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My wife and I decided from early in our relationship that we wanted to tell (and hear from) the other everything about our lives, including our sexual experiences and partners. It made us happy knowing what works for the other and started us on the path to the lifestyle. And if I encounter one of my wife's ex-lovers, I prefer knowing.

Honestly sounds like a lot of drama to me. Maybe a time out from each other, no communication, is in order.

I (male half) enjoy all shapes and sizes. If every woman (or guy) looked the same life would be boring.

The biggest hurdle most people mention is finding people where everyone clicks. A lot of times, 2 or 3 out of the four of you hit it off and the 4th person isn't feeling it. Don't force it. Just be polite and move on. And dont get hurt feelings if the someone in the other couple is not interested in you. Again, just be polite and move on. As long as you keep actively searching, using the options that have already been mentioned, you will eventually find people you click with.

Thank you for your response! I've been looking all morning to find a couples counselor but no one really focus's on the lifestyle in our area. Just looking to find someone to help both of us communicate a little better. I appreciate everyone's feedback so much

This is why we constantly advise not spending too much time with emails and texting and instead setting up a meeting. It weeds the fakes, flakes, and wannabes and you will learn more after meeting for 5 minutes than what you would lean in an eternity of emails and texts.

I myself do not mind if someone cums inside my wife, she gets off and when I finish I feel a sense of accomplishment per say so if someone we knew and trusted totally was to play and wanted to no problem after all we knew them very intimately in and out of the bedroom. We are both fixed so no worry there, however if at a club and a hook up happened or someone we have not known for a very long time it is protection used unless she wants oral and then it is up to her if he cums in her mouth or not.