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Why should you be angry or jealous or disappointed? That's why we're in this activity of having sex with other people. My wife (and I) do things with play partners that we don't or seldom do with one another. It's an achievement in swinging to click with someone and reach a level of pleasure not reached before. Take some joy and satisfaction from your wife's pleasure. And seek your own. Maybe with someone else or maybe your wife and you can investigate and unlock what she's discovered. In any case, don't ruin the experiences for you and her.

We are super excited and a little nervous (seems like everyone has the first-time jitters). We are heading to a club that's about 2 hours away. But I can probably make it in 1.5hrs in my Stang using Waze. Anyway, we have a bag packed with toiletries, sexual preps, etc. We're going to take a tour and then meet up with the owners and a couple we met through their youtube channel. I'm planning on wearing an oxford blue dress shirt, black dress pants/belt/wing-tips and black form-fitting boxers. She's not sure but possibly a tight dress, something that can show off her cleavage, g-string or commando. I said it'd be fine to go commando because flashing the vag at this club might be a good thing. She's going to pick something out Friday. I reinforced the importance of her looking sexy but above all confident. We'll see what happens!!

I would like to know what some of you would do to my wife, just so I know what I am in for. She’s 29, blonde, size 10 and has a tight pussy and a small asshole. Thanks

Adding to what Numex said, we've found that as we stretched our wings with play partners, we were able to incorporate the best of the techniques and experiences to enhance our sex life together. We were happy and compatible before we started swinging. Our sex life continues to get better even 15 plus years into swinging. I don't know a vanilla couple who can say that let alone demonstrate it for others to watch.

Hey, it just happened. There was probably some guy that 'experienced' her pussy before you, this is something similar. It's not like she asked the guy to do it, it 'just happened'. YOU need to let her know that she didn't do anything wrong, especially since she didn't. You also shouldn't be jealous or disappointed and she should know that as well. Get over it! If you aren't more understanding than this, then maybe you aren't ready to be swinging...

One other thing that works really well is just asking her if it's okay to touch her...

First of all, start by making your relationship as strong and as great as possible. Swinging is all about love, trust and communication...and you can't have too much of any of the three. The best way to start the talk with your SO is to talk about fantasies. Find out what theirs are and tell them yours. Next step is to see about making some of them come true, usually starting in the bedroom and them venturing further out. Once you get to considering swinging, there are two paths to travel: quantity (just having sex with others, usually one night stands, and quality, or FWB or couples dating). Choose what your style is and move forward. Read most everything in the Curious About Swinging forum, set your boundaries and rules and then depending on what you are looking for either visit a club or set up an online profile (Find Swingers tab on top of page). Once you are at this point, come back and we can help you go from here. Good luck and have fun!

Check out the swinger sight that advertises here, Swing Lifestyle. (SLS) My wife and I met several guys there. If you need advise on how to attract a quality male in the quagmire of creeps, there is advise in the forum on how to best do this. It's not that easy.

A club is a good way to introduce yourself. If there isn't one around, maybe a house party or better yet a meet and greet. When you meet a couple, let them know you are first timers.

Your husband sounds like a very lucky man for you to be so open and willing. My wife talks about being with other men and having me watch and then allowing me to join in, it’s a massive turn on for me. We are very tempted to meet up with other couples in the same mindset

You can certainly ask others to join you in the playroom. I prefer to find playmates earlier and go to the playroom with them. But that’s not always possible. By the way, we will be on that cruise, too. Just got off the last April Bliss cruise.

There we were in the afterglow of the four of us having just completed the first round of group grope sex with each other. We, the two ladies laying side by side were enjoying a face-to-face embrace and nuzzling as our opposite hubbies were spooning us, when I felt a warmness that was way beyond sexual fluids of ejaculation and oral sex. It was pooling between the other wife and my crotches and, had grown to spread both upwards and downwards. Then I felt the fluid continue to spread back to my rear between me and her hubby. Pulling back, I exclaimed "who is pissing in the bed?" We ladies quickly yelled at the men and both men claimed it wasn't them. The other wife also exhorted it wasn't her and I sure as hell knew it wasn't me! She said, "If I were going to pee on you, it would be in the shower not a bed that can get soaked." Turned out, one of our friends that had been over earlier in the day and had used our bedroom to change her infant's diaper. She didn't even think...yup...it was 1972 and she had stabbed diaper pins right into our waterbed mattress. Guess the exertion of four full grown and highly charged sexual acrobats loosened the pin holes really well. We realized what happened and our military husbands were quick to grab the duct tape for repairs, towels and fresh sheets. After all the night was young...and so were we. By the way, she was telling the truth about the shower. We two ladies literally got into a pissing contest to see which of us could pull up our pussy and pee a stream like a guy. We never laughed so hard. (Ah the virtues of Jack Daniels)

The point you seem to be missing EMT is that swinging is about recreational sex, it's supposed to be fun and freeing and playful. In reading your multitude of posts and questions it appears that you are needlessly complicating a relatively simple concept with lists, questions, doubts, suppositions, overthinking and as Ozzie said, Title IX bs. At the rate you seem to be going, you'll put off way more people than you'll ever get naked. While you're overthinking, perhaps you should think about whether this is really something you'll ever actually be able to do. I can tell you that if you need to medicate your partner with booze or xanax, you're probably looking at the wrong hobby.

First, I think you have to stop drinking the Title IX kool-aid. Having a contractural like discussion that ends with two people saying "Yes, I would like to have sex with you," and then pledging to cease and desist should the other party rescind permission might be necessary for people who lack the intelligence to figure out or the empathy to read his/her partner, but for anyone not lacking those abilities, contractual law is a real mood killer (unless you're both weird corporate counsel.) I would say that anytime I have wondered whether or not a woman was "really" interested in me, I was being optimistic, not realistic. Women seem to be pretty good at conveying interest without being as obvious as guys are. Just go incrementally. First talk to her. If you are having difficulty keeping the conversation going, you are most likely sol. On the other hand, if the conversation is effortless, then put yourself in range to be touched. Then, just go back and forth a little at a time, by giving her the opportunity to go a little further. Also, you could just try something like asking her to kiss you. (Despite what many people say, I think asking a woman if you may kiss her doesn't come across well. It's sort of like holding up a sign that says "awkward." If you have to ask, then you shouldn't do it because she isn't interested.) Talk first - about something other than sex, unless you're a real wordsmith. That ought to tell you quite a lot. Then do a reality check to see if you are dismissing all of the negative signs in favor of optimism.

My wife lets everybody come inside her because she loves the explosion inside her.

Newbie night. Definitely. And you seem like a very competitive person. This isn’t a game to be won as quickly as possible. It’s the worlds best choose your own adventure book.

Note I start with TALKING. You can tell an awful lot if you are paying attention. Is she leaning in ? hair flips or any of that other stuff? Smiling? Is she deliberately ignoring other distractions?

Well, that technique has worked for me dozens of times - at least. What may have happened is that you were giving off 'newbie' vibes. Many people don't like to play with newbies, because they're afraid of drama. The newbies (sometimes) can get freaked out easily. As usual, you're overthinking it a little. Plan on going to a club a couple of times more; if these problems still exist (I bet they won't,) *then* it will be time for remedial action.

I climax just about every time a guy cums inside me