another. You may want to opt for a bar or coffee shop to have a little more control over how much time you have to spend with them, in case you don’t enjoy their company.

I apparently have a COMPLETELY different definition of "nice" than y'all do. I am a bit confused... and wonder also if this is just a trolling post... yet I will take this opportunity (and the time) to climb on my soap-box. ... Perhaps it will be of value to some.... "'Cause it's signals, Jerry, it's signals!" ... "This is the signal, Jerry, this is the signal!". - George Costanza - Seinfeld I turned 60 this past summer. ... In the past decade or so I have had a number of "epiphanies". I suspect this is something we all do, as a part of the aging process. (One [or multiples] of those epiphanies has been getting involved with this BBS.) ... :-D It is only in the past 2 to 3 years that I have come to the conclusion that it is all about respect... and that door swings BOTH ways. (While I do my best to be respectful of others, I have no doubt that I occasionally drop the ball. Life is an education.) But I do not care who you are these days, even someone that I am forced to have contact with on a regular basis (family member, co-worker, etc.)... If I feel disrespected by someone in any way, I am inclined to hand them their walking-papers, immediately, no explanation on my part is needed (or required). When contact is inescapable, I will be cordial, answer questions, etc... but I never volunteer anything, and the moment I can sever the contact, I jump on it! .... (I am a bit of a late-bloomer. It has been quite a ride so far.) I am fairly confident that most would agree... Life is far to short to spend time entertaining a**holes. One thing I think of often these days, that helps me stay on track, is this: "If you loan someone $20 and never see them again, then it was probably a good investment." (When viewed metaphorically, this can cover a LOT of territory.) Another nugget that I am very fond of is something I picked up in the late '80's, while regularly attending Al-Anon-ACOA meetings... "You cannot change others. You can only change yourself, and how you react to others." If you are happy with your current situation (and the "LOL" response seems to be an indicator of this), I say, "Party ON Dude!" If you are unhappy and/or distressed by your current situation, then maybe it is time to take a good look within yourself, and ask, "What do I really want out of life?" As I finished this post (which was fun to write), I decided to look back on some of the OP's past submissions. All I can say at this point is: If you do not have Peace & Happiness in your life, and that is something that you desire, then I sincerely hope you can find it. Good Luck. bud

In-laws live there. We have visited and heard stories. One thing we did find curious was the neighbor came over. I think one was watching the others dog and they exchanged little “business cards” with address and contact info. I said oh yeah, they are swingers. Then she said one of their friends/neighbors was into “that swinger crap” but didn’t elaborate. My impression was it’s all around but not discussed openly. Or at least around outsiders. Reminded of the episode of Bob’s. Utters where they found out Linda’s parents moved onto a swingers community. ity

If you weren't in FL, I'd think you were one of the other two couples we play with. I/we/they agree, three couples who all get along works very well and offers a lot of possible configurations and ways to keep the fun going if somebody needs to sit a round out. It's also very freeing to be able to split up the couples into two threesomes that don't involve any spouses. I know some people here like the scene at bigger parties, that's an experience we haven't tried just yet. We'll eventually hit on a club or party scene she's interested in.

"Wife met a nice man about 6 weeks ago." "Wife met a nice man" "a nice man" I think we're narrowing down where everything is getting confusing.

Yeah, sounds absolutely hilarious!

We have three couples, including ourselves, that we have played with at the same time a few times now. So plenty of opportunities to try different things. FFM with the two other wives and myself, mfm, fffmmm, fm fm fm, The easiest to do and arrange is mfm. Though I really enjoy FFM. All were/are fun, and I'm down for either whenever the opportunity arises (pun intended)

Tell your husband the truth. When we try to "soften the blow" we risk not getting our message understood. My best to you both, but not the strange lady.

I would be inclined to believe it. We are near there. There are quite a few active profiles on 3fun and AFF for the area. We are late 30's early 40's so nobody has contacted us from the area and vice versa, but lots of views from there, some multiple times.

Don't presume that I am a toy, but let's discuss it because sometimes that is what I really want - being fucked silly by a guy or two just for their pleasure; interposed between a man and a women, I licking her as he fucks me; Lora spanking my bum... Sometimes, if you consent, it's fun being "used."

Additionally remember to answer concisely. Don't hide anything but don't offer if they aren't asking. the SF86 is a pain in the ass form.

You are right about the bio-identic hormones. They are the chemical equivalent of the fountain of youth in post menopausal women.

When my wife was in mid 50s she started experiencing painful intercourse. After several different doctors refused to discuss hormone therapy, she found a female physician who prescribed bio identical hormones. It made a huge difference. Your wife may benefit with treatment as mine did. The area you live in has female physicians who prescribed bio identical hormones.

Very well said, alexandsandra, and I don't think I mind having this old friend as a bowling partner. But one of us would still like to also have a balling partner. Even if she agreed with that, I'd have a problem using a friend, which the balling partner would be. And, no matter how much the balling partner swore that it was nothing more than a FWB situation, I'd be always suspicious of that changing and causing drama for all three of us. Thanks again, everyone.

Stayed there once a long time ago. The rooms were horrible and smelled like smoke. Would rather stay at a nicer place and uber to the Trapeze.

I wear them sometimes. I like thigh highs with a garter belt. You can wear underwear on top. They are convenient in the ladies room and for having sex. They look and feel sexy. They cover varicose veins. Some people really like the look and it gets them turned on. I really like the way they feel.

One other perspective I will add to this discussion. Women have four options for what to wear on their legs. 1. They can wear pants or jeans which generally speaking are not as sexy or hot as visible legs. 2. They can wear pantyhose which while great for vanilla type activities where the clothes aren't going to come off, in a swinging environment where there is a good chance of getting naked, pantyhose just provides an obstacle to the fun. Also, it is another piece of clothing to try to keep up with and locate in the dark after the fun is over. Also the pantyhose, if they are control top type can help to hold the tummy in if that is an issue. 3. They can go with bare legs and while some ladies have very attractive legs, for many women who might be self-conscious of their legs due to lack of a tan or what have you this is not the best option. 4. Finally they can wear stockings. They have the good appearance of the "tanned legs" plus there is no obstacles to get in the way of the "play." Sure can't speak for all women, but I am pretty sure that most women will keep the stockings on. Again, less clothing items to keep up with. As a man I am certainly no expert on the clothing habits of women, but based upon observations and my experience of 26 years of marriage I believe this might be a fairly accurate assessment of the choice of stockings.