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After reading so many posts on this board I would recommend every man in the world to join this board, you will automatically grow 2”. This board has the most endowed group on the planet. In the real world men who are smaller when flaccid are growers and can grow to twice the size. Show-ers will grow but nowhere double. I have found most guys will start to grow before any contact. Fully flaccid is when everyone is relaxed. And yes it is exciting to watch it grow during oral.

My wife says that she finds that having one grow in her mouth is very erotic. And challenging.

Thanks again @adamgunn. I will consider all the points u raised. Thanks too @Icmim for your inputs. It's supposed to be a V or Vee and ideally should be equals. While Xavier is the younger and more powerful sexual partner, but I realized I value more my relationship wd Bob and his feelings. So now it becomes hierarchical...there's a primary and a secondary.

Continue to reassure her and let her lead the way without complaint or criticism. I hope that it works as well for you as it did for us.

There is only one unambiguous way to measure, which is on top with a ruler pressed as far into your groin as it will go, aka bone pressed. You may not be able to use this full length depending on your fat padding but it is the only way to get a consistent reading for all men.

Kitty, good to see you're thinking about it. As you pointed out, Xavier is a ticking time bomb, because he knows a secret that Bob doesn't, that he's been swinging with you. And, as you pointed out, he may spill the beans either unintentionally or intentionally. And it's all complicated by the fact that you're in a semi-polygamous lifestyle with both of them. What to do? Well, you can end the relationship with Xavier. That would hurt, I know. But there are advantages. I think Xavier is hurting your relationship with Bob, this path would stop that, give your primary relationship with Bob a chance to heal. Plus (unless they know each other,) your indiscretions with Xavier would never be known to Bob. Or, you can keep going with both of them under the new guidelines (Swinging with Bob, sex with Xavier *telling Bob each time*) and hope that it hangs together. With this one, you'll be subjected to some tremendous pressure from Xavier to do things you may not want. You're in a pickle. Hope it works out for you.

Time for the decision Is Bob your Primary of not? Not primary bf but Primary. What is owed to one is not necessarily owed to the other. Two BFs and what you do with each is not necessarily the other business , with the exception of health issues. If the two are equal, then what is ones right should be the others, also. You would not be the first person to try juggling two bed mates., nor the last. Sooner or later they either both go away, two of you choose each other as a pair-bond, or the three form some type of polypod. That latter most likely means full disclosure all around. If I were Bob and I wanted you as a long term partner, I would want to know.

Our friend dates, he has even dated my best friend. Our relationship is simple and complicated. He is my husband’s best friend and I wasn’t on board when he suggested bringing him into our bed. My preference was bringing my friends to play with. Being with two men was not something I looked for. My sex with this friend is more fun sex than romantic sex. I love him as a great friend, way different than the way I love my husband. I have had sex with him and his dates, including my girlfriend. He is there to keep me company while my husband travels. We are very comfortable in front of one another. He tells me things about his life including his dates.

Sorry for the delay in updating, a few mods were needed to ensure smooth sailing I have uploaded a file pack on Thinyiverse, for those who dont know, Thinyiverse is a website where anybody can upload and share 3D designs of practically anything for others to download and share. This is the link, https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:3554455. This the the unit shown covered in a chestnut leather with polished brass fittings. Now having this platform, my intention is to drawer up some other mods perhaps to be used with it. If anybody ends up building one, PLEASE let me know how you go and share photos of the finished product, I'm very curious. Comments are very welcome Regards, Jands

Our answer is a bit different. We were born in the early 50's, grew up through the 60's, and so on. Like so many in our generation, we sensed that we didn't resonate well with several prevailing social norms--the prohibition against casual nudity, the prohibition against even mild public displays of affection, many double standards around sexuality, etc. Unlike so many in our generation, we didn't just "go through a rebellious phase" and then align with prevailing norms. Rather, we thought carefully about our values. Our first step into alternative lifestyles was via social nudism. With each successive step, we asked ourselves, "how does this next step fit with our values?" This has proven a durable approach--we are now together for 44+ years.

I think it's wonderful if this works for you. The sexual freedom is a real rush. My wife can have sex with whomever she likes, but we talk beforehand. I might not ever meet the guy, but I always know where she is and with whom. It's a safety thing. She knows the cavalry is available if necessary, and this puts her more at ease. She has a better time for it. She's never had a problem with one of her lovers, but all the same this makes her more comfortable. We've talked about the idea of going to a nice club in a very upscale hotel, and having me watch as she gets picked up by a guy and takes him to our room. Hasn't happened yet, but perhaps someday.

Exactly Fundamental! Things happen, and you are right - it's sticky, sloppy, messy, and why not enjoy it and laugh at those moments and just enjoy it?

Somewhere during the transition between childhood and adulthood, we lose the idea of "laughing with" in favor of "laughing at". Parse the comedy of adult stand-ups, and most of the jokes are derisive at their core. Small wonder that the typical adult view of laughter during sex is that someone is being laughed at. Fact is, sex is not only fun but also pretty funny. It's also sticky, sloppy, messy...and pretty wonderful. Laugh on.

No kids but I do spend ALOT of time naked...I sleep naked and if I am not working sometimes I do not put clothes on till after lunch. If DH and I have sex in the evenings after getting home usually all I put back on is panties. DH usually puts boxer and sometimes a t-shirt on. If we had kids I would be comfortable, I think?