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Here is an idea that we are going to try this summer when traveling. We bought an SLS bumper sticker and put it onto a magnetic backer as we can not leave it on all the time. While staying in motels and campgrounds as we travel it will be interesting to see if we get and response.

We've been to both resorts and just returned last night from 8 nights at Desire (4 at RM and 4 at Pearl). We had Friday night at RM as our last night and Saturday night at Pearl as our first night so we could experience a weekend night at each. We have been to Pearl a number of times before for a week at a time. It is true that the vibe is set by the crowd that is there at the time. We saw more action going on at Pearl on Saturday than we did the whole 4 days we were at RM. Ages varied at both as well as bodies style so don't plan on a "hard body" setting at either. Each person you ask will have their preferences and we find an even mix between Pearl and RM preferences. If you can swing it, we would suggest 4 days at each. Any shorter than that and you really don't get into the swing of things (no pun intended). If you can't spend at least 4 days at each, then pick the one and stay there. Pearl: Nicer rooms (88 total), more open space on the grounds, huge pool and giant jacuzzi, we think the disco club is better in size/layout, RM: Maybe better beach, 114 rooms but varying degrees of style from spartan to luxurious, small pool and jacuzzi, disco and jacuzzi up a flight of stairs (not a good combo with sexy heels and drinking). Habatchi grill is very good. Staff at both are top notch. You can't go wrong with either. Remember - even a bad day at Desire beats a great day anywhere else every time! :)

I would never post or send a sex tape to anyone. I don’t even trust cloud storage.

G- and R-rated conversations using online video might be useful. Start with the partner (the husband?) you are in touch with and establish a pattern. Invite your wife to listen/watch in. Apps like Hangouts and Zoom can bring in several "rooms" even though you are in the same house. Is the other wife interested? Start with things in common especially the prospect of a real-life meeting, just dinner or drinks. Get your wife used to the venue and with their faces and voices. Talk about it later. For a newbie it's not about what but about who. Audio and video can help with who.

Yes, an actual "she made hardcore films for purchase" pornstar. On several occasions, a few times at a series of parties she co-hosted and other times when we met up at mutual friends parties

I actually did think of that. Mostly because of liquor laws and licensing rules. That's why everyone brings a bottle or a 6pack to leave behind whatever is left when they go home. No cash exchanged and not explicitly required. We have never told anyone they can't come over if they dont bring something. Usually, people bring something just so they dont feel like a freeloader.

Sounds like a great party!

Honestly sounds like a lot of drama to me. Maybe a time out from each other, no communication, is in order.

The biggest hurdle most people mention is finding people where everyone clicks. A lot of times, 2 or 3 out of the four of you hit it off and the 4th person isn't feeling it. Don't force it. Just be polite and move on. And dont get hurt feelings if the someone in the other couple is not interested in you. Again, just be polite and move on. As long as you keep actively searching, using the options that have already been mentioned, you will eventually find people you click with.

Thank you so much :-) I am so excited for our journey and will keep you informed :-)

GREAT info!! Thank you so very much.

I'll just answer what I think your basic question is: 'What is your preference? "Date" Webs vs Swingers Club vs Meet & Greet vs House Party vs Resort vs Cruise' It depends. Date Webs (I assume you're talking SLS, SDC, Kasidie and the like.) Good for meeting people who may become friends, who you'll play in your (or their) home. Swinger Club: Good for hot sex *Tonight*. You get a chance to get to know the couple or single, and if anyone is feeling it, you've got a place to go. Meet & Greets: Good for meeting people, but you may have to wait for another night to get down. House Party: Great for orgies, not so good for getting to know people. Cruises and Resorts are a lot like Swinger Clubs, but much more expensive. Of course you get the vacation aspect too, so . . .

I'm big on respecting boundaries unless I know for certain the lady is open to unsolicited touching. If I'm not getting a vibe I will hold out my hand and see if she takes it or figure a way to bump her to see if she responds. I'm not afraid to ask her if I can kiss her. But if she is not into me or the scene I will not engage in grabbing or groping. Not my style.

I often fantasize about sucking a nice big cock with my wife

Oh dear. Well it's all good because, like I said, we're just having fun with the fantasy. Some lines are easy enough to not cross. I've gotten very accustomed to being able to pay my bills on time, and I don't plan on changing this habit anytime soon.

I think HPV and HSV are common, but HIV is not. But there are no guarantees. We use condoms. It should help.

Thank you. Funny thing is my wife isn't even mad about it. She's relieved everything is out in the open. Biggest lesson I learned from this...swinging is a team sport. Be very careful when playing separately.

The couple that plays together stays together. Couples that play separately have my admiration, but they are playing with fire.

If the wife has said stop, then you stop. The reason why doesn't matter. If either one of you says no, then the answer for the both of you is no. Time to move along.