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Last night, my wife and I spoke at length about swinging. We both discussed our thoughts, desires, and rules/boundaries. To my surprise, we matched up perfectly and are on the exact same page! We agreed to take it slow and just feel things out initially but are both open to soft and full swaps only in same room with condoms for penetration being required. She also said she doesn't want other males cumming in her mouth and I explained she needed to be up front about that. We also watched an episode of the Playboy Swing reality show, together, which REALLY turned us on. We had some of the best sex we had in a while after watching that, talking about swinging, and imagining ourselves doing it. Who's to say what actually happens the first time I see my wife penetrated or the first time she watches me with another woman. But so far, so good. We'll also be constantly checking in and communicating before, during, and after we do anything. We both agreed we are going to drop a little weight before trying it. I'm 5'8" ~205 and she's 5'10" ~240. I'm going to keep learning here and trying to start dialogue with local clubs so we can familiarize ourselves.

I have no idea why anyone would swing bareback. STDs are nasty. If they inhibit your erection, use Cialis or Viagra.

First, fix the communication with your wife. I know that you said it's fine, but it isn't. Second, talk with her and find out what the issue is. Let her know that if she doesn't want you doing anything with the other woman, then that's exactly what you will do (and do just that). There's still plenty of time and she may very well change her demeanor again at some point but just keep doing things the way you have in the past: group texts, etc. Make sure that she is comfortable with her being your number one and that nothing will happen that she isn't aware of and has approved. Good luck and let us know how things go. Just don't tell us you are going to see Lady Gaga or Celine Dion...Aerosmith, Judas Priest, or even Paul McCarthy are all acceptable (heck, I'd go with you to see Aerosmith or Judas Priest).

Go to the concert with her and don't worry about play—just like real spouses. Most rooms have two beds. Enjoy the show, enjoy each other's company, enjoy the show, and come home to resume the Lifestyle. If you end up in the same bed, you still don't have to party.

Make sure that your light saber works. I bought generic Viagra for $3 a pill (100mg) yesterday. 50mg is enough for me, so I will use a pill splitter.

You are smart to take it slowly. Once you've crossed the line you just can't go back. Now, nothing wrong with crossing the line but the talk, as you already know, is sure sexy too. As you're finding out, opening up a marriage to the possibility of others, turns a spouse into also a best friend.