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Talk through everything you feel with her. & more important listen carefully to her, ask questions if you are not sure. Heres my other thought. You have known this woman just six months? Hardly long enough to know her well, or her you. There are many things that can sink a relationship, some less pleasant than this. From what you say she is very sexual, adventurous, & I'm guessing she is going to try all this with or without you. Talking her out of it may not stick for long, and leave her frustrated. My other recommendation is you give it a try. Be adventerous, experiment, find out the truth about yourself/her/and if this might be for you or not. If it does not work out then its time to move on. If it does - have fun...

I had great chat with them and think we have a good resolution. My husband doesn’t have a jealous bone in his body and know that what we do is all about physical pleasure while also making some close friends. He know that I really enjoy being this guy and wants me to be happy. He also didn’t want to create any tension in our group. We decided that I will play with this guy in a separate room. My husband enjoys an occasional FFM and honestly i’d prefer he do that separately as well since I know that no matter how much i love him doing that i know that I distract him. It all worked out well.

Your relationship is young and you sound young and relatively inexperienced. Your g/f wants to move in this direction,you should find a way to wrap your head around it and do it together, willingly, playfully and as a full partner with an open mind. If you don't, she'll eventually explore this stuff without you. Or, she'll dump you in favor of a guy who WILL join her sexploration. Maybe swinging isn't for you, but you'll never know until you give it shot but it has to be a sincere shot or she'll know and think less of you. We were a bit more than a year into our relationship the first time I saw my wife boinking another guy, I was a bit troubled by it but watching her WAS very, very hot (like porn would be it you knew the players). Plus, I was getting one hell of a blow job from the guys naked and very skilled wife. We had an hours ride home from the club afterwards. We talked non stop all the way back and made clear to one another that it was "just sex". When we got home, we stripped off in the garage (smoking was permitted in clubs then so our clothing smelled), took a shower together and then had amazing reclamation sex and we've never looked back except to remember the erotic times we've shared. 16 years later, we're still firmly together and still playing with friends. As I've said before. swinging is not for the faint of heart but if you can get past your own insecurities and the societal and religious mores we grow up with, you could be in for the time of your life.

I am going to go with "No". (Yeah, there are a lot of "perverted" people out there, which can be harmless to each other, but the situation unraveling here seems totally "over the top".) Normal people do not shame, humiliate, and disrespect others for their own pleasure. Even in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship there are rules, and some kind of mutual exchange. Maybe you do qualify here, but unless this is all part of the act, your repeated expression of discomfort with the situation makes me think not. Get a therapist first, then possibly a lawyer. Both should probably have in-depth experience with sexual battery / assault. If that sounds like too big a leap, then at least try the: National Sexual Assault Hotline ... confidential help is available online, and via telephone. If you want to remain anonymous for now, this may be your best start. If nothing else, they have trained personnel who will help you sort your situation out, so you can make a healthy and informed "next step". To put it briefly, and very simply (and laws can vary between states)... Battery = Touching someone without their consent. Sexual Assault = Fondling, kissing, or making unwanted bodily contact (among other things). As mentioned earlier, in some states Sexual Assault is a Felony. If you are not sure what that entails, with a conviction it effectively means that you are stripped of many of your basic citizenship rights (including "freedom to vote")... for life... so nothing to trifle with. :-| Nobody should have to live a life of continual shame and disrespect, and my feeling / opinion is (based on all your posts being truthful) that you have lived this way for so long you have become at least partially detached from reality. There has been a lot of good advice and observations made in this thread so far. Please pay attention to it. I sincerely hope that you can get some effective help with this soon.

Everyone has their preferences. I'm sure you do to. What I/we do is to just not reply to people we are not interested in. Yes. I know. Ive heard it before on here. Not replying is not rude. I consider it to be polite. I wish more people would handle rejection and move on. My thinking is if they get angry at a non reply they seem to be demanding a sexual encounter. Are those the kind of laid back friendly people you desire?

We’ve been married 17 years. My wife had a serious case of post-partum depression after the birth of each of our boys. We lived through that. It was so bad I once called the cops when during an argument she threatened me with a kitchen knife. Who would be able to regain the confidence to sleep next to her, leave her home with our two infants while I was at work? You can’t even begin to imagine the months of terror I had of coming home to a bloodbath. How many couples would have survived ? We did. We sought professional help. We cured her depression. We grew. We got closer. You think our relationship is vulnerable ? This was 10 years ago and we’re now stronger than ever. There still are arguments. Never violent, just lively, spirited, and we’re both strong minded. I am becoming an expert at conflict management and resolution. Yes I wish things were smoother, but that’s what I have got, and we’ve got to make the best of it. Yes we have discussed this extensively together. Yes we discussed this with the other couple. They are open to it if the mood is right. Even then there always are risks. I love my wife. We love each other with a passion. There is a bond between us that is beyond words. My life could be simpler, but I couldn’t be happier.

I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially when they're suspected of behaviour so shitty that it would turn me right off playing with them. Mr. intuition and I prefer playing in separate rooms, so we wouldn't likely run into this exact scenario. But if it became apparent to me that Mr. Sexypants was going out of his way to make Mr. intuition feel like shit, or trying to compete with him in any way, you can bet he'd be set straight in a hurry. That's not cool. Not sexy. Definitely NOT okay with me. And Mr. intuition wouldn't have to say a word; I'd make sure the jackass understood in no uncertain terms exactly who was running the fucking show here. And it's not him. He's there by Mr. intuition's permission ONLY, and if he can't get on board with that, the door is thataway. And don't you worry about me, I have a magic wand.

I try to focus on the things I can actually change. My dick, it's size, shape, and girth were decided long ago by a higher power (Science/Biology). What I can do is focus, as Ozzie stated, on my partners needs, wants and desires. What gets them off? How can I get them off? How can I help them feel sexy and attractive. I certainly can focus and affect other areas that are very important. Like on being clean, nice, happy, in good shape, and presentable. All things that I actually have control over. I find lots of different people, bodies and organs attractive. Big boobs, firm boobs, small boobs, big nipples, big clits, thick cocks, long cocks, big balls, tight balls etc etc. What I find is that all of these variations are and can be sexy and attractive IF the person is happy, feels sexy, and is comfortable with their individual parts. After all, variety is the spice of life.

Regardless of MFM or FMF, I think this is one of the most fun things to do in a threesome. One partner focuses on stimulating whoever's in the middle while the other focuses on fucking properly. Mrs. E's first spit roast ended with her getting her nipples sucked and licked while I finished up behind her and she described it as "psychedelic".

At every party, club, or resort we have ever been to, the other people there were wonderfully accepting of our limits. No one gets upset if you don't want to do certain things. It's about having fun, connecting, being comfortable. My wife and I are soft swingers, which for us means we do lots of fun stuff with other people, but not intercourse. And we are always together. We have never felt like we weren't welcome or accepted by people who weren't into what we were into. I can almost guarantee that wherever you end up, the people in the lifestyle will treat you and your wife with respect and you will experience zero pressure.