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The hardest thing you will do is walking thru the door. After that everything will get so much easier...and you will feel silly for being afraid to walk thru the door. ANY club you visit will have people just like you. Some younger, some older, some 'prettier', some not as pretty. This is the voice of experience talking. Just find a club and go. Stick to Saturdays since that will be the busiest night and other nights they may allow single men (as already stated they are usually very pushy). Once you have taken that first step and walked thru the door, let the club know that this is your first trip. They will usually give you a tour and/or turn you over to another couple to help out with questions and the like. Make sure that you have already discussed your limits and boundaries and go with no expectations other than having a sexy night out with your partner. From that point what you do is up to you. You will probably be surprised and excited with seeing people naked and having sex and even if you don't do anything more than watch (and watching is okay), you will go home and usually have a very hot night in your bed. The next day, report your findings back here. Good luck and have fun!

Just an update for anyone interested. This is the motor mount that will drive the oscillating plate that the toy attaches to. It is designed to fit a motor I believe should have the speed to handle the demand. I am attaching the 3D images, however I have printed everything I am showing to make sure it fits easily available parts. This would fit a 100/150W 12/24V DC motor made by Unite Motors, a motor that is cheap and internationally available online. Once I start to assemble parts and make sure everything fits, I will upload some photos and 3D STL design files.

My wife and I have been full-swap from our start and have eschewed soft swap. But we have recently met people who have given us a new understanding. We met then at a Saturday evening social and while inviting us to their condominium they said, "we want you to know that we do soft swap." It was a mild surprise but my wife and I exchanged a few words and made a spontaneous decision that it would be OK. Well, it was great fun. Both this man and this woman had perfectly good reasons for not wanting penetration. I am thinking that we will no longer deflect Web-site inquiries based solely on the fact that the profile specifies soft swap. And I do not believe that we will require people to explain their reasons. Should open new opportunity.

Withholding information, particularly when a question is asked, is as bad as saying something you know is not true. One of my sons was once having lunch with fellow teachers when (somehow) anal sex was brought up. He said, "My parents tried once early in their marriage and never did it again." A teacher was appalled that he "knew that about your parents!" He thanked me for the way we raised him.

Overall, the experience was exciting, but the extra drinks she had dampened the experience for sure. We are meeting other couples but have yet to have another swap. My wife said she only wants us to meet this couple again if I’m excited about being with them again. I told her that I am excited about the prospect, but want to make sure this lady can control her intake before playing. We are chatting with the couple about plans and they mentioned next time only having a couple of drinks, which sounds much better.

We feel it's all about fun. Yes, PIV is fun. But so is licking and sucking and touching and taking her clothes off and . . . So we never turned down a soft-swap couple that we liked. On the other hand, one time a guy who was interviewing for an MFM threesome said he was soft-swap, and we passed.

You need to communicate what you are looking for and what your comfortable doing before hand. Everyone need to know the other limitations and respect them

Sometimes it's nice to have the last dance with the one you came with. There's that comfortable familiarity finishing with your partner after you've been all worked up by someone else. As I think most guys know, sometimes there is pressure to perform that can be debilitating. Shit gets in your head about performance, condom stress, whatever. Having the flexibility to go back to your own partner, or the understanding that's where it will end up can take the pressure off. Nothing wrong with that.

We believe in orgasms and we like sharing them with other couples. Hence, we don't necessarily require penetration. In fact, we like having orgasms in a group setting. Where they happen is way less important to us than THAT they happen. Consequently, even though we arena enjoy full swap swinging, we are more than ok playing with a soft swap couple.

We are devout condom users for full swap, but do not use protection for oral (soft swap). Therefore, if a couple is soft swap, it eliminates the stress of maintaining an erection with a condom on. When couples tell us they are soft swap, we are somewhat relieved and fine with it.