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And here comes the agenda...... Back to the original question, stay away from hookers, risk/reward isn’t worth it. You guys will figure it out and that’s honestly one of the best things about getting into the lifestyle. Good luck!

Seattlecple congratulations your progress sounds very much like the way we progressed when we first started.... Now we love every moment of it!!!

Great picture and a beautiful woman!

Personal opinion: Prostitution should be regulated and de-criminalized in the US...and we wish we had $2000 a month that we could use to play (actually for $2k/mo we would be going to Desire every other month) but that's not the question here. How to find hotel parties (also how to find swinger clubs): sign up and create a profile on one of the swinger websites (see Find Swingers at top of page, most allow free registration but you will be more successful if you pay the membership fee). There are always people advertising hotel parties, house parties (like a hotel party, just smaller at a a private home), and clubs. Hey, THEY want to find you as much as you want to find them. Cost is usually $50-$100/couple. If you are looking for NSA swinging, then this is the way to go. Even if you only go to the party...you are not expected to do anything, even take off your clothes, you will be amazed and enlightened (and probably see things you never imagined), the sex the two of you will have when you get home (or while you are still there) will be some of the hottest sex you have ever had. Go with your rules and limits established, don't violate them, and have no expectations (once again, you are not required to do anything). No always means no and just about everyone will ask permission before they touch anyone or anything. You WILL have an unforgettable time! Hardest part is walking through the door for the first time. If you are looking for FWB, then finding other couples on line is usually the best way to go. Bottom line is join the less than 2%ers that have a relationship that is solid enough and honest enough to where you can experience this (not necessarily participate, but at least experience) and then decide if it is for you. Have fun and let us know if you have any more questions and where you go from here. Good luck!

Too pricey for us. Yes, we've kissed a few frogs and had a few disappointing experiences but at most, that cost us dinner and drinks or the cost of a hotel room. In most states, what you have described is a crime under prostitution laws.

@adamgunn I had the talk with Xavier and it is ok with him if I'm not comfortable with swinging with any person. He respects my No. But he subtly reminded me of the independence of our relationship with Bob. He didnt give me any reason to escalate. I floated to Bob the idea that Xavier is interested in swinging with a cpl flirting with us. He said if it is essential to our sexual life and I'm not forced into it, he can't stop me as long as I take care of my health. Though he would appreciate it if he knows where we do it as an extra precaution but it's all up to me. We live in a place where there are huge number of unresolved cases of missing women. It feels great to have awesome partners. But I think I made a boboo. I should have talked to Bob first. Now am I obliged to tell Xavier if I do swing with Bob? (Any input from anybody here are welcome)

In most places in the US, charging for sex isn't "work" it's prostitution. I am curious however, how are you charged? By the hour? By the date? By the day? and how much?

And this is the key. Try to hurry things along (and it was a mistake that we made ourselves) just doesn't work out in the long run. There's always some trepidation involved in swinging, even for those who have been at it a while, but when it feels right, it's the right time. Regardless, sounds like you two are having a great time together and that's what it's all about!

Padoc ...Any woman who ever bared and gave her pussy to me is giving me a gift. I treat it accordingly and am grateful. Great attitude. Best thought. Male or female in this life style any woman willing to bare and share is a gift. A huge gift. Wish most others would think this way..... Guess I did that wrong lol

If only there was a place where you could both post pictures...oh wait! There's a photo tab at the top of the page! The photo you have posted in your profile does ROCK! Feel free to post more...she's a beautiful woman!

As an uncircumcised guy, I can tell you that I often feel like a novelty and sometimes like an outcast. I am originally from Holland but live in the U.S,, that is why. In Europe it is quite common. Being uncircumcised, I have heard it described as the difference between driving a Hugo (circumcised) and a Cadillac, for me and now I read also for the ladies. I keep the head of my penis clean by pulling the skin back every time I shower and rinsing it. Hygiene is a must!

Busy year for you and you have so much more to experience. It is great to see you post and question. You will see that you experience normal things that we have all experienced along the way. Isn’t it great that everyone is different? Growing up in NJ most of the men I have met are circumcised. I do remember the first time I saw one that wasn’t. It was my third guy I had ever been with and he was on the football team. I had no idea it was what it was. I knew it was different from what I saw before. I thought it was fun that it was like peek a boo. I just figured everyone has different shapes. A friend of mine who knew I hooked up with the guy asked me what I thought about sex with an uncircumcised dick. That’s when I learned she had been with him before me. If you continue meeting new people you will see many new things. My take is that you will notice the uncut men because there are less of them where you live. Orally it is different. I personally can’t tell the difference when having sex. To this day I still say Peek a boo when I play with one.

My hubby is uncircumcised and I can tell you that the big difference is when they are inside (although only without a rubber). You can feel the sensation of the foreskin moving and after that you want nothing else...

Same here. Great idea you have there, that would be some interesting data and also a whole new category of useful info one could put in their SLS profile to impress the ladies, we could call it the dick Delta factor. If for no other reason, the project needs to be done to establish exactly what the dick Delta cutoff is for show-er vs grow-er

LOL Chicup! Hubby is also a grow-er. As far as pics go, I am not a fan of cock pics...but, I kinda do think a laid back body pic of a man with a flaccid member is sexy. I guess that comes from my first experience with Playgirl. The centerfold just looked so comfortable in his nakedness (and softness), I thought that was very erotic.

White northern European heritage, definate grower. One day I should measure soft and get the % volume change, you know, for science!

Couples that we know and get tested it's No condoms. We all talked about this before hand so nothing would be upsetting. especially when the night is over with and the excess wetness from semen is not something that our husbands or boyfriends would mind. Condoms do get messy and thrown around the 3 rooms so the next day is sort of a game...where is the condom? We all decided to Nix the sheath and enjoy each other naturally. So far its so nice to be like this.