Leaderboard

Napoleon, you're a troll. I say that for all the other people who are going to read this. We like what we do. We have a lot of fun, and I see no reason to justify it to the likes of you.

so much going on in this thread. First we question motivation of single men looking to get into the LS. Is it a porn fueled fantasy? Do you think it’s an easy lay? Easier than bar scene? Easier than eHarmony or Tinder? Or Grinder? Or is it a sincere exploration of sexually freedom and all it entails? The LS has many complexities, nuances, and emotional mine fields to navigate. And we feel that single men need to know and what understand their motivation. Next, with all that being said, single men are a dime a dozen. Couples, and single ladies for that matter, have no shortage of willing volunteers. What sets you apart? Online is tough. Sdsevits, May have interpreted something that wasn’t said directly but perhaps was implied, messaging through SLS or other online site rarely goes well (mainly because no matter how clever or funny single guys think they sound, we hear “you’re hot, wanna fuck?”) . For us, without public pics, certs, and a paid profile single men can’t get a foot in the door. May sound, and be a little harsh, but we have learned from experience that you need looks and pics (not just your dick, cartoon, meme, Instagram cartoon face, sunglasses and hats) to start a conversation. Due to overwhelming choices with single men, many couples don’t have or wish to invest time in guys who don’t get those basics. Also agree with SW_PA and sdsevits, that in person interaction is the way to go. BE yourself, don’t try to over do it on machismo, be overly flattering, or tell people what you think they want to hear. One of our best experiences was with an average guy, funny, sincere, regular dude, late 40s a bit of a gut and almost HWP, and average endowment. He was charming and made us feel at ease and we had a good time. Kicker is, we met in person by chance. It is much less likely that we would have given him a second look online. We say it stated somewhere “Peoe online are looking for a reason to say no. In person, people are looking to say yes.” In our experience, we have found it to be true.

This is a request / listing for educational and informative resources in general, with an emphasis on podcasts. All things that put “non-monogamy” in a positive light are welcome. (So feel free to list resources like: books, films, blogs, webs, etc.) If you know a resource that helped you in exploring alternative sexual lifestyles, please add it here. I mostly am interested in Podcasts right now, as this is something that is easy & fun to do as a couple (or group). With the ability to pause, and replay, throughout the cast being a big plus… Which offers the opportunity for discussion, etc. This BBS in general has been a great educational resource for me. I have spent a lot of time here (since 2011), mostly reading… occasionally posting. I have somewhat recently (6 months ago) “discovered” Podcasts… and not finding any posts that were topic specific to education resources in a search on this BBS (that jumped out at me), I thought I would post here and ask: What are your favorite Podcasts for the Swinger Lifestyle (the “LS”), and Polyamory? ... and: Why” Here is my list: Normalizing Non-Monogamy https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/ … “NNM” This is by far my favorite podcast to date. I have listened to more of these than all the other sites / casts combined that I have tried. It covers a broad spectrum of non-monogamy, mostly focusing on the topics of Swinger & Polyamory. Sometimes areas of interest overlap, sometimes not. I started with a newer cast that caught my interest, and eventually got to where I was listening to new ones as they came out, and then went backwards (newest to oldest) on the rest of the list, while waiting for new episodes. “Emma & Fin” are great hosts, and do an excellent job keeping the interview lively. A few times I have thought: “I doubt this topic will be interesting”, only to find some jewel of a nugget within. I highly recommend all of these. Recently I listened to Episode 37 - Elizabeth + Phillip, released 2018-Nov-27. (The NNM web, an excellent design, conveniently lists all the episodes, and the main resources within each.) ... If you are a “newbie”, and/or taking your time (months, or years) to jump in, and especially if you are parents and not yet “empty nesters”, then I HIGHLY recommend this episode. It is a bit longer than the usual, but it is worth the time. We Gotta Thing https://wegottathing.com/ Hosted by “Mr. & Mrs. Jones”, I find this podcast to be very engaging & entertaining. It focuses pretty much exclusively on the LS. Sometimes the opening bit is a bit tedious (the first cast I listened to took 20 minutes or more to get to the main subject), but this one is for sure worth listening to, or at least give it a try. ? The following are other casts that I have listened to or noted, but not enough that I can speak on them in detail. They are more options to consider, for sure, if the topic of non-monogamy is of interest to you. Casual Swinger https://casualswinger.com/ That Couple Next Door https://www.thatcouplenextdoor.com/ Swinging Downunder http://www.swingingdownunder.com/ Front Porch Swingers https://www.frontporchswingers.com/ (A basic search on this one can be a bit tricky, as the name is not entirely unique.) The Science of Sex https://www.google.com/search?q=The+Science+of+Sex+Zhana There are a number of sites for “Dr. Zhana Vrangalova” (with a PhD in Developmental Psychology), so the above search should help you get to them all. Getting Into The Swing Of Things https://www.google.com/search?q=Getting+Into+The+Swing+Of+Things+Podcast (I do not list the web for this one, because the last time I looked it appeared to have been hacked, and badly… but is available through “Google Play Music > Podcasts”.) = = = FYI… I mostly listen to Podcasts (and subscribe) using an Android based tablet, using the app “Google Play Music”. Most (if not all) of the websites allow you to listen from there. Not all of the podcasts appear to be available through Google Play Music. I have seen books and such listed elsewhere throughout the SB.com BBS, but it is all kind of scattered. So this post is an effort to get “educational & informational” resources listed in one place. Be Well… Have Fun!

My wife was swinging with my bestfriend who was extremely hung and she said he was the best because of his size and did things that I couldn't. Now I'm not small either, I'd say alittle above average but it still stings alittle but at the end of the day I want her to have the best experience right?? Any other guys going through this same scenario? Thoughts??

Unless you are "out" as a swinger - I cannot for the life of me understand why you would trust Facebook. Facebook has consistently shown itself as untrustworthy. Facebook would sell YOUR soul for a dollar.

I call SNOWFLAKE!!

I recall one instance of being jealous because my wife was very vocal with a guy. When I mentioned it to her, she rolled her eyes and said she'd been faking it to get him to finish up so she could move on with the evening. LOL One thing I always remember, no matter how much fun she has playing with other guys, my wife comes home with me at the end of the night. She picked me and she keeps picking me. So, my advice is talk to your wife. Maybe she was putting on a show (it's a total porn star line, after all). Maybe he really was great. But remember, she goes home with you.

Napoleon body shaming is not cool. You come across as arrogant, certainly not charming. Were you perhaps denied entry to the clubs for HWP? Charming is usually an unspoken requirement and you may not have passed.

Apparently, you're not such a "high quality single male" or you'd have way more luck in the swinging world. Good luck with the rest of your life, you won't be missed.

Yes i enjoy it...

We like our play friends, we trust our play friends. They (different couples) have reported to us contracting HPV, HSV, chlamydia and gonnorhea while swinging. We will continue to play with condoms with the realization that they are not perfect. Even if someone has STD test results, they are moot the day after they play with someone else. Caveat emptor.

Your husband is a lucky man. If there were security cameras in the space they are likely not constantly monitored and would only be looked at after the fact and only if they had a reason. Its likely that there are dozens of cameras in the building but most likely focused in the lobby, concessions and box office area. Most security systems only store video for 30 days. I think you're reasonably safe. It would be nice however if you'd share that picture with us here.

My first gangbang was not planned just happened with 3 of hubby's mates. They were watching some boring sport on tv so went into kitchen and opened bottle of wine. So then went in and sat down between them. I was wearing a light summer dress and told them I was very warm and got up and stepped out of the dress so sat down again. They were looking at hubby to see his reaction and hubby told them to do what ever they wanted. I could feel hands all over me. I told them to undress and would suck their dicks which they were more than happy to do. I lead them to our bedroom to which all made love to me. I thought I would be sore which I wasn't. The mates would keep asking hubby when could they arrange. It became a regular thing with more guys being involved.

Her being happy is important, but so is you being happpy. I'm not trying to say you're on the wrong track or anything, but you seem very concerned about how this is going and how she's conducting it. Are you enjoying it?

Yeah it was alittle crazy watching her scream and moan with such pleasure like that but at the same time I was so happy for her.

I'm having my first train this Saturday. Going to a hotel, I'll be blindfolded, people show up, put on a condom, fuck me and leave. Hoping for a good turnout, so far I have approximately 18 interested guys,who knows how many will actually show up though. Put the hot date on SLS, So I figure there will be more people contacting me between now and Saturday. Hoping its as fun as I'm imagining. Fingers crossed.

I want to try with 4-5 guys.. will you share your experience and help me to get gangbanged