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Ok so after finally getting started in swinging proper we found or they found us I should say an amazing couple. We are both 27 but he is 52 and she is 48 though it was fantastic all the same. We met at a bar which we have never been to a bar so that was great. We sat next to eatch other and was rubbing thighs which was like damn. They had so many swinging stories it was amazing and they were pretty cool people. After that we met back at their place and chilled in their hot tub. (We have never been in a hot tub before either) After some chatting they started making out and at first I was like this guy is kissing my wife but then I gave my parter my undivided attention. We did separate rooms and I'll let you fill in the rest. We are on a fwb hall pass with them now and am loving it.

Does anyone have a pet peeve that may not make much difference to some or most people but is a total "deal breaker" to you? For us, it is smokers. That smell gets "into" a person and it doesn't matter if they change their clothes or even shower, the odor is still there and it a complete and total turn of to both of us. J & L

It's the never ending question isn't it? Based on a recent experience I will say that a well hung guy who really knows how to use it it tough to beat. Unfortunately, not.many do. This guy teased me endlessly. He used the head to play with my pussy and kept laying it on top of me and asking me look how long it was and how far inside he would be able to go. We played for about 30 minutes before he finally put it in me. By then I was soaked and ready for him to go balls deep. Being fully stimulated and then penetrated by a big cock is amazing.

Hall pass means we can do one on ones on different days and that kind of thing vs everyone being there at the same time.

I wonder….was "spunky" a description of her appearance when they met or is it just her personality??

We recently met a couple who met while the woman was servicing three men at an event. That’s a party girl! She was spunky and likeable.

I'm really glad you shared this and I want to share it with my wife. We're brand new to the LS as well and we've had a few couples significantly older than us but one in particular that reached out on SLS and has been trying to get together for drinks and see where things lead. It's good to see that such a large age gap still resulted in a great experience! Not sure what hall pass means though. Could you please clarify? Thanks for sharing!

Sorry you had a less than peak experience. We just returned from a Bliss cruise that was a series of misfires, disses and missed communications. Except for one stellar connection that made up for all the bad experiences. Get back on the horse, learn from your mistakes and hope you meet less nutty and more age appropriate partners. Keep in mind that most people in the hobby are unconventional at best and coo coo for coco puffs in many cases.

Our LS, Adults Only resort in Ontario has it's own septic as it is located in the woods. Last summer it clogged. When we opened it up it was completely 'flushable wipes' and condoms! A big ol' ball of em. (again, we are an adults only resort, so why so many wipes??) Perhaps if you are on a city septic, it's not such a big deal. But it CAN become a problem. (but if its a city problem, then its a city problem that drains some of your tax dollars to fix. Nothing is free and there are ramifications to anything we do as humans on this planet). At a party or club, tie a knot it it (so it doesn't spill out, & contains the smell of cum) and put it in the garbage can.

It only counts towards being a slut if they come in you, and if it's in your mouth that you swallow.

I had four men along with my husband cum inside or on me last night. Make no mistake - I am a slut!

I'd say it really rather depends on what you mean by "slut." I consider my wife to be my wife. She an intelligent, educated, strong, confident, sexually open, more-than-a-little-weird woman. I would also say she's a slut... in that she likes sex, enjoys sex with a wide variety of men, enjoys having sex with multiple men at the same time, is a bit kinky and is perfectly comfortable with all of that. However, I don't consider the word "slut" to be pejorative in this sense. I don't think any less of her because she enjoys these things. In most of the world, women who enjoy sex are demeaned and insulted, while men who do the same are lionized. I reject that out of hand.

Back when we hosted LS parties the Queen enjoyed several MMFMM experiences. For her birthday I arranged an afternoon (most of our parties were held daytime Saturday or Sunday, everyone is fresh, sober,not rushed....ready to play more than once. And much easier for those who need sitters)with fourteen men and one lady friend (to help out). Of the fourteen two male LS friends and myself were included. I have/had rules, likes and dislikes, available activity options and a wish/like list for men. For this first (and later) adventures I searched/shopped the extensive list of single males. The Queens list included in rank of desie/importance; personality (open, humor, expressive....fun), age varied from mid twenties to late 50’s, no macho ego ridden males, no porno actor wannabes. Notice two categories were not listed: body style and cock size. She/we wanted participating, energetic, non homophobic players. A side note: for our regular parties vetted couples and single ladies. Single males were few, specially vetted by me. The LS is for women. Their turn to indulge for themselves in a safe environment that only what they choose will be explored. Their choice, their experience. Without women in the Life Style all we would have is a room full of naked hairy guys not knowing what to do. That being said all our events were designed for couples and single women. For the lady’s pleasure. So carefully selected, willing to please gentlemen only. At one point I had 36 willing male participants for the Queen’s future party. First round of vetting done. I sat back for the next month or so messaging and emails. I let the “men” rule themselves out. Easy. Boasting, bragging and endless chatter on how they can do for her or two her.....gone. Down to about 22. Fake/stolen pics and self pics sent unsolicited, gone. Was not the personality we were looking for. We had experience in qualifying men for our parties events, we followed the same plan. In the end a highly successful event for her. Eleven men, had fifteen, one work related no show. One that just didn’t show. And one that literally ran away. Eleven men, 4-5 hours, 2-4 at a time while others rested and watched. It is not about the woman doing all the work. It is about her being pleasured, something that many forget. It should be her sensory overload. So her getting multiple men to massage her. Her having one man kissing, one on each breast, one massaging each leg, one using his tongue.....then rotate. She would reach to, touch, stroke, lick, suck or fuck each one, 1 -3 times during the afternoon. I will write when I have the time a full story. Over 1200 pictures taken that day. I’m sure we could share a few with that story. We later hosted a few dozen lady fantasy events offering this event to interested LS friends. Many of the same men participated in several of these events over the next few years. It pays to be a skilled gentleman.

Pushyness and arrogance i guess. some people find arrogance like confidence, and a turn on... not us

well, first of all, you must let her express her feeling,she is excited I think with the new attention. I hope you had some guidelines set down,what was uncomfortable to her and you before hand. You just do not meet the other guy in a 3some separate from your hubby, did you talk about what you would do if different situations come up?? YOU must tell her you are not comfortable with what her has done. I hope the two of you can work this out so you both will be stronger and closer as true lovers. I hope she realize that this is just for fun,not to be confused with "feeling" of anything but yes, it felt good and that is all. It is very hard for a women to separate love from just good sex, if she feels confused then you must help her to realize that this new exciting feelings, is just part of the "fun of swinging" does not mean she has given him anything but SEX,not loving feelings,some swingers refrain from using the word love. Your age and the years married and background of your wife and you will all play a part in how we should give you advice. We still are learning as we go in this lifestyle ourselves and I hope you and your wife can talk this out and both be comfortable, this advice board is a good start. Good luck and bring her to the computer with you and read and talk together.