Leaderboard

No swingers club in the Keys. There is Miami Velvet and Trapeze in the Miami area. Trapeze is by far the best club in Florida and one of the overall best we've ever attended.

Hi, we are couple, together forever, married. I am more curious about it all than my husband and am wondering how best to start. I have been reading a lot and am so strong in theory but zero in practice so would appreciate some advice. I was thinking to go to some swinger club in a foreign city and just watch for a start, what do you think? Thank you all

That is a good idea. You could go to a bar or club and dance with men you don't know. It doesn't have to be a swingers club. My wife and I had fun by having her go into a bar by herself. I would wait a few minutes and then go in. I sat away from her. We pretended like we didn't know each other. It was fun for me to watch men come up to her and flirt with her. She felt good that men were flirting with her. It was a confidence booster for her.

You never know what may happen. She's definitely had the seed planted in her mind. Perhaps someday you'll get to see her having sex with another man. But, if not, it sounds like you're having a blast already I've said here many times, but I'll repeat it here as it's apropos. In the years my wife and I were together before we got into swinging, I would have easily bet everything I have that she would never swing. She was absolutely 10000000% against it. Yet, here we are. You never know what may happen. We soft-swapped with a couple that sounds a fair bit like you two. Neither of them had ever dated anyone else, much less had sex with anyone else. We played with them a couple of times, and had a very good time both times. The husband was very accepting of the idea of her having sex with other men, but it isn't what she wanted for herself or for him to have sex with other women. He respected that of course, and respected their wishes. It was in very sexy to be with her, knowing she'd never had sex with anyone but her husband. Kind of like forbidden fruit. Watching her have sex with her husband was a treat as well. I think it's awesome that you helped your wife bring out her sexiness. There's a sexual fulfillment, a sexual awakening that is awesome to behold in such situations.

My wife had two regular boyfriends for a while (not overlapping). She would have unprotected sex with both of them, and thoroughly enjoyed having them cum inside of her. For her, she far prefers men cumming inside her than anywhere else. She can't explain why per se, just that it makes her feel fantastic when they do. For my part, I think it's exciting seeing him pump his cum in her. I also enjoyed having sex with her right after they would cum inside of her. The first time I did it, I wasn't sure I would like it, but I found that I do. Plus, my wife loved it when a boyfriend would cum inside of her, followed by me not too long afterwards. She just loves being filled with cum. Yes, this all past tense. Nothing bad happened really; she just doesn't have a regular boyfriend right now.

Notes: Hedo: allows single males to register. This is why we haven't gone there. Desire: AKA Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Both in Cancun, both are couples only, both are 'swinger' friendly. While people claim one is for the 'younger' crowd, it shifts between the two as to which is which...it just depends on who is there when you are. Pearl is 'newer', but RM is being updated. Both are nice and we would go to either and can't wait until we can go there again. Nudists and swingers: Some swingers are nudists, some nudists are swingers, but not all nudists swing and swingers are nudists. At Laguna Del Sol (northern CA), it is a nudist resort...but they have more swinger oriented events on Saturday nights. If you are running a resort that caters to one crowd, you usually try to cater to both since you want as many visitors as possible.

Luv2, yes the sites can soak up a lot of time, but I wouldn't call it a 'waste.' My wife and I get most of her lovers off SLS, it gives us a chance to winnow out the chaff before meeting. Since one of our passions is her playing in our house, it would be very hard to meet gentlemen for that in any other way. But yes, you have to pay for memberships in this post-FOSTA era - it's the decision of the government, not the websites.

My personal recommendation on rules would be to make as few as possible to suit yourselves. I would also suggest that they be general in nature. Even then something will go past the line. Because of this one thing you need to absolutely agree on before hand is that neither of you will intentionally cross the specific lines in your rules, but if somehow one sees a transgression when the other does not is that the benefit of the doubt will lean towards innocence. That way the talk afterward can be "How do we make this not happen again" and not "How could you do that" Short story. One of our rules was no BDSM type play with playmates. My wife while feeling frisky grabbed the couples riding crop and playfully slapped the guys rump. I was not there and she recounted the event to me later as just another thing in a play by play recounting. To her it was no more than a slap with her hand or a tickle, to me she was using an SM play toy. The discussion took a few minutes with her promising to be more careful and my realizing that I was being too thin skinned, and telling her so. I told her clearly that she need not worry about "careful" because she would spend more time worrying than having fun, that I trust her not to hurt me purposely. Upshot? New understanding of the rule is now in play.

May be professionally but main intention is open in front another man where he can touch her private parts Well, the thing is if I say swing party then all her attention towards one thing about other man.. so trying to avoid awkward situations and going smoothly ?

If all parties agree on this then I guess it should be ok but you need a lot of trust and know the limits. I had a similar arrangement when my ex-husband would go away on his work trips for 2-3 weeks at a time. I started out just as sleep over but progressed into the handsome young man doing my shopping, picking me up from work, going to the gym and helping with work around the house. As bad as this sounds I use to look forward to the ex-husband going away so I could spend time with the younger guy. Suffice to say our marriage didn't last too long after that. Just be careful where this could lead and don't get too close!

I (Babe) did this one time and will never do it again. We had played with a couple (our first couple) 1 time and the guy IMed me and said he had some free time in the middle of the day, and would I be interested in playing. I of course called Bear and asked him if it was ok with him, as I wanted to see this guy without any distractions. Bear said go for it, have fun, and make sure I tell him all about it later. Well, I went and had a great time. When I came home Bear was waiting for me. And we had really hot sex. I thought everything was ok. But about a day or 2 later, Bear said he had a problem with what I had done. To him (and to me) it felt too much like an affair. We talked about it, and decided to not do that again. I know it sounds strange. I mean, we go to clubs and we sometimes do not play together. We can go to separate rooms, and play with who ever we want and that does not bother us. I guess because we are in the same building. But the fact that my husband was not anywhere close by really made me feel like I was doing something wrong. If you decide to try this, just make sure you talk about what feelings you may have after the fact.