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We had many chances when we were young. But neither of us moved forward. Things changed in our forties. A new adventure. Nudism, swinging, poly relationships. Close friends with benefits. Life goes on and changes, twists and turns. Move with the flow. Emotions grow in time.....the more time, life and intimacy you share. It can be a blessing. That is how our experiences have been. It allows us to grow but doesn’t define us or our relationship. We are partners first.....best friends, lovers.....

Are you going to run into "rude, snobby" people in life, in the LifeStyle? Of course you are - that's part of it. The question is, how are you going to respond. You know the proper answer - smile, say something nice, then vacate the area and let the other person irritate someone else. Anything other than that will wind up making you look bad.

People who brag a lot., in almost any venue are those who are the least secure in themselves and have a need to belittle others to keep themselves from appearing small. This was true in grade school and is true in business, why not in the LS also? I am not talking about people with truly interesting stories that fit into a conversation. I speak of those for whom the stories ARE the conversation. The more people brag about all the things they have done. The greater the distance we create between them and us.

Then talk with her, tell her how you feel. If you can't communicate with each other about anything and EVERYTHING, that may be part of the problem.

Wanted to come back to this. As we've started to familiarize ourselves with SLS, I've gotta say, the amount of rudeness, even within the profiles themselves, is pretty remarkable. I can appreciate discrimination on a multitude of levels in order to achieve a desired result. But some of the shouting and comments people include seem to be solely for the purpose of putting people down. Ironically, these also seem to come from the profiles of people that have traveled all over to different LS events/resorts and have an overall great deal of experience so I'm a bit confused by them. Now from the few responses in this thread, it seems like people are not typically this way in person at LS events...which is certainly a good thing that we're hopeful to experience.

Jeri Ryan...she could assimilate both of us!

Front and back seat of an extended cab pickup in a downtown district parking lot on a busy Saturday night. Clothes were still on, well mostly , and the windows were heavily steamed up, but if people walking by had looked very closely, I'm guessing the less prudish ones would have stopped to watch.

My husband and I have been together for a long time and have developed a rich and varied sex life. Part of the credit goes to our play partners. Other men have done things to me that have so thrilled me that I have had my husband do them at home. Or they have asked me to make moves on them that I have later tried out on my husband. The same is true for my husband, who has brought back moves from his swinging experiences. Of course, some activities work only with specific partners. Still, our marital sex has definitely benefitted from our extramarital experiences.

Fun to think about, difficult to act on. I thought I could do it. A poly mmf relationship was within my set of reasoning. Then it started happening. I found that seeing J literally run into another man's arms with "OMG I missed you SO much" was beyond my level of comfortable security. But I think if the comfort level was better, I may be able to do it. With the other man being richer than god, world traveler, too charming, huge dick and hours of stamina, I just saw myself living in my van by the river. We don't see him any longer. He became a dick when we distanced ourselves from him emotionally.