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If this were me, the only thing I would add would be to verbalize that this time she is setting the pace, just so she does not read you as being suddenly standoffish.

Hey again, I'd suggest that when they come over the next time, let your wife and the husband go at whatever pace they feel right. But you might just treat the wife like you would a good friend and let her be the one to make the moves. Let her be in charge of the pace. I think it will give her more confidence and comfort.

Thank you for all the comments and especially the insight. I was feeling that it was all okay after they started talking about coming back up to "hang out" again. Just in the moment when you catch a vibe, it can stick and make you over think. I just now remembered, she tried to shake my hand on the way out the door as well(after they told us we were their first). I just waved it off and gave her a quick hug, I am a hugger anyway, but she seemed kind of standoffish at the time. He has been flirting with my wife like crazy on the phone and it's pretty hot (we share our convo's), but her contacting and saying they want to come back did alleviate some of my worries.

My first time seeing my wife have sex with another man was only a little over 2 months ago, still pretty fresh in my mind (not that I think an event that big will fade much) I was apprehensive, then when he was about to enter her I was smiling, excited, and more. When she started making noises, that was one of the hottest things I have ever witnessed, if not the hottest. Everyone reacts differently, and nobody is wired exactly the same. It sounds like you are thinking like I was before our first full swap and I hope it goes the same way. Mr. Dazed.

What's important is whether or not this works for you. If what your wife is suggesting sounds good, go for it and joy to you. However, if you're not comfortable with it (and it sounds like you may not be) you need to tell her that. Talk with her, be open and honest about how you feel and, by doing so, encourage her to be open and honest with you. Only then can you find the best path forward for you both.

All very good advice and I certainly appreciate that! I did finally tell my husband (he asked). I told him the truth but not in such hurtful language. Being the amazing guy he is, he simply pointed out that not every woman will find him attractive, not every man will me attractive but that's a good thing. If we were all attracted to the same people, it would be chaotic! It did not phase him at all. He did say, however, that if she wanted to play with him, he wouldn't have cared what she had said previously. Men are from Mars?

They were (especially the wife) feeling unsure about how things were between the two of them since this was their first time with a full swap. They were able to talk it out and discovered that everything was okay and are now ready to move forward again. Almost everyone is concerned the first time they open Pandora's Box, but if they can talk it out and have a great relationship they find out that it wasn't as scary as they feared and their relationship is as strong as ever. Sounds like with them sharing limited information, you still did fine.

Well, they made the choice not to tell you they were LS virgins - that's on them. You guys seemed to play well together, and it's obvious from your writing that you (the male) were sensitive to the other females mood. The first time with anyone is bound to have some 'discovery' parts; in fact, that's one of the joys of swinging. You handled it well, I'd say.

They want a rematch. You must have done somethings right so don't over think this.

Funny enough, because we only play locally and not at clubs, I invite every couple we play with here, and we both make sure everyone is good with their partner. We have talked to them many times since last week and they are on board, so I don't know if it is the first time "different than I expected" or something else. It feels like they were in a weird spot and aren't anymore (which we are very glad about). It was just that they, like I said, seemed less than comfortable while doing things, and we don't want to put anyone there. You know, the whole "if you aren't enjoying it, or are going to regret it, then why would I want to do it" thing. I do appreciate the compliment ViSexual. We are trying to be better, for everyone, every time.