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Hi, we are couple, together forever, married. I am more curious about it all than my husband and am wondering how best to start. I have been reading a lot and am so strong in theory but zero in practice so would appreciate some advice. I was thinking to go to some swinger club in a foreign city and just watch for a start, what do you think? Thank you all

Cap d'Agde

Four way matches are hard to find. If you two are 85-90% comfortable with a couple, count it as a win and enjoy it.

It's Cap d'Adge, on the Mediterranean coast about 140 miles west of Marseilles

We knew that. We aren't those kind of people . . .

Ended up attending the meet and greet. Had a great time! Really helped overcome the nervousness of the first move. Feel much better about trying out Trapeze next. And we will definitely check out the resorts. Thanks everyone for the info.

There s a huge difference between hasn't done and refuses to do. If my wife stumbled into something that we hadn't yet tried, then good for her, and probably me in the near future. If it was something that she denies me, I probably would be bothered a lot. There would be a LONG conversation about that.

If it's one thing I've learned through this, is that "what ever you expected to happen, won't. And what you never expected to happen will." The best advice I got was from an online swinging friend I met through KIK. He said "the day you let go of what's normal, you'll enjoy swinging that much more." It's normal for you to feel hurt that you weren't her "anal first", just as it would be for your wife to hear another woman have three orgasms in one night with you. But if you let go of what you believe to be normal, and let each other enjoy the sex that you each experience, it will open you up to communicating with one another what you do like and not like, which is WAAAY more important.

Why should you be angry or jealous or disappointed? That's why we're in this activity of having sex with other people. My wife (and I) do things with play partners that we don't or seldom do with one another. It's an achievement in swinging to click with someone and reach a level of pleasure not reached before. Take some joy and satisfaction from your wife's pleasure. And seek your own. Maybe with someone else or maybe your wife and you can investigate and unlock what she's discovered. In any case, don't ruin the experiences for you and her.

Hey, it just happened. There was probably some guy that 'experienced' her pussy before you, this is something similar. It's not like she asked the guy to do it, it 'just happened'. YOU need to let her know that she didn't do anything wrong, especially since she didn't. You also shouldn't be jealous or disappointed and she should know that as well. Get over it! If you aren't more understanding than this, then maybe you aren't ready to be swinging...

Your husband sounds like a very lucky man for you to be so open and willing. My wife talks about being with other men and having me watch and then allowing me to join in, it’s a massive turn on for me. We are very tempted to meet up with other couples in the same mindset

Hi, just to add with regards to my wishes. I would love MFM for a start, not sure if my husband is willing just to watch but he has shown he would like to be included. I see that Couple15 also asked about advice, we are anxiously waiting for some more experienced swingers to jump in

Hi We are also new to this and would love to know where to start. I have always wanted to watch my wife fuck other guys but not sure where to start?

I had similar feeling when my wife squirted . She has yet to get there with just us , but I then realized the sensory overload she had with two men on her ?.. might have been a similar thing she had .. overloaded senses ...

My wife was, first and foremost, a wife and mother. At PTSA meetings, she played the role well and naturally. Laura could be a randy slut. She was creative. She said the most outrageous remarks when she was on the verge of orgasm, particularly with Mr. Playmate. She once decided to try out a long-time fantasy, being a whore. Thinking prostitution was legal in Las Vegas, she chatted up a gentleman in the bar and had gotten a generous proposition. She chose to discard the idea, partly because he told her in conversation that prostitution was NOT legal in Vegas and he looked far too much like a cop. She turned down the offer and came to our room. In my arms, she sometimes started out being a slut. It always ended the same way, lovingly. Laura would have agreed with Adam Gunn. I would never have called her either name. She refused to shop at a convenience store named, "Kum and Go."

Being a man with family and "very serious and responsible" confers no immunity to STIs that I am aware of. If he cheated with you, he's cheated with others....others whose STI status may not be stellar. T

Thank you all for taking the time to send some advice. I don’t think we’ll be going ahead with this guy. I feel like there’s too much potential for things to get ugly, quickly. Any advice on how to get started in all of this? My wife is open to the idea, but still hesitant, especially at the thought of doing this with someone she doesn’t know. I really don’t want to push too hard or push her to do something she’s not all in on. Any suggestions on ways we can ease into things?

Jeri Ryan...she could assimilate both of us!

I agree with this. "Slutty" is a normal personality trait/behavior that gets indulged. Just because I'll sometimes spend lavishly on a delicious meal doesn't mean I'm a generally wasteful person. Fun and stimulation are an important part of life. Kind of related, but a little bit ago, there was a scandal on our little street when a neighbor had to throw her younger husband out because, to put it simply, everything he had ever said was a crazy lie. Not just about sex, but money and more. Mrs. E and the neighbor, a middle-aged professional, have been having dinner regularly since for girl talk time. She's has been wasting no time. She didn't just line up a fuck buddy, she's on a rotation of five regulars now. Her car is never in her driveway on weekends because she's away doing her thing on Match and Tinder. I'm sure she'll settle back down and won't even tell her next husband about even 10% of this, but for now, she's having a blast with it. So last night Mrs. E was explaining this to me and it came with a generic "can you believe that, so shocking" footnote. It clicked with me that even with everything we've gotten up to and talked about, she still has a hard time making the rest of the connection that it's completely normal. "Wait, she likes to fuck. How is that shocking? So do we." The five seconds of confused silence were priceless.

I once (many times, actually) fucked someone who fucked John Holmes. Maybe we should start a six degrees of separation from John Holmes thread?

thinking of HRC in the lifestyle permanently killed my erection - thanks and gross!!

It's amazing what pleasures open themselves up to you when you drop the "Oh I could never do that." attitude. The first time I tasted a cock it blew my mind. First it didn't taste at all what I expected it to...it tasted a whole lot better. Second there was a sexual energy in the cock I'd never experienced before. Third, sharing it with my wife seemed so natural, and it aroused her greatly. Fourth, feeling the first male orgasm in my mouth was intense, powerfully sexual, and oh so natural. And wonderful.