I understand where you are coming from no doubt. Similar to you I truly enjoy watching my wife, thus it would not be a distraction for me. Unfortunately, it’s not my decision alone. My wife probably wouldn’t be ok with just us watching initially. In time, if our relationship grew I know that would change. We’re currently in a long term relationship and bc of that I’ve had the pleasure to watched her with another man alone. Communication is key!! Good luck, hope you find what you are looking for soon.