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Thanks for the unblinking and dispassionate report. There are plenty of authoritative reports highlighting the rapid rise in STIs among older Americans. Risk-management is the first defense. As a physician, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of transparency with your health care team. If you play, be candid with your healthcare professional. We will not judge. Let me repeat, we will not judge. Nor will we gossip, "out" you, or put your marital or work lives at risk. Our sole responsibility is to keep you in the best possible health--including sexual health-- and that requires your full confidence and collaboration.

We are a 50’s couple that struggles to get from the socializing stage of meeting people to the actual playtime. We have been to 5 parties this year that has resulted in no play for us this year yet. I don’t feel we are unattractive. What we have seem to witness is the other people are always a step ahead of us. An example of this would be say my wife asks a guy to play but he states he already made a promise to another lady. Or I start flirting with a lady but her focus gets drawn away by another guy. But later I ask her to play and she states I’m too tired for anyone else that evening. There are other scenarios as well. Such as being couple blocked by another couple we were interested in. These are house parties that it’s known everyone will play. They are small. 10 couples typically. So my question is how do you deal with this? Another question I have is how as a guy, can I keep from being cock blocked so much?

This is true. In our case, we play with people who are honest enough to tell us when something suspicious happens, we tell the gynecologist, primary care physician, and medical professionals at an urgent care clinic about our activities. My story represents just the second time within fourteen years of bareback activity that either of us have acquitted an STO; the first time was HPV, which using a condom would probably not prevented.

First time was in a 4some with my wife at a swing club. We had settled into a room and were playing with ourselves. Then an attractive older woman knocked on the door and asked to join. Soon as we said yes she dived right between my wife's legs and started eating her out. Which was an indescribably hot first for us as well. After she made my wife cum she started going down on me and went straight to fingering my ass while she blew me. I murmured to her that I bet she's great with a strap-on which lit her up with a devious grin. Then her husband joined as well, which to be honest we never realized we were agreeing to a package deal. He was a tall built prison guard. Things progressed to an outright full swap with us fucking each other's wives. In between rounds there was a little chit chat where he mentioned they were open-minded. When the action heated back up again I was having an internal debate about whether I should go for it and make a move on the husband. His wife was blowing him and I just went for it. Started licking and sucking his cock with her. It felt so strange having that warm hard yet soft cock between my lips. A mixture of what I expected and not. But I was really enjoying it. I mentioned to her that it was my first time and she smiled and fed my his cock. He said it was his first time as well. My wife watched and made out with him as I blew him. His wife got behind me and stuck some fingers up my ass then held her hand against herself and mimed fucking me, clearly enjoying this like it had been a long fantasy of hers. He then said he wanted to fuck my wife again so I slipped a condom on him and guided his cock into my wife as she lowered herself onto him. Then put a condom on myself and fucked his wife. We both came and collapsed in a heap of bodies. Not long after another girl asked to join! We started playing with her but not long after her girlfriend came in and scolded her for leaving her to the creepy single guys out there, which ended that session as quickly as it started. But hey, technically a 5some? We exchanged numbers with the couple at the end of the night but never met up with them again. My wife is only really interested in one night stands in the swinging world. After I felt, I don't know, some sort of pride in myself for finally trying it. Also wondered why I waited so long(mid 20s). Now 15 or so years later have only sucked three other cocks, and been fucked by a nice thick BBC. We don't swing often. Once every few years sorta deal. We have fun with strap-ons and realistic dildos on odd occasion. But I'm finding at around the 5 year mark I just have a need for another cock. I become a bit obsessed with it and just need to vent that energy. Which is right about now... Wife also wants to try a gang bang, so I'm sure we can work that out as a two birds one stone situation. Looking forward to that next experience. We're going to be visiting family in Ohio in July but staying in an airbnb for the week. May well happen there.

There can be as many reasons as there are players. Attraction comes down to the five senses: sight, sound, touch, taste, smell, more or less in that order. Sight involves both 'fitness', how you carry yourself, how you present yourself, what you are wearing, grooming. It goes without saying that all should be optimized. Perhaps the most important is sound. How do you present yourselves when you greet a couple for the first time? What do you say, and how do you say it? Try it into a recorder--you can do this with your smartphone of course--wait a few minutes and play it back. Speaking--voice, timbre, gestures, expressions--that's a skill and like any other skill demands practice. You have to be authentic, warm, engaged, inviting. It is not easy. Touch is among the complex issues at parties, because you want to send signals--the invitation to the dance--with just the right intensity and just the right time. Perhaps the best way to think of this is 'seduction at warp speed'--which means that you need to be able to read the signals and respond in just the right time frame. Pre-LS, women are usually more experienced at this than men. Smell and taste--that's personal style. We are minimalists--fresh and clean works best. The chemistry is absent more than it is present. That said, looking people in the eye, a smile on the face and warmth in the voice and expressing genuine interest in the person(s) with whom you are speaking matter more than anything else. That first eye contact from across the room, the introduction, those first words make you vulnerable -- after all, you can't be rejected if you don't put yourself out there. Embrace that vulnerability--within it lies your greatest power.

"What if you have 4 - 5 inches!" I was getting excited, but sorry, I thought this was the ski report.

I , the male, am very polite and shy. I am hesitant to ask women to play. But as my wife says, you have to keep asking. After a horrible track record at house parties, my last two were a smashing success. Here is what happened. Party one: I start playing with my wife. Another man who we know starts playing with her, too, I ask him if his wife will be coming over. He says later. Apparently, she would rather get a blow on the head than play with me. I move onto the bed where I suck the boobs and make out with a woman getting intercourse from her husband. I then go down on a woman who previously ditched us a a hotel party. I then, to my surprise, had intercourse with her. Very successful party. Party two: we know all but one couple at a house party. They are younger and attractive. My wife and I pounce on them when playtime starts. Great session! I go on to join two women I know for my first FFM threesome. What can we learn? Hover near the action, ask if you can join, someone will say yes. Strike early. Know a lot of people at the party. When we know no one or one couple only, it’s difficult to go from strangers to intimate. Sometimes, it’s just luck of the draw, but some strategy helps. Whatever you think is going to happen is not what happens. But when you have fun at a future party, you will have a big smile.

Early on, Mrs Doc was not comfortable with playmates cumming inside her or swallowing strangers during bj's. Happily that started to change pretty quickly during our 1st year or so. Now, when she knows a guy is close with a bj, she'll look up at him and smile, her hand will slow its strokes and her lips are just around the head. If he involuntarily moves his hips forward even a little, thats her sign and she'll slide her mouth as far down as she can and go to work until he cums. If he pulls back a little, she'll read that as an indicator that he wants to cum on her tits and will slowly jack him till he releases. If she's fucking a guy and its good, she won't let him pull out till he cums in her. If she's on top, she'll lean back a bit and rotate her hips, slowly at first then faster till he thrusts upward and cums. She almost always gets off like this. If its missionary and she gets close, she'll cross her ankles around his butt and pull him in tightly and whisper "cum in me". When he does, she almost always does too. I know how it feels, she did it with me the very first time we boinked. Its really hot to see her do that with a guy while Im next to them deep in his wife. She also likes a guy to do her from behind. She loves how deep it feels and likes when he cums in her that way too. She doesn't mind tho if he pulls out and cums on her ass, especially if he slides back in to help her finish. Of course, most of these things we'd discovered together before we started swinging. God she is FUN!! As for me, when I get close to cumming, I'll ask my partner where she wants me to cum unless she's given me a clear indication of what she wants me to do. My preferences are : #1 in her pussy, #2 in her mouth, #3 on her ass or on her outer lips. #5 on her tits. Overall though, we just like orgasms and sharing them with friends. The where is less important than the fact that happen.

We were custom building a house. The builder we'd hired was a cool guy and he and his gorgeous wife were our age. We became friends quickly, early on in the process. We'd gone to dinner together, sort of to discuss building matters. We'd had them to our home for drinks and then one evening at their home a name of a single man was mentioned by the wife of that couple. She simply mentioned him as a vanilla friend but we also knew the guy from swinging and knew the only way she must have known him was from the same way. I figured there was no reason to beat around the bush, and in fact I was very interested in her bush, so I said that we knew the guy too and asked if she'd enjoyed him as much as my wife had. During the rest of the construction period we played with them several times and even took a long weekend trip with them. The playing had no adverse effects on the business side and some very great memories. We, both of us couples, moved on to other folks and other things after the business side of the relationship was completed but we, and I think they too, never had any regrets.

We were with our neighbor. There was a ton of sexual tension between my wife and him. We ended up drinking and flirting. He and I began rubbing her tits nd making out. She undressed for us and and started sucking our cocks. She sucked his cock while I fucked her from behind - his dick was perfect and a lot bigger than mine. I could tell she was totally into him so I invited him to switch with me. I got on my back nd had her straddle my face - i figured it would drive her wild to have be eating her while he pounded her with his big cock. She came very fast and I shot a load in her mouth. when she was ready he put his cock in her again. While he was fucking i just instinctively rubbed his shaft with my tongue. As he pulled out of her i took the head of his cock in my mouth. He went back and forth between my mouth and her pussy until he finally went balls deep in her and ejaculated. I sucked his balls and could feel his thick cock pulsing as he put his load in her. It was a first for all of us. My wife was so turned on by the whole experience. We laid around afterwards and she continued to kiss us and play with our cocks. I held his cock as she sucked him off - he came again. My wife masturbated watching him sucking my cock. We sat back nd jerked off together until we both shot another load. She continues to totally get off seeing me with another guy.

For my wife and I, as well as the other couples who we play with, that's one of the best parts, seeing and thinking about our dearest screwing someone else. We compliment the couple when a pairing is particularly good. And don't discourage emotional connections.

I think its 72 virgins but there's another plus with the sluts…..you don't have to blow up first to get them. Having experienced a few virgins back in high school (what Billy Joel sings about catholic girls isn't exactly true) I don't see what the fuss is all about. Experienced girls were much more fun, the slutty ones even more so. The last house party we attended my wife had 4 different guys and blew 2 others. Recounting it on the way home she laughingly said, "honey, I'm such a slut". My response was, "yep, and I'm SO proud of you"!

I will answer from a guy's point of view. Maybe our situation is different, we had our first experience with friends who were very experienced. I admit to the nervousness. On the hand we were with best friends who tried to take the edge off. Did I want to fuck my wife's best friend? You betcha. Everything was done with a laugh and a joke in a good way. Took the edge off for me. After some mutual oral play, she got on top of me. So the first penetration was really her taking me in. For us, we didn't use condoms. I did have some thoughts on that. We know we are clean, they are active, so we did take a chance. I had asked if they were sure and her answer was just have fun. I know after I was in, she joked about me liking it. She just sat on me with short rocking. Then a few more and stopped. I did worry about finishing before starting. Don't laugh, I was picturing her in a bathing suit on the beach in my mind, rather than naked and fucking. Damn, this was our friend. I tried to cum and when I knew I was going to I wanted to pull out. I didn't. How did I feel? Like I wanted to fuck her again.

In our case, (6 other guys), we all played with her in what would be considered foreplay for about 1 hr, then each took turns individually lasting from about 10-30 minutes. No one was looking to "get in, get off, get out". Just going at their own pace and having fun. We had astroglide available and several wanted to do anal so they had no problem. After each coupling the two went in and took a shower. The showers sometimes took a while. We also had refreshments. Not all were there from the beginning, and the guys left as they saw fit until the last left at about 3am, leaving my girl, the host and me. We then retired to the king size bed in his bedroom for some more fun and eventual sleep. I guess this not the typical way gang-bangs go, but we thought it went well.

Sperm Wars . . . think George Lucas might be interested in filming the trilogy?