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This is a request / listing for educational and informative resources in general, with an emphasis on podcasts. All things that put “non-monogamy” in a positive light are welcome. (So feel free to list resources like: books, films, blogs, webs, etc.) If you know a resource that helped you in exploring alternative sexual lifestyles, please add it here. I mostly am interested in Podcasts right now, as this is something that is easy & fun to do as a couple (or group). With the ability to pause, and replay, throughout the cast being a big plus… Which offers the opportunity for discussion, etc. This BBS in general has been a great educational resource for me. I have spent a lot of time here (since 2011), mostly reading… occasionally posting. I have somewhat recently (6 months ago) “discovered” Podcasts… and not finding any posts that were topic specific to education resources in a search on this BBS (that jumped out at me), I thought I would post here and ask: What are your favorite Podcasts for the Swinger Lifestyle (the “LS”), and Polyamory? ... and: Why” Here is my list: Normalizing Non-Monogamy https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/ … “NNM” This is by far my favorite podcast to date. I have listened to more of these than all the other sites / casts combined that I have tried. It covers a broad spectrum of non-monogamy, mostly focusing on the topics of Swinger & Polyamory. Sometimes areas of interest overlap, sometimes not. I started with a newer cast that caught my interest, and eventually got to where I was listening to new ones as they came out, and then went backwards (newest to oldest) on the rest of the list, while waiting for new episodes. “Emma & Fin” are great hosts, and do an excellent job keeping the interview lively. A few times I have thought: “I doubt this topic will be interesting”, only to find some jewel of a nugget within. I highly recommend all of these. Recently I listened to Episode 37 - Elizabeth + Phillip, released 2018-Nov-27. (The NNM web, an excellent design, conveniently lists all the episodes, and the main resources within each.) ... If you are a “newbie”, and/or taking your time (months, or years) to jump in, and especially if you are parents and not yet “empty nesters”, then I HIGHLY recommend this episode. It is a bit longer than the usual, but it is worth the time. We Gotta Thing https://wegottathing.com/ Hosted by “Mr. & Mrs. Jones”, I find this podcast to be very engaging & entertaining. It focuses pretty much exclusively on the LS. Sometimes the opening bit is a bit tedious (the first cast I listened to took 20 minutes or more to get to the main subject), but this one is for sure worth listening to, or at least give it a try. ? The following are other casts that I have listened to or noted, but not enough that I can speak on them in detail. They are more options to consider, for sure, if the topic of non-monogamy is of interest to you. Casual Swinger https://casualswinger.com/ That Couple Next Door https://www.thatcouplenextdoor.com/ Swinging Downunder http://www.swingingdownunder.com/ Front Porch Swingers https://www.frontporchswingers.com/ (A basic search on this one can be a bit tricky, as the name is not entirely unique.) The Science of Sex https://www.google.com/search?q=The+Science+of+Sex+Zhana There are a number of sites for “Dr. Zhana Vrangalova” (with a PhD in Developmental Psychology), so the above search should help you get to them all. Getting Into The Swing Of Things https://www.google.com/search?q=Getting+Into+The+Swing+Of+Things+Podcast (I do not list the web for this one, because the last time I looked it appeared to have been hacked, and badly… but is available through “Google Play Music > Podcasts”.) = = = FYI… I mostly listen to Podcasts (and subscribe) using an Android based tablet, using the app “Google Play Music”. Most (if not all) of the websites allow you to listen from there. Not all of the podcasts appear to be available through Google Play Music. I have seen books and such listed elsewhere throughout the SB.com BBS, but it is all kind of scattered. So this post is an effort to get “educational & informational” resources listed in one place. Be Well… Have Fun!

Specifically, you complained that they were pleasant and happy to meet you, inviting you over to their tables, but became rude after you'd sat down and talked to them for a while. If a resume entitled "SINGLE MALE" gets you job interviews, but the job interviews end with a firm "don't call us, we'll call you", it's not the resume that's the problem. It's something about you that's only obvious once you start talking that's wrecking the interaction. I'm sure they're devastated.

Having read your posts, Napoleon, I think there are other issues you have which contribute to your lack of success in our swinging world. You exhibit symptoms of "Malignant Narcissism." Have you considered a career in Public Service?

Looking at just some of the threads about single men and the LS, the happy successful men who blend vs what appear to be the angry involuntary male celibates looking for ‘easy’ sex seems clear.

This particular club was Colette in New Orleans but we’ve also been to secrets in Kissimmee. It was a slow night so I can’t speak to how it is on the weekend. Unfortunately we’ve moved back north. We hope to be back in Florida by winter. I’m not doing a northern winter ever again. Mr nomad.

Looking at just some of the threads about single men and the LS, the happy successful men who blend vs what appear to be the angry involuntary male celibates looking for ‘easy’ sex seems clear.

I sense a Napoleon complex going on.

So, let me get this straight: because the other guy is having casual sex with the other woman, there's no chance that he could be interested in something more with your wife... In what world do you live. Just because he is having casual sex with one woman, doesn't mean he is interested in ONLY having casual sex. This could all still go wrong. In fact, since he really isn't in any kind of serious committed relationship with the other woman there's nothing to stop him (if he is interested) from trying to have a relationship with anyone else. Even if he isn't interested, do you think he's going to keep quiet about having a threesome? Also, the woman (who is already a friend), well, there's still several unknowns there as well. What if (I know, it isn't going to happen) she gets back together with her estranged husband? It never happens until it does (and it does more often than you think). That would put a crimp with the friendship...and what if he finds out? Think he will be happy and keep quiet about it? At some point (it may be once, it may be several times) the fun will end and then all that is left is your intimate knowledge of her wild deeds. That may also cause some comfortableness in the future. Risk/reward my friend. We think the risk is too high for too small (lol) of a reward but the final decision is up to all of you.

I disagree...they'll take for much less than that.

Swinging was once called "wife swapping." My late wife and I called it "spouse" swapping (or sharing). If a person didn't have a "spouse" to share, they were in the wrong place. To us, a single person in the lifestyle is much like a fellow who takes a bus to an event sponsored by the Porsche club. He has no Porsche but is quick to assure us his exceptional skills as a driver would enable him to make our cars perform in a way never previously known. If a man wants to swing, he should get married. Only then could he understand the emotions we deal with when our wives are in an intimate embrace with another man. Yeah, alright, his wife is in our arms which is the key to swinging.

@EASTInWest Well I'm not going to respond nicely to men and women being rude to me. My very first post was how couples were rude to me because I didn't come with a woman, then next time my girlfriend decided to come with me and NOW those same couples are nice to me. I gave them back the same rude cold shoulder they gave me. They got the hint and walked away from me and my girlfriend. That same night my girlfriend received a lot of eye-rolls and cold shoulders when from women(bisexual wives) when they found out she was a heterosexual woman. This same night though I did meet a few very cool couples. Me and my girlfriend spent the rest of the night chatting with them. Also the last time I went to a swinger club was 7 months ago. I'll never attend a swinger club again.

This is what you typically expect on an anonymous site, but this Board has avoided these trolls and goofballs most of the time. Hopefully, this snowflake finds another place to bother people.

Im really curious now. Whats a wonderful, engaging, affluent, fit and charming (did I get it al??)Oh, I forgot, and possessed of three reportedly young and attractive women doing HERE. Put another way, WTF do you hope to accomplish by posting on this board??? We're all clearly too old for you, most swinger women are too fat for you to even notice and apparently, someone was very, very mean to you and hurt your feelings. Back to your safe place now? Is your tantrum about over? If we had a kids table at this site, we'd probably send you there. You're just not ready to be with the grownups.

Unless you are "out" as a swinger - I cannot for the life of me understand why you would trust Facebook. Facebook has consistently shown itself as untrustworthy. Facebook would sell YOUR soul for a dollar.

We're both fit, active, not particularly drinkers, and on the young side of the swinging crowd, to the point that we aren't sure if we'd be a fit at most clubs. I can tell you, though, that what you may rationalize as people reacting to you being "picky" is likely others simply reacting to you being abrasive and egotistical. While I like a nice body as much as anybody, it's never occurred to me in my life to broadly categorize women as "HWP" or "non-HWP" and to rule out sex with the ones who don't fit some type category. It's also a little odd that you stress being a real estate developer in your profile on a swinging site. You've got something superficial going on that oozes off of you, and if you work on scrubbing that off might find you make better connections, regardless of what kind of women you're going after.

I recall one instance of being jealous because my wife was very vocal with a guy. When I mentioned it to her, she rolled her eyes and said she'd been faking it to get him to finish up so she could move on with the evening. LOL One thing I always remember, no matter how much fun she has playing with other guys, my wife comes home with me at the end of the night. She picked me and she keeps picking me. So, my advice is talk to your wife. Maybe she was putting on a show (it's a total porn star line, after all). Maybe he really was great. But remember, she goes home with you.

Napoleon body shaming is not cool. You come across as arrogant, certainly not charming. Were you perhaps denied entry to the clubs for HWP? Charming is usually an unspoken requirement and you may not have passed.

Napoleon, you're a troll. I say that for all the other people who are going to read this. We like what we do. We have a lot of fun, and I see no reason to justify it to the likes of you.

If you can "easily get young childless attractive HWP single women" than why don't you just go do it and leave other people's wives alone? Im sure that a guy who's a "male with three women in a relationship with me" has enough on his plate. Clearly, you're just one of those single males who "brings nothing to a couple" but your penis.

A lot of the jealousy and other emotions can be controlled and dealt with if you and your spouse remember to reconnect with each other afterwards. Talk about those feelings openly. Reassure each other. MAKE LOVE. That reconnection is really the best part of swinging.

This is ours…. We think a little tease attracts interest and besides, isn't the purpose of the sites to facilitate sex?

You're the guy with that signature! Well I guess you knew that. I think with regard to these friends we will probably invite them when we are going to an event where they can attend but if they want to play otherwise we've let them know that they would need to initiate next time. There's definitely no road map on this one and the Mrs. and I like that. Now if we could just find people in the lifestyle that can be this good of friends.

We tend to go PG-13 for public pics. Our rule of thumb is never have face and nudity in the same shot. If busted you can deny, deny, deny.... One of our favorite things is pics while getting ready to go to a club. Lingerie, cleavage, with head turned and hair covering the face. Google boudoir photography for ideas and have fun. Take pics of eachother. Yeah, timers,and selfies can be more challenging but keep at it and have fun.

As of now, I am probably not going to go, unless she can convince me she’s 100% on board. It’s def not Celine dion or lady Gaga but did you know lady Gaga used to be in a zeppelin cover band. My wife actually joked that she would like to do a trip if she found the right guy to do it with. I’d be fine with it. As long as I knew she was safe. Prob the reason she doesn’t want me to cancel just yet. Lol

Don't worry about it. If you had been seen, some pimply teen sporting a hardon would be there with a flashlight.

That would be us and it's SOOOOOOOOOO true. While we don't recommend swinging with friends, we're glad to hear things went well (but we avoid nights where single men are allowed in).

I've been the leftovers and enjoyed it several times over.

That's exactly right.... to hear her screaming and begging for him is alittle much but as long as she's happy right lol but no seriously I want her to have the best.

I'll admit that I have felt jealous more than a few times. I'm happy that she decided to try having sex with another man in front of me. I'm happy and I'm happy for her that she tried it and liked it and wanted to do it again. And again It was my purpose to give her experiences that she might not enjoy by being married. I didn't want her to feel restricted. I have felt jealous when she is having sex with another man who has a much larger cock than mine. I know she is feeling sensations that she won't get from me.

I used to get extremely jealous. I still get strong feelings when I know/watch other people in my poly family have sex with each other, but it's a feeling that I now crave.

I was a little jealous at first. But I got over it quickly once she started to moan, I LOVE seeing her enjoy herself, and she LOVES watching me enjoy myself. I still have some anxiety build up before we meet and before it goes to the bedroom, then it just dissapears. I just equate it to the feeling before you step off a rappelling wall, or getting on that scary carnival ride you have never been on.

It's normal. The beginning of it is always kinda difficult to handle it. But when I saw my gf going crazy with him, I didn't feel any jealosy at all. Watching her enjoying that moment was amazing.