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In a nutshell time: If this story is true and you're uncomfortable, uneasy, and weirded out by this contact, your husband should be protecting you rather than standing there spanking his johnson while you're being groped. They're BOTH abusing you, her for the unwanted contact and him for enjoying it and allowing it to continue. On a side note, what she's doing is actually a criminal offense in most states. Its called Indecent Assault and in some states it's a felony.

Frankly, it has sounded like pure BS from the start...

We, meaning those in our poly family of three women and two men, are not typical even among those here on the Swingers Board. We are a very close poly family with children that have played very little outside of our family. For instance, I have had only five male sex partners in my life. I think the lesson here is to think things through and only follow convention, whether it be that of society, religion or your parents when it suits you. All of those are against the way I have arranged my sexual and family life, but having found like-minded partners I am happier, more satisfied and getting more out of life than most other people. In just about every other way I am a model of conformity, not because I want to conform, but because it fits me.

I'd never use "slut" to describe my wife. She (like me) enjoys sex--a lot--and with different men. That just makes her a sensual provocative woman and it turns me on thoroughly.

After over 20 years of marriage and a waning sex drive, we decided to try swinging. We weren't particularly concerned with the moral side, but definitely concerned with the health side. We had decided if it was worth doing, then we wanted to enjoy "everything"...meaning bare and intimate. We met a couple on line, then socially 3 times to find out if they would be compatible with both of us and to develop "trust." They had been swinging over 20 years and with over 40 other couples; but all long term and all married couples. Thus, after 3 social meetings we felt as reasonably "safe" as we could expect to be (from STDs) and asked them to be our first. At the time they were with just one other couple and had been with them all 20 of their swinging years so we weren't worried about that couple. Our first time was in separate rooms and it turned out to be wonderful. So wonderful in fact, that the girls made a date for the very next week. We have seen them every week ever since. She was only my 7th woman ever and he was only my wife's 3d man ever. And it was bare, lasted about 3 hours, and we were all "spent." Once you do it, you want more of it. I fear we have become addicted to it, but that is a good problem.

We keep a spare bedroom ready with the basics, new toothbrush, deodorant, access to a shower, some basic clothes like sweats and shirts. So if he falls asleep, and that happens after trying to keep up with my wife, we have a place to put him.

And he says, "Make a wish."

Seattle, in my experience, watch the shy ones! For awhile they hang back, but when they finally break through . . . Lots of fun!

I remembered this post from before. We have been playing with my husband’s best friend for a few years now. It was my husband’s idea. My introduction to group sex was based on a bisexual feeling I didn’t know I had. The only men I played with were at parties or my friends partners. We were newlyweds and my husband got to experience all my college girlfriends who partied. I never expected to hear that my husband wanted our friend to join us. I didn’t want to ruin our friendship, I truly like him as a friend. Fast forward a few years and I can’t remember the time before we started doing this. He is the only man I have one on one sex with outside of my husband. My husband travels for work and many times our friend keeps me company. It has not hurt any relationship. This most likely will not be as successful in most relationships.

Oh my wife is definitely a slut but she was that way before i met her. I dont love her any differently and she is a nympho.

This is exactly how we feel. My wife doesn't want to feel like a cum dumpster for guys that don't care about her. That isn't enjoyable for her. Sex is only good for her if she likes the person she is fucking. I would think regardless of who the person is, friend or no friend, if you are fucking them, especially on a regular basis, you would have to have some sort of feelings for them. Also, with regard to my wife "seeing him behind my back", she is a very honest person and I don't think that could happen... secondly my friend lives 8hrs away from us by car, and third my wife would know I want her to fuck him so she wouldn't have any reason to hide the fact that she was going to fuck him if by chance they were together alone sometime somewhere without me.

For the last 40+ years, society has become increasingly more accepting to whatever relationship you want to have. At the same time, people who would keep their relationship quiet because it wasn't 'acceptable' have started coming out more and more (be it same sex, or poly). Look at the TV shows that have been on (Sister Wives, Married and Dating, and several other poly style shows that have come and gone). Most of this 'reality' shows have now gone as the 'uniqueness' or shock value has waned and the general public learned that they are 'just people' like themselves. It has come into the light and nobody has burst into flames. The internet has also made it easier for people to meet who want to try poly relationships. Back in the day the only way to meet other swingers was via tawdry newspapers and answering ads via snail mail not even knowing if the other person(s) were real or not. Now it's point, click, send. Will it become more common: I think yes it will however I don't think it will become something that most people end up participating in. The last great hurdle is going to be with swinging since swinging is something that is done 'only' for sex (not my view but the view of the general public). It's the couples version of being a slut (not picking on one sex here, both men and women can be a slut). I think it will take a lot longer before swinging becomes 'accepted' just because of the general view that once you find your partner, they should be all you want and need.

OK, I'm a week behind on what's happening with them, so - about last Friday. It was fun. It was even fun in the days beforehand at home thinking about it. The short version: I met them at their home after work last Friday. We talked for a bit then I asked to take a shower, came out with the towel around me. I took it down from my top and tied it around my waist, then asked her to take off her top, she did; asked him to do the same and he did. I left the towel on me and asked her to take off her pants and she did. I asked if they wanted me to drop the towel, both said yes, but I said he had to go first. He was reluctant. She said, "Oh, come on" and I opened my towel at the side so he could see a bit of my ass. She went over and started to help him off with his pants. (Damn, was I getting wet.) Once he had his underwear off I dropped the towel and turned around in front of them 360. Then again with my arms up over my head, then with my legs slightly parted. I kept dealing it - want me on all fours? She had to play with his dick. Want me to spread my legs open? He had to start finger fucking her. Want to touch my breasts, my legs, my ass? They had to fuck. They did, so I let them. I let them rub on me (except my cunt) as they fucked missionary. She came, he came and it was over too soon, in about an hour. I dressed and left. By this time I was really horny. Knowing that both David and Red wouldn't be home yet, I called Becky, found that Frank was there so I stopped by for a very satisfying quickie, then went home. More to follow.

There are lots of married men on the vanilla sites too. A cheater is going to cheat but I am not going to help them. One of the ideals I hold to the lifestyle is being open and honest. A couple that shares their bed with a cheater may be honest with each other but are being hypocritical.