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Have you ever gotten body painted and then walked the beach? I did once in Oregon on a topless/nude beach for adults only. With a tiny painted on thong and tiny flower-like images around my nipples, I slowly walked the length from one end to the other. I was invited to play beach volleyball with some college guys and gals, and did. What a rush.

Cliffy strikes again!!

Funny, I know men are supposed to be the visually oriented ones, but watching drives me crazy, too. So does being watched.

I have had anxiety. The first time my husband saw me with another man. I was anxious the first time we invited my husband’s best friend to join us. I was anxious when my best friend joined us. I am anxious when my husband watches me when I am having maybe too much fun with someone else. I feel anxious when my husband is with someone who I think is gorgeous. The anxiety is real, the reason has always been unfounded. I am learn everyday to relax more. I can tell you posting and reading responses have helped. Thank you to all who are honest with me.

I think I know what you mean. Sexual angst is a thing in vanilla life, too. It's something we all hit with "firsts" as we learn about relationships and move on to more complicated, grownup ones. Like realizing the high school sweetheart was moving on to fucking other men. I didn't mind, but I still felt it. Or the furious arguments with my first FWB because we were both emotionally involved and also both screwing other people and both wanted to keep it that way. By 20 or so, I was pretty much over it, but then you try swinging and that feeling is still there, but you're better acquainted with it and at least know what it is. Some part of your gut is concerned about a potential loss, even if you aren't really losing anything. Swimming head and sinking stomach. Definitely felt it, combined with a granite-hard erection, watching a playmate push Mrs. E's hair out of the way so she could go down on someone else for the first time. It was exactly what I wanted but that only registered with about half of me, and that feeling stuck around until I came. Then I was fine. Mrs. E has only expressed it twice, never about swinging. Once when we were first talking and flirting, and she had a miniature existential/moral crisis because for the first time she was having sex with two men who didn't know about each other. The resolution ended up adding a third and accepting that it wasn't the big deal she'd been told to think it was. The other was the first time we went to a strip club together. There were about a half dozen surprising taboos that got stomped on there and it didn't go easily, although she was fascinated and talked about it for days after.

You're on the right track, but make it all about her, not you. As time goes on and she opens up, your wife may bring up people or things that you don't like. Never criticize her or be negative. Encourage her every step of the way. Enjoy the journey.

Supposedly, a hallmark of erotica genuinely written by women is that it rarely mentions ejaculate. Male authors with female pen names new to the game tend to describe it and thereby alienate their female audience without understanding. It's not that it's "bad", it's just that most women don't think about it and describing it throws them off. Of course, as males, we're visual and we like what we like, and that's OK, too. Hydrate properly and eat your celery if that's what you're into. Some of the tips out there work. Just don't think you're doing it for her sake.

Experienced some DVP this weekend. Our partner was pretty big and he felt very good as I was on top and facing him. After climaxing with him, my husband entered me from behind. As his penis entered, he pushed the bigger dick against the front of my vagina and really stimulated both my deep and shallow spots. The bigger guy didn’t really move much. My husband and partner ejaculated together after some amazing rhythmic pumping and said rubbing the underside of their cocks in me was amazing.

I do love doing that. We were out this weekend and I had my pussy on full display several times. It’s also an incredible rush for me when I undress at the nude beach. It’s a mix of true nudists, swingers and total voyeurs. It’s pretty easy to discern who is who, so we always hang close to the voyeurs. They are usually single guys. Just love baring all for them and pretending to ignore them watching me. If he’s hot, i’ll go out of my way to make sure he gets a full view of what he came for. Hubby loves doing the same for the gay men or swinger wives.

No, it's not really polite, but if they aren't aware of how they come across in a conversation, you probably can't expect them to be any more self-aware in bed. As for whether or not it's an insult, I was once told that feeling insulted is a choice. It took a while for that to sink in, but if you try to remember that, eventually, you'll see things like that for what they are: Impolite people being impolite. That's about them, not you.

Epidode 41. Episode 54 it's also good about explaining "drama". The guest is Catherine, a licensed professional counselor and swinger.

I'm with you on this subject. My boyfriend encourages me to exploit situations, like bars and beaches. My micro spandex dresses barely cover standing, so a bar stool...getting on and off, or even sitting on it without crossing my legs bares quite enough for the men.

Jealousy is a possibility, and for me (the husband) it was there more at first before anything had happened at all. Our first time was with friends, bad idea. Luckily we were able to salvage the friendship and keep it at only that. After weeks of talking and adjusting we met a couple online, watching him with her was one of the hottest things ever for me. We both really enjoy watching each other. I am not yet okay with the idea of bringing in a single male to join us so we have nixed looking for a unicorn as well to make things even. We are only interested in couples for now and have a blast when we play. We have only been playing 5 months, so who knows what the future holds. Whatever that is, it will be us.

We think it's awesome that a married couple are both ok with playing separately. That's what we do. My wife has gone on dates without me.

The idea started with my never ending dream/nightmare of another man fucking, raping?, my wife. She was my number one porn star in my dreams. I couldn't help myself but to bring up the idea of her having sex with another man while I watched. She was devastated. She thought I didn't love her any more. I had to reassure that it was because I loved her that I wanted to give her this experience. And many more. If she was willing. She was Watching her with another man for the first time was an experience beyond my ability to explain. She was so nervous it was like watching a virgin getting fucked for the first time. She loved it! It was no problem talking her into doing it again.

I've know folks who were caught at work. Hotel rooms just aren't that expensive.

Laura, who was fond of pleasant sensations, said having both breasts sucked while her pussy was being eaten was her second favorite permutation in swinging.

I tried it again yesterday during sex. Went MUCH better this time! When she was going down on me I told her how I fantasized about someone fucking her from behind or eating her while she sucked me. That caused her to moan and go a LOT harder, so she liked it.