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See have some questions for you fine folks, if you don't mind. First a bit of background. We have fantasized about swinging for some time but are not sure it is for us. We thought the best way to see if and where we fit is to go to a club. We travel a good bit and have looked up clubs online. We haven't gone to one yet because we are uncomfortable breaking the ice. Can anyone recommend clubs in the south east or California that may have folks like us? We are in our mid & late '50s, lots of kids and grand kids, pretty vanilla outside of our own bedroom but love our sex life together. We think a not pushy, classy, friendly atmosphere with good dancing and others our age, and the freedom to just watch and see what it's all about, would work well for us. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

Yes, I also feel the age of swingers is tilted towards later in life. Many couples get married in their twenties and early thirties, believe that monogamy is the way to live, I don't think the interest in other people goes away, it's just subdued. Then as the couple reaches their late forties and fifties, the children are growing into high school, they begin to look at being empty nesters. They see their sex life as ordinary, if not just plain boring. This is the point when some couples start fantasizing and consider non-monogamy. And some take the next step, enter the LifeStyle. Certainly not all swinging couples follow this pattern, it just seems typical.

Click on "magnum" above his post to get to his profile, scroll down, then click on "Albums Created by magnum" to view the pictures.

We are both neatly trimmed and prefer the same.

As a bi guy it's REALLY hard to differentiate yourself to stand out from the bs crowd of guys who claim to be bi just to get to screw some guys wife....or the total flakes. It's frustrating.