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Last night, my wife and I spoke at length about swinging. We both discussed our thoughts, desires, and rules/boundaries. To my surprise, we matched up perfectly and are on the exact same page! We agreed to take it slow and just feel things out initially but are both open to soft and full swaps only in same room with condoms for penetration being required. She also said she doesn't want other males cumming in her mouth and I explained she needed to be up front about that. We also watched an episode of the Playboy Swing reality show, together, which REALLY turned us on. We had some of the best sex we had in a while after watching that, talking about swinging, and imagining ourselves doing it. Who's to say what actually happens the first time I see my wife penetrated or the first time she watches me with another woman. But so far, so good. We'll also be constantly checking in and communicating before, during, and after we do anything. We both agreed we are going to drop a little weight before trying it. I'm 5'8" ~205 and she's 5'10" ~240. I'm going to keep learning here and trying to start dialogue with local clubs so we can familiarize ourselves.

This is my hope, that we'll make positive changes for ourselves that are LONG overdue, but have been delayed previously due to life stressors. We are now at a point where we can splurge on the fun stuff without it affecting much. Still curious to see what the local clubs are about and how people dress/present themselves. We shall see! Thanks!

Now most of you are probably not old enough to remember a TV ad from the 60's for girdles. Heck, do they even still sell girdles? But the ad had a line in it that was something like, "this girdle is killing me". Well, I was at a party and a gal who bartended the NCO club stag bar was there. And, I might ad, she was darn cute. Well, she had been sitting in a position that showed her legs up to her girdle. After a few drinks I smiled and said, "Iris, your girdle is killing me". Everyone laughed and Iris simply grinned and showed more. And, the best part is that I got to help her get out of that girdle later that night.

My wife and I have been full-swap from our start and have eschewed soft swap. But we have recently met people who have given us a new understanding. We met then at a Saturday evening social and while inviting us to their condominium they said, "we want you to know that we do soft swap." It was a mild surprise but my wife and I exchanged a few words and made a spontaneous decision that it would be OK. Well, it was great fun. Both this man and this woman had perfectly good reasons for not wanting penetration. I am thinking that we will no longer deflect Web-site inquiries based solely on the fact that the profile specifies soft swap. And I do not believe that we will require people to explain their reasons. Should open new opportunity.

If joining a bunch of couples already having sex, I'm not sure there could be any dialogue about anything other than a quick comment like "don't cum in my mouth", "be gentle with my balls", etc. But if chatting it up with a couple, hitting it off, and someone asks the questions if we want to play....do we get right into likes/dislikes, rules...or does this happen once finding a spot to have sex....or maybe way earlier in the conversation? Not sure how much swingers talk about sex prior to any plans to play...? Thanks!

I love love love hot tub sex. I've done this with a couple in a swingers club: Its nice when you're with a new couple, him leaning/sitting down with her sitting-straddling on his lap, water all around, both naked. Edging each others bodies, her vagina lips slowly firmly rubbing up and down the length of the underside of his dick. Soon after, rubbing harder and harder against each other, she seductively teasingly going a little higher, and higher, until her vagina entry reaches the top of his glans, she hangs there for a second looking into each others eyes...... she then slides down on him... of the outer/underside of his dick before giving him a lovely locked-lips passionate kiss. She then says "shall we go get a condom?"

Yes, many many many times.

Yes. many many many times.

Edging is a popular new thing, and creates stronger orgasms when they are eventually allowed to happen, since there is a build up of ejaculate which creates pressure (sometimes described as "despirate pleasure"). Be careful if you have heart or blood pressure issues, especially when combining with heat from a hot tub. But overall, it's a surprisingly strong orgasm. Assuming one can stop in time... or even want to stop. lol On the other spectrum, for a woman to play with a man and not allow them to cum is called 'Tease and Denial' and is used much in the kink community as a control technique. A man who is horny is willing and excited to play. Once a man cums, they are often finished, at least for awhile. Enjoy!

Both of us had marriages that were way too long and way too disappointing (both of our spouses blamed their unhappiness on us) and we had some dark, difficult, trying times afterwards before we met as well. However, if you were to change anything, there's a great chance that we wouldn't have ended up together and were we are now. Instead of looking back with regret, we enjoy today and look forward with excitement. Looking back is reserved for two things: to remember fond memories and to prevent repeating mistakes previously made. If you regret something you did in the past, learn from that and don't allow it to happen again in the future. We both LOVE LOVE LOVE where we are today. While some of the things we went through to get here was hard and frightening, we would do it all over again (especially if we knew the outcome of now). We would do it all again and change nothing.

Yes, it's great! Hot tubs are almost required to be swingers.

You are smart to take it slowly. Once you've crossed the line you just can't go back. Now, nothing wrong with crossing the line but the talk, as you already know, is sure sexy too. As you're finding out, opening up a marriage to the possibility of others, turns a spouse into also a best friend.

Guys are so visual. Perhaps he is seeing what's happening between your husband and you or the other wife and he is also visualizing what he can't see (the dick sliding in and out of one of two pussies he knows well) but he does know what it feels like. When your husband cums, he can visualize that too and the combination of what he's watching and what he sees in his head triggers him. We have never experienced a symbiotic orgasm as described but it's kind of cool. If my guess is accurate, that guy has a lot of fun stuff going on in his head.

In general we enjoy a bit of weed before sex - it heightens the experience and does tend to prolong and intensify the orgasms. I find that finding the right rhythm and position is key. It’s also helpful if the bigger cock is on the bottom allowing the top to control things a bit.

When I was an undergraduate in the late 1960s one of my roommates and I were walking down a street adjacent to the campus when a couple approached us from the opposite direction. The woman had a loose-fitting dress with big cutouts at the arm and no bra. We got a full view of her side-breast, including nipple. And my roommate walked directly into a parking meter...

For me, it's the unexpectedness of it. I remember one time I was at some friends house with my wife, and the other wife went into the bedroom to change before we went someplace. She walked past the slightly ajar door, I got a glimpse of her in her bra, instant erection!

I'm curious about this as well. My wife and I are getting into the lifestyle and my fear is going to an event and not having anyone socialize with us and/or invite us to play. It's helpful to see the suggestions being made.

I keep seeing this topic coming up. If you are comfortable having sex with a person why put restrictions on what you do? If you normally kiss during sex then kiss. If you don’t have problems with swallowing and it doesn’t bother you then swallow. I know there are those that feel they can’t swallow their own husband. I wouldn’t expect them to swallow another partner.

Our first followed lots of drinking and some strip games with one of her friends. We were very close and had been friends for a couple of years. Once we were nude, the girls wanted to tease me. They started touching my cock and I got hard quick. My wife started to suck my cock while her friend held my shaft. She asked my wife if she could help so they both worked on my. My hands were full of tits and ass. My wife asked her to take pictures of us fucking. It was such a rish having someone there. I shot my load pretty quick and my wife told her to get me hard again and that she wanted to watch us. She got on top and fucked me hard while my wife kissed her and feltsbher tits. She had a powerful orgasm and we played for an hour or so afterwards. We slept together and played again in the morning. Fortunately things never got weird and we are still close.

Hi guys, We are in the lifestyle for 10 years now and both of us like to video our hot time sharing. We usually recorded a few short clips and enjoy them later after the fact It is too bad that we cannot post our clips here yet, just like a few years ago that we were not allow to post photos, hope that will change soon Anyone is in the same situation?

Personally penis size has never been a big concern to me, however my husband loves watching me perform with guys that have big penis, for him is a big turn on. I always play along and "explicitly express" how they feel and fit inside me at the moment.

I'm a bit above average, but honestly, it's just up to what Angel is into. We have friends with slightly smaller, slightly bigger, and one with a truly, astoundingly massive cock. Sometimes she just says to me, "I need X's monster". I LOVE watching him impale her on that thing, and according to him she's the only one who can take him down to the balls. She has no Idea how she does it...the first time she was terrified, but then got so turned on she was bouncing on him screaming "take me down!". She's totally gone when she fucks, and most often has no recollection of what happened after she became mightily turned on, so I'm always there in room for her protection. Seeing her take a giant cock is an incredible turnon for me as well, but she's not always up for it. It really does depend on her, but I can tell you that there is no hotter thing for me than to watch her being penetrated. After that, I LOVE to watch a man take her down HARD. T

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I would be careful about xhampster, as I got a lot of virus warnings. You can do a google search on it. xvideos I found is safer

Yes you are correct that you can pick and choose who you play with and the rules you want to play by! Just like the people on the other end can do too! If you can find couples that are willing to play with you that are okay with you fucking their wife, but your wife not fucking their husband, because his penis is bigger then yours all the power to you. That would be a situation we would have to take a pass on and I can honestly say we have never meet anyone who would be okay with that, but I am sure someone would be.

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for many years and we veered to MFM because it´s not always easy to find another couple with the same interests and level of arousal. We love MFMs or MMMFMs both in 3somes and Clubs and for me it´s very exciting seeing her being sexually pleased by man/men. I do not consider anything like cuckolding because we do it together, and the sheer expression of lust in her face outlasts any sentiment of jealousy or the like. She loves to lose herself in group rooms, and once we got into a cabin with me and 5 other guys, she did all 6 of us during over 2 hours nonstop.

I would love to be able to get my wife into this its so hot when we talk about it, I guess it will just take more time. Any advise on how to let her inhibitions go so she can enjoy the attention of more then one man at the same time. B

This kink is explained in great detail in the book "Insatiable Wives" I to have inherited this gene and my level of passion and the strength of my orgasms are mind blowing when the Mrs. allows us to role play my MFM fantasy!!!! We have yet to act on it and hopefully my patients will yield me the dividends I desire!!! Watching my wife let herself go into the realm of ecstasy is my desire whether it's with a male or female it doesn't matter to me!!!!

Those who have read the book Sex Before Dawn will understand that this is not a "kink". It's an artifact of evolution. But there are some (such as myself) who did not inherit the gene. Or the gene is, at least, recessive. Does not prevent my understanding of this natural impulse. Have fun, boys. While you're watching, I'll be the guy screwing your wife

I only just happened to stumble across it, but I guess there is a word for the male side of this. Candaulism - Wikipedia "Candaulism is a sexual practice or fantasy in which a man exposes his female partner, or images of her, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure. The term may also be applied to the practice of undressing or otherwise exposing a female partner to others, or urging or forcing her to engage in sexual relations with a third person, such as during a swinging activity." I had heard that term before, but I hadn't made the connection until I read something translated from a French website this morning about how it's considered a traditionally masculine kink in the sense that the man is given a great deal of discretion over the woman's sexuality when a couple plays this way.

So do we, although Sheryl's prefers to have her playmates cum in her mouth.

We do.