I apparently have a COMPLETELY different definition of "nice" than y'all do.
I am a bit confused... and wonder also if this is just a trolling post... yet I will take this opportunity (and the time) to climb on my soap-box. ... Perhaps it will be of value to some....
"'Cause it's signals, Jerry, it's signals!" ... "This is the signal, Jerry, this is the signal!".
- George Costanza - Seinfeld
I turned 60 this past summer. ... In the past decade or so I have had a number of "epiphanies". I suspect this is something we all do, as a part of the aging process. (One [or multiples] of those epiphanies has been getting involved with this BBS.) ... :-D
It is only in the past 2 to 3 years that I have come to the conclusion that it is all about respect... and that door swings BOTH ways. (While I do my best to be respectful of others, I have no doubt that I occasionally drop the ball. Life is an education.)
But I do not care who you are these days, even someone that I am forced to have contact with on a regular basis (family member, co-worker, etc.)... If I feel disrespected by someone in any way, I am inclined to hand them their walking-papers, immediately, no explanation on my part is needed (or required). When contact is inescapable, I will be cordial, answer questions, etc... but I never volunteer anything, and the moment I can sever the contact, I jump on it! .... (I am a bit of a late-bloomer. It has been quite a ride so far.)
I am fairly confident that most would agree...
Life is far to short to spend time entertaining a**holes.
One thing I think of often these days, that helps me stay on track, is this:
"If you loan someone $20 and never see them again, then it was probably a good investment."
(When viewed metaphorically, this can cover a LOT of territory.)
Another nugget that I am very fond of is something I picked up in the late '80's, while regularly attending Al-Anon-ACOA meetings...
"You cannot change others. You can only change yourself, and how you react to others."
If you are happy with your current situation (and the "LOL" response seems to be an indicator of this), I say, "Party ON Dude!"
If you are unhappy and/or distressed by your current situation, then maybe it is time to take a good look within yourself, and ask, "What do I really want out of life?"
As I finished this post (which was fun to write), I decided to look back on some of the OP's past submissions.
All I can say at this point is:
If you do not have Peace & Happiness in your life, and that is something that you desire, then I sincerely hope you can find it.
Good Luck.
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