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Fun but old question - I was 19. My boyfriend at the time invited me to join him at a nudist club that he had joined before we met. I was nervous but went for it. As is the case with most nudist clubs, it was most older couples but there were a few younger couples in their 20s. During the day things were very vanilla and non-sexual. After dark, there were several groups that would stay in the cabins and host swings parties. We were sharing a cabin with three guys and another girl, all in their 20s. We started out playing a kinky version of Spades that got us kissing and touching each other. It ended with the guys asking if they could shave our pussies. I was so turned on by the idea I was all in, but the other girl didn’t want them to do it so she watched. They were totally cool and gentle and I was so aroused I could hardly breathe. I had never been naked in front of more than one guy and now I had three guys with their hands all over me. I loved watching their cocks getting hard and started to let them tease my mouth. They took turns letting be suck them. I got on all fours and they took turns fucking me. I don’t know how long it lasted but it was amazing. They used condoms so I let my boyfriend and another guy cum in my mouth. The third ended up switching to his girlfriend and finished with her. I never told any of my partners afterwards until my current husband.

...Just to let you know I did as you stated here...I will get back with you.

Just last weekend. A couple we know have bought a 40 year old house on a large coastal river and they invited us over for the afternoon. They've torn out all of the windows and most of the back wall of the house leaving it open to the river providing a wonderful view of the water, passing boats and occupied neighboring houses on either side of the inlet. The place is completely empty except for new flooring and a blow-up bed on the floor near the open end. What fun!

I can honestly say in 10+ years of swinging, I have never seen that place. Any place we have been there are all types of body shapes and sizes. This goes for the nude beaches and resorts as well. We love our imperfections and expect the same. We obviously have high standards when it comes to cleanliness and grooming. We don’t even get hung up on clothing - easy to put a turd in a nice wrapper! While physical attraction plays a significant role in our choice of partners, attitude and personality go a long way especially if it’s going to extend beyond one night.

For a beginning, you should not bite it

Listen: I will pay your admission to the club if you go there and it is full of sexy hard bodies and Farrah Fawcett clones (unless your 'standards' are extremely low.). Some 'special events' and house parties (that usually require photos) do limit attendance to beautiful people only, but they are the HUGE EXCEPTION to the swinging rule. A visit to a swingers club will look more like what you would see on a trip to the market...just with less lighting and clothes...and people having sex in the isles. Not only will you be fine with how 'normal' the attendees are, you will probably find out that you two look just fine...there will always be others that 'look' better, but by no means will you be looking like Quasimodo in a sea of pretty. If you do a search you will see that most (as in I don't recall anyone saying otherwise but I'm leaving a small chance of the impossible here) people that have gone to clubs found themselves thinking better of how they appeared. You will not be the least attractive person there, and even if you were, you will find that personality also adds value. Whenever we are looking for couples to date, we don't use the photos as the only criteria since nobody has been able to invent a camera that can capture a persons personality. Go, with nothing planned or expected than having a fun date out with your SO, and then tell me I was wrong...

Thank you all for the replies/kind words. It seems like our previous experience was really atypical and not the norm. That's great to know!! Makes me more confident that we'll enjoy ourselves. Thanks again!

Chiropractor and minister (it makes screaming oh god so much meaningful)

.. Well, at least you replied. Not much information for me.

We will be friendly with them and look to other couples for play. I got the clear feeling that their wife did not find our husband appealing. I didn’t find her scintillating, either, so no great loss. We’ll move forward. Maybe I will send another woman into multiple screaming Os within earshot of the rejector.

Good morning Vi. Damn, you felt like writing today. I'm going to mention losing my virginity at the age of 15 with my girlfriend of 3 weeks also 15. She had been dating a good friend, and I had seen, and kinda watched them have sex a few times. She was very uninhibited. One time while she was dating my friend, he brought her out on a night that was usually just us guys. We ended up at a parking spot above town playing a game thought up by someone, designed to get us all naked. Weird really, 3 single guys and the girlfriend of the other. Not sure what the plan was but it didn't matter. Cops showed up and took our beer and made fun of us, all half naked, her down to panties and bra. Kinda insinuated she was a slut, ready to do us all. Honestly she would have done us all. They broke it off a couple weeks later and I asked if he'd be too freaked if I dated her. He was cool (at the time) so said to go for it. We had been flirting a lot and knew we were going to date at some point. Anyway, she had morning study hall which she could attend or not so she always slept in. I had a 4 hour shop class in the morning and the teacher would take role and bolt. So I had the mornings free as well. I drove to her house, empty except her, in bed. I joined her and we were soon both naked. I was really nervous and sliding my dick between her ass cheeks and sheet. I thought I was in. She notified me I wasn't and shifted around and put me in. Whoa, ok not ready for this. Lasted longer than I expected but lost it and dumped my huge teen age load in her. BTW, both my brothers were recipients of high school pregnancy, marriage at 17 and a baby. Got lucky and she was not pregnant. There was some sweat. I quickly learned control. We kept dating, we married at 18,(to the chagrin of my brothers)this was in 1980. Had a couple kids while I was in the marines. I just saw her off to work. My heart still swells when I think of her. What a ride she has provided.

My favorite position is to ride a guy reverse and have his wife or my husband servicing my pussy. It also works well if I am on all fours and taking it from behind while i’m getting oral from the bottom.

Time for you to both sit down and have a heart to heart talk. She doesn't seem as concerned about the 28 year marriage or anything else that concerns you. Let her know that this is causing you harm, this isn't kind loving behavior, and this needs to stop (or at least be put on hold for a bit) and see what she has to say. Part of this is probably her running on the NRE (new relationship energy, it's new and exciting), but it is at the cost of your emotional security. She needs to know this. The NRE will start to wear off and she should see that this guy (other than being new) isn't all that, but you need to talk. No threats or pressure, just the truth. I'm guessing that she likes his authority and it sounds like that is something you lack. Without being confrontational, it's time to stand up and take charge. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

I have read all your responses up to this time. Yes, 28 years of marriage is nothing to take lightly. You have your work cut out for you. It sounds like you are approaching this with some thought & care... and that will usually get you a LOT farther than being purely reactionary, especially on the spur of the moment. Best wishes for a speedy, healthy, and safe resolution to this situation. bud

Danger, Will Robinson, Danger. This is classic batterer behavior.

Some one needs to be kicked to the curb YESTERDAY. The boyfriend or your wife. Her choice.

The couple that plays together stays together. Couples that play separately have my admiration, but they are playing with fire.

This is probably a very painful lesson for you. It could have been very, very expensive. I'd suggest you put swinging activities on hiatus for a while and fix your marriage. Trust is a lot easier to maintain than it is to rebuild and you have a lot of work to do.

Being alone with a sex partner from time-to-time for sex or otherwise is fun and fine, but all the time? Why?

I strongly suggest you take the very next exit, ‘cuz I believe you are currently heading for ten miles of really bad road.

If the wife has said stop, then you stop. The reason why doesn't matter. If either one of you says no, then the answer for the both of you is no. Time to move along.

I was 17 me and a friend in high school picked up two girls . We went back to his house and put on some music . One girl didn't feel well and went to sleep the other , one thing led to another and next thing I knew she was blowing me while he fucked her from behind . We spent the next 2 hours switching back and forth till every one came ! It was a fun night !

I had to look back to see if I had answered this one. Not surprisingly, I had, but it was way back when we were new to this, so my answer has changed. I have allowed a select few swing partners to cum inside me. My tubes are tied, and I'd known the gentlemen for quite awhile. It's definitely not something I would do with anyone I didn't know well/feel very comfortable with.