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Short answer: He loves swinging and having sex with whoever he wants more than he cares for you. Sorry, but from the info given, that is the one conclusion that can be drawn. I consider myself one of the luckiest people in the world because the Ms. and I are swingers. If she, for whatever reason, decided she wanted to stop, I would stop in a second and never look back and still consider myself as one of the luckiest people in the world because of this experience. But what she wants is more important to me than either of us just having sex with other people. Sex is just sex while she is the love of my life. If I were to try to force her to continue in a L/S that she isn't interested in anymore would hurt me probably more than it hurt her...AND it would be disrespectful to her for me to do it. We are a team...if she doesn't want to play this game anymore, then I either need to find a new team mate or stop playing the game (and I'm not willing and don't think it is possible to find another team mate as awesome as she is). Our relationship comes first before everything else. That is not how your partner is. He would rather have sex with just anyone than have a relationship with you. It's not like you are unwilling to play because you are...but it's not enough for him. That doesn't sound loving or caring. I would strongly suggest that you both sit down had have a heart to heart, but his actions don't sound like he places too high of a value on you or the relationship. I could be, hope I am wrong...I can only go on the info provided. I wish you all the luck, but you shouldn't have to 'bend to his will'. This doesn't make you a 'controlling cunt'. Wanting to be shown some love and respect is something everyone is entitled to and should be given, but I don't know if that is something he is able to do. Please let us know how things go.

We didn't have many notches on our bedposts, probably because we didn't swing with couples we didn't like. I don't remember ever turning a couple down because of their looks. I do remember a hypothetical question being answered by Mrs. Alura: "Take one for the team, Darling? It's sex! How bad can it be?" A couple of times we had "test fucks". If they didn't work out, we looked to the future.

It appears you're talking about it, and that's good. But you're clearly not happy with it. If he loves you, he should understand that and be willing to work with you. But, possibly, he won't, and then you'll have to make decisions. Best of luck.

She scrubs her bush and maybe combs it. She has a bush that would make a psychology major proud. Certainly makes her proud.

Awesome! We will definitely have to check that out. Hopefully we can make things interesting

I’m old enough to remember when porn stars had visible pubic hair.

Sorry, I'm old and body hair is part of the attraction. Bald would mean "not mature" and off limits.

I would suggest she get tested to see if she is CMV positive or not. Many people are positive and no big deal, but if she is negative and is exposed while pregnant it can significantly affect the child.

Does your best friend know that you are swingers? If she gives oral before intercourse, get the Premium Plus package.

Mrs Doc offered to fuck my best friend for a new Audi convertible. She's still waiting, despite my assurance, Im not sure he thinks she's serious.

Funny, I know men are supposed to be the visually oriented ones, but watching drives me crazy, too. So does being watched.

Supposedly, a hallmark of erotica genuinely written by women is that it rarely mentions ejaculate. Male authors with female pen names new to the game tend to describe it and thereby alienate their female audience without understanding. It's not that it's "bad", it's just that most women don't think about it and describing it throws them off. Of course, as males, we're visual and we like what we like, and that's OK, too. Hydrate properly and eat your celery if that's what you're into. Some of the tips out there work. Just don't think you're doing it for her sake.

Experienced some DVP this weekend. Our partner was pretty big and he felt very good as I was on top and facing him. After climaxing with him, my husband entered me from behind. As his penis entered, he pushed the bigger dick against the front of my vagina and really stimulated both my deep and shallow spots. The bigger guy didn’t really move much. My husband and partner ejaculated together after some amazing rhythmic pumping and said rubbing the underside of their cocks in me was amazing.

I didn't know where else to put this. Mrs. Dazed is down 67lbs from her heaviest today. Nov 2017 she was 267lbs. Super proud of her and this is all for herself, I'm just happy to share this journey with her. She hit her 200# goal, now she says she is working towards 190#.

Congrats! This is not an easy chore.

First let me say I am sorry you are having negative feelings and the fantasy you both shared previously didn't turn out the way you'd hoped. Keep in mind that fantasies usually don't as what you can control in your mind is now affected by how the other players respond. That being said the journey into the lifestyle is full of learning experiences try not to view things as negative or mistakes merely as a chance to fine tune the "fantasy" next time. It is easy to get caught up in the moment and "forget" the original intent sometimes. Had the shoe been on the other foot and you were engaged in a 3-some with a women she might be feeling just as you are now...the newness, the excitement, the flattery, and the attention of someone new. I am not making excuses for anyone's behavior merely trying to help you see how it could happen especially when you've both drunk more than normal. We don't really play in 3somes preferring couples where we can mix things up and switch back and forth with our own partners etc. But we did have a couple swap several years ago that went a very similar route. This women was all over Mr Sav and myself although she wasn't into girls at all and told me "I do this just because he likes me to" (UGHHHH!!). In any event, we get busy and she's riding Mr Sav like a porn star (poses and all) and all her hubby wanted to do was watch them. The only thing he wanted (expected) from me was a blow job as he pulled my hair and he vocally encouraged her in her little performance (I say that because truly it was a bad ACTING show). In any event, here I am completely BORED, sickened by their little show as she wasn't into Mr Sav as much as she was into putting on a show for her hubby and eventually just left the room. Honestly I was offended that Mr Sav was so lost in this little game he did not notice how aggravated I was by this man and his wife, but like you said, he seemed to be having a good time why ruin it? It was only later when we discussed it he realized what a bad situation I was put in although he might not have minded being "used" I sure as hell do. Now then to your issue at hand, talk, talk, and then talk some more. Discuss what you did like, what you didn't like what you'd like to see more of, what you never want to see again etc. Also establish some form of communication to use during play to use just in case you are feeling left out, a word or particular touch that she will know means she needs to refocus on you for a moment. Use this experience to expand on your fantasy and than make sure you communicate this to any potential partner. There is nothing wrong with saying before hand "Look , what we are interested in is a true 3some where we switch back and forth pleasuring my wife "make it clear you will not just sit on the sidelines. In the actual heat of the moment there is also nothing wrong in saying "Oh baby I need you" be assertive. Remember this is YOUR fantasy as a couple and if it isn't going as planned only YOU can turn things around. In that situation I should have jumped in, claimed my man and engaged him more myself and made him aware of how I was feeling. The fault lies as much on my own shoulders. Even with our years in swinging we are still learning what works and what doesn't, every encounter has the potential to present something we haven't faced before and so we might not be best equipped to deal with in relation to our partners feelings in the heat of the moment. Learning experiences, not mistakes! Maybe try couples, there is something there for everyone at all times lol. Good luck to you both and go easy on your wife; this was all new to her as well and she too has things to learn just like the rest of us.