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I think most guys (including my husband) really don't care, they just want to get theirs too. And seeing her have sex with someone else indicates that she (me) is ready and willing. I am taken with the thought for several days afterwards that the sperm of one or two or three men are swimming around inside me. That's why although I enjoy and do oral and anal to completion (for him), I much prefer that a man cums in my vagina.

My wife and my best friend played for years, both as a threesome including me, and just the two of them alone at his house. He would always cum inside her. I was usually more excited thinking about what they were doing alone than when I was also there. I think they enjoyed it more too since it was a more intimate encounter than a threesome. I also really liked playing with her when she came after he he had cum in her. Those were great times.

Try checking out this podcast: Episode 54: Drama in the Lifestyle from: We Gotta Thing ... by: Mr & Mrs Jones (I am not suggesting your situation is "dramatic".) Catherine Scantlin (MS, LPC, RYT) is the featured speaker in this episode, and apparently does long distance (teleconferencing) counseling sessions, especially for Lifestyle (and other "fringe"?) folks. Her contact info is posted on that WGT web page. Here is her business web: https://www.expansiveconnection.com/ Best of luck on your journey.

In 1974, I was 22 and my wife was 21 married for 2 years. We lived in our first home on a dead end street with only two homes ours and a single 44 year old black guy. I thought a lot of him. He was a great guy. My job was a lot of call outs and gone for days on big jobs. Life was normal otherwise and good, but soon we wanted a larger house. In 1978 we moved to a larger home in a real nice neighborhood. In 1981, my wife confessed she and our neighbor had been having an affair from 1975 to 1978. He had come over that day in 1981 to continue their sexual fun. She did not want to. Our kids were too old and we were surrounded by watching neighbors and she just wasn't interested anymore. He got upset and threatened to tell me about their affair if she didn't continue. She decided to tell me all about it. She was crying and said if I wanted to divorce her I had all the right. She just couldn't do it anymore. The guilt was killing her. I was furious. Damn right I was really pissed. Damn it, I would of liked to have watched them. She talked about some of it and described his cock. He always had guys over his house on weekends for game days. He forced her to have sex with all his buddies singly and gangbangs. She became addicted to it. I asked her if she used condoms. She said no. Every time it was bareback. Three years of unprotected sex with a whole bunch of men, some became friends and others were strangers. I think she was very lucky not to catch stds. I had always wanted to swing, but afraid to ask her. We have been swinging ever since with all the friends she made way back then and still bare back. Only because she has known them for all these years and we can trust them. She loves feeling them explode in her and the feeling of their bare cocks sliding against her vagina walls. So, shooting in her is ok with us.

My wife had two regular boyfriends for a while (not overlapping). She would have unprotected sex with both of them, and thoroughly enjoyed having them cum inside of her. For her, she far prefers men cumming inside her than anywhere else. She can't explain why per se, just that it makes her feel fantastic when they do. For my part, I think it's exciting seeing him pump his cum in her. I also enjoyed having sex with her right after they would cum inside of her. The first time I did it, I wasn't sure I would like it, but I found that I do. Plus, my wife loved it when a boyfriend would cum inside of her, followed by me not too long afterwards. She just loves being filled with cum. Yes, this all past tense. Nothing bad happened really; she just doesn't have a regular boyfriend right now.

You seem to be okay with the L/S, just not so much of the L/S...understandable with kids at home and the rest of life going on. I think that it's that your husband is just wanting it SO MUCH. Too much of anything is usually a bad thing. A couple should move at the pace the slowest member is comfortable with, your husband needs to be told this and he needs to pump the brakes (the other option is eventually you just say 'stop, no more' and it's all finished). He needs to respect your feelings on this. You two are a team, what either one of you says is the answer for both of you. This goes for another one of your questions as well... We believe that 'life must come first' and that swinging is more of a hobby that we fit in when we can. For us that's about once a month. You two are a team, the two of you should decide together how often you want to play, but go at the slowest persons pace. We say 'I don't think so' to each other when we don't think there's a match (which is fairly often since we are looking for matches and not just someone to fuck). If either one of us isn't 'feeling' another couple, then we take a pass...no 'taking one for the team'. He needs to slow down and listen to your wants and needs here. As previously stated, if he doesn't, eventually you are not going to want to do this any longer. He needs to understand: Playing less often is much better than not playing at all. Bigger question is why he isn't as interested in communicating and (more importantly) LISTENING to your wants. Time to sit down and have a talk before you get so frustrated that you throw in the towel. Good luck and let us know how things go.

So you would like to host a swinger party at your house. A number of things you need to decide: - Invite only people you know? - Invite people you know, but perhaps allow them to invite another couple? - How many couples do you want to invite? - Invite people you don't know? - Do you have areas in the house appropriate for play? Do you need to purchase blow up mattresses, sheets, etc.? - Are there areas in your house you don't want people in (typically closed doors take care of that)? - Are you going to ask guests to bring a snack to share? Are you serving food? - Do you have accommodations (bed/air mattress/sheets/pillow) for some people to stay over if needed? Parties we host as well as attend are typically bring your own booze and condoms. We'll supply soft drinks, water, and usually a few bottles of wine. Window coverings...you don't want neighbors and passers-by looking in. Noise...keep windows closed. So of course first you need to invite people, not much of a party without that The invite list is hard to put together as 1) There will be a number of people that decline right away, or accept and don't wind up attending for some reason and 2) If you account for no shows and create a larger invite list, you may find that EVERYONE shows up so you need to make sure you have room. Here's how we prepare, your mileage may vary: - Clean clean clean. - Prep food, soft drinks, get ice, etc. - In each bathroom have mouthwash and disposable cups. - In each bathroom have a bundle of clean washcloths, and a bucket/basket to put the dirty cloths into. You can get washcloths pretty cheap a Wal-Mart, Target, etc. - In our upstairs bathroom have towels available in case anyone wants a shower. - Clear our areas where we as going to put blow up mattresses. For us that means moving a few coffee tables. - Put sheets or comforters on any beds that are used for play. - Have towels available in the play areas for covering the bed...for the wet spots! - We have a hot tub and ask people to bring towels, but will put out extras in case people forget. - Though people usually bring their own condoms we will put a few out here and there. After all of the guests have arrived, and people have been talking a bit, but before play, we go over any "rules", bathroom locations, play area locations, etc. The only "rules" we go over is no means no (especially if your spouse says it! lol) and areas of the house not to go in. A closed door on the bedroom means do not disturb. Since we may be outside in the hot tub, remind people that the neighbors are not that far away so avoid any sex sounds!

Play, yes. Relationship, no.