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Last night, my wife and I spoke at length about swinging. We both discussed our thoughts, desires, and rules/boundaries. To my surprise, we matched up perfectly and are on the exact same page! We agreed to take it slow and just feel things out initially but are both open to soft and full swaps only in same room with condoms for penetration being required. She also said she doesn't want other males cumming in her mouth and I explained she needed to be up front about that. We also watched an episode of the Playboy Swing reality show, together, which REALLY turned us on. We had some of the best sex we had in a while after watching that, talking about swinging, and imagining ourselves doing it. Who's to say what actually happens the first time I see my wife penetrated or the first time she watches me with another woman. But so far, so good. We'll also be constantly checking in and communicating before, during, and after we do anything. We both agreed we are going to drop a little weight before trying it. I'm 5'8" ~205 and she's 5'10" ~240. I'm going to keep learning here and trying to start dialogue with local clubs so we can familiarize ourselves.

"Slut" is not a pejorative around here.

We print our own. They have a pic of us, our first names, and our SLS handle. On a cruise or at a hotel takeover, we will write the room number on the back. Occasionally, we will write a phone number if we have a real connection.

Business cards are odd. I have had cards in the Vanilla world circle back to me after years. Those cards you are waiting for until "after" might very well work as tools towards your ends. We only hand out two-three a party. Most go to folks in whom we have an interest but there has not been time to get to know. Cycle back time is anywhere from the next day to a few months. It avoid the "Who was that couple? ..... I can't recall Hon. " Syndrome

This is true. The cards are Avery 8376. Both Microsoft Word and Open Office Write have built-in templates for designing your own cards.

Hmm...kinda like saying wobbly/naughty bits instead of cock/pussy?

I'm mid-70's and the blue pill is pretty handy for me. I can usually get by with 50 mg, but also take 100 mg. I buy it from a Canadian pharmacy on line, they take my credit card (the credit card company often calls to see if it is a good transaction) and it takes about a month before a package comes from India. I pay in the neighborhood of $1.00 per pill, but they throw in a bunch of Cialis and samples, too. Viagra is sildenafil, a drug originally developed for treating high blood pressure. Some people get headaches, it doesn't last very long (maybe four hours) but it does lower blood pressure. My skin has a good amount of red in it but when I take the "V" my whole face heats up and it looks like I'm leading Santa's sleigh. That is all part of the way the drug works--it directs blood flow to certain places in the body, like the skin surface and the erection. As I said, HANDY! The daily-use tadalfil (Cialis) doesn't do much for me. All of this is done without a prescription.

The courage to successfully pull off a good DP or DVP. The insecure ones are the ones where the guy goes soft and the gal dries up. Not a pleasant thing, this is why the 'level' of play is artistic but only right if done without self-doubt. I learned that my wife still likes the occasional gangbang. which I knew already. Dave and Laura

We print them on our home printer. Staples sells business cards that you can run through your printer.

Yes, they're a 'thing'! Many clubs don't permit mobile phones because of the risk of unwanted photos. Cards are an easy way to make and keep contact with new friends.

We've come to realize that we have much the same perspective. It comes in degrees. Sure we're all looking for 10s but a 6 might do just fine. If my wife is really into him I will try really hard to find something attractive about her and it doesn't necessarily have to be physical attraction. This happened just recently. A couple walked into the club and we end up talking to them. I wasn't really attracted to her at first but as I saw my wife was getting turned on(he was really funny and outgoing) it turned me on. As that happened I began to find the other woman had a great personality and a sexy attitude that made up for my initial impression. When she relaxed and flashed a brilliant smile she was far more attractive than I first thought. She and her husband played off each other very well which made them a fun couple. As we got to know each other she became more physically attractive to me because of the other aspects of her personality. A woman I had initially pegged as a 4or 5 at best turned out to be at least a 7 in looks, in my then opinion, but a 10 in fun and personality and at the end of the night she proved to be super passionate and we all had a memorable time. I don't know, Is that taking one for the team?

Here are a few other similar nuggets: “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.” ― Mark Twain "Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you."

nothing feels better than rubbing up against another hard cock inside my baby - just sayin

Tell your husband the truth. When we try to "soften the blow" we risk not getting our message understood. My best to you both, but not the strange lady.

Mr. Playmate and I had just filled the other's wife, and rolled off to recover. Mrs. Playmate was gasping for breath as was Mrs. Alura, but for a different reason. Laura placed a knee on each side of my head and said, "I have a steaming pussy full of come, Darling. I need your magic tongue." That told me she hadn't climaxed. Her vagina knew the way to my mouth. Holding the labia apart, she nestled them over my nose, letting loose a flood from within. I managed to sweep most away to run down my cheeks while I concentrated on making Laura yodel. While Laura was peaking, I felt Mrs. Playmate's warm mouth engulf me. Laura was holding Mr. Playmate's rapidly recovering cock, her lips headed for it. She rolled onto her back, pointed her toes at the ceiling and guided Mr. Playmate where she fully expected him to deposit another load. He did. Mrs. Playmate and I found each other again and added to one of my favorite swinging memories. Thanks to the Swingers Board for giving me the opportunity to relive those wonderful times.

I don’t know how you see your friend cumming inside. You may watch him him have an orgasm but if he is in your wife his ejaculation will physically be in her Hidden from you seeing. The question of cumming in or out is a little perplexing. If you are having sex without a condom you have thought about the risk of STDs. I would think you have already taken precautions for pregnancy. When I am having sex with a guy, or for that matter a girlfriend, I would want them to keeep going until they orgasm. I would feel cheated if a guy stopped before I orgasmed. I can’t imagine someone stopping just before I was going to cum. Not every guy gets me to orgasm but to stop just before wouldn’t be right. I don’t get the Rules. No kissing, no cuddling, no cumming. If I could take you in my mouth and let you cum why would I stop you from cumming in me there.

It sounds like I need to find that right time to have that more specific "let's do this " conversation first. I'm sure finding a single male won't be all that hard to find, it's just finding the right one (that is hard).

Whynot69, That's exactly how my wife and I did it with our best friend and longtime playmate. It was actually a very pleasant surprise when it happened. We were doing one of our usual threesome with him. I was on my back and my wife was on top of me and I was thrusting into her. Our friend was behind my wife playing with my dick and balls and just got into position and slid his dick in with mine. That put the sensitive bottom side of my dick against the sensitive bottom side of his. Our playmate did most of the thrusting and since we were both going bareback, I could really feel his dick sliding up and down mine. We came within a second or two of each other. I remember the feeling of his warm cum on my dick and the extra lubrication when he came and that caused me to immediately cum too.