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I’d let her, and you also, let the whole experience register. Think about what you liked/disliked and have your wife do the same. Sit down, pour yourselves a drink or two and have a long talk. You’ll know by the end of the chat whether to try again or pack it up and revisit it in the future or never again. Our first experience was also a MFM, much easier to find than couples or unicorns. We decided we wanted to try the lifestyle and didn’t have that first experience for another 6 months. We read everything we could to prepare, including plenty of threads on this board. Being semi prepared was a huge help. Met a guy on sls, wife kik’d with him for a couple weeks and we decided to meet at a hotel. Met at the hotel bar to make sure he was who he said he was, 15 minutes of small talk and headed to his room. Really wasn’t too awkward, we knew why we were going there. Within 10 seconds of entering the room he was making out with my wife. We took turns kissing and undressing her while we undressed ourselves. He got in the bed and she started blowing him, I took her from behind. We switched back and forth a few times with her taking turns blowing us and taking the other from the back. I came first and he came about 5 minutes later. Wife went to the bathroom to clean up and get dressed, came out, gave a goodnight kiss, he said thank you and we were on our way. Whole episode in the room was about an hour and a half start to finish. We talked about it right away, but we had the long talk a couple days later. Came to the conclusion that this is something we equally enjoy. It’s the ultimate team sport! If the two of you aren’t on the same page it’s probably best to hold off until you are.

I got into my first soft play with another woman recently while my husband watched. He got an immediate erection, and masturbated while watching us. It was extremely erotic and arousing to see him doing that. It definitely added to the experience.

Last weekend our group tried something new and it was a total hit with everyone involved. We called it our CFNM party. We had the guys get naked and comfortable on the couches and recliners. The ladies all kept their clothes on and watched the guys masturbate for us. A couple of the guys were a little reluctnt at first but got on board with some friendly couch. The ladies were not allowed to touch them or themselves. Watching the guys get hard and stroking for is was nothing short of incredible. The ladies were absolutely panting. When the first guy ejaculated, I thought I was going to pass out. One of the girls had an orgasm watching them. After they came the guys were not allowed to touch themselves anymore. After the last guy popped, we all picked one, stripped and fucked. If your group wants a little spice and to to kick things into gear, you should give this a try!

We have swinger friends and vanilla friends. Our swinger friends are a LOT more fun, with or without sex.

I know this is an ancient thread but I need to put how I feel out there ... I love my wife , she loves me ! We are totally secure in this . As for “how can I love/respect or whatever , after a mfm ... easy ... I love seeing her get awesome pleasure from a sensory overload !! All the while knowing we are a team in all our adventures...

I have had to resist the urge to touch myself watching my wife enjoying having sex with another man. There were times I was so hard I could feel my pulse in my cock. I thought I was going to cum without touching myself.

It's not a bad idea but it would depend on the time between play. If everyone is busy and you have a chance to "sneak off" to wash it might be ok. But if you would stop the party to go and wash yourself it might imply to your playmates that you consider them to be dirty or you might convey to them that you might be dirty. My wife had an obsessive compulsion to "clean" herself, wipe the cum from her pussy, before having sex again. I convinced her to just relax and let it go. She eventually became comfortable feeling "messy".

Mrs. E has enjoyed the "serial" approach, but we both agree our favorite spitroast was when we picked someone up and she ended up riding him reverse cowgirl on the floor, while I pulled up chair so she could give me head. She used the armrests as needed to balance and didn't have to make eye contact so she didn't feel so shy about what she was doing. I ended up finishing on her chest then playing with her nipples while she focused on riding. Fun memory.

My SO enjoyed it best when she was getting fucked from behind and sucked on my cock. I was so excited that I blew my load in a few seconds, she then enjoyed being rammed from behind until he came in her.

We hosted an event similar to this. A 4th of July LS party that in valves several couples and 6-7 selected single guys. Dubbed 4th of July Rocket Party. Held in a basement family room about 16 guys and about 9-10 women (wives and girlfriends) not a masturbation event but at any give time some guys would be stoking. Woman’s choice. Each lady would wonder around the room and play, tease, stroke, suck or fuck any guy they fancied. Every guy there came from one way or another. Women were in charge of who they chose and what they did and for how long. Lots of teasing not letting the guys cum right away. Each woman was able to enjoy whatever fantasy, fetish they liked. One guy, more than one to all of them around her. Those that enjoyed having guys unload on them had one or several at a time. One of our hottest most talked about themes. Started at 11am and didn’t start to run down until very late afternoon, but many kept playing off and on into the evening. Rockets going off all over the place and the guys able to recoup there were always a few guys available for the ladies to play with.

When it's just two guys and me, I prefer to have sex with them serially. Fortunately, Red like me "fresh" and prefers not to watch hubby and I fucking, while hubby likes going second because he does like to watch before having an orgasm and enjoys the thrill of sloppy seconds. I don't mind starting with one in my cunt and the other in my mouth, but as I get close to orgasm I like to breathe. And while anal is just OK for me, one guy in my pussy and one in my bum is great. Lora likes kissing one while the other guy is the workhorse. Clair just mixes up everything possible with two guys. I also like FFMs, maybe even more. It's not two women taking care of a guy, but two women sharing a man while making love to each other. I especially like 69ing with Lora while hubby alternates between us.

I am the wife half of the relationship and I started the ball rolling on the swinging conversation. I have always been a very sensual person, which my husband loved and still loves about me. I had many sexual experiences in my late teens and early 20's that my husband didn't and he loves to hear the stories. We've both been interested in a swingers lifestyle for a long time but needed to make sure we spent the time to develop our own fully beforehand. And now, we're both comfortable with beginning our journey into swinging.

She scrubs her bush and maybe combs it. She has a bush that would make a psychology major proud. Certainly makes her proud.

I have weight issues, so I am sensitive to the issue. My wife, on the other hand, is in tip top shape. I am ok with a woman who is overweight, but I have limits, too. I think you just have to say that you are not a match. We judge people on height, weight, age, appearance, but we never tell a person that we do not want to get together due to any one characteristic. Who knows why people do not want to be with us. We don’t take it too hard, we have each other. We do note that we have been wowed by people in person whereas we would have declined to play if we just relied on pix or a profile.

Having played with our friends - we vote don’t do it!!!! It can and does lead to complications. It’s not about bonding or jealousy but things will and do get weird and it is not predictable!

As you said that you have been reading around, you will have probably read many times that 'swinging is not for everyone'. It appears that you fit into the 'not' catagory. Your posting tends to lead one to believe that you think 'women' are being used for the selfishness of men that just want a hole to stick it in. That couldn't be further from the truth when it comes to swinging or life in general. Women use men for sex as much as men use women for it. My husband and I have a solid and open enough relationship that we can discuss and share fantisies and should we meet those that we feel could help us attain those, then we are going to act on it. For us, there is nothing like the thrill of seeing your significant other in the throes of passion right, beside you, with another person or persons. Swinging takes nothing away from our love and respect for each other. It isn't even questioned.

I don't think you have a very positive attitude about swinging or women in the lifestyle. period. I have read some of your other comments and we are more than a piece of ass for strangers or frat house girls or willing holes I think that is your attitude not ours... If you and your wife don't want to get involved in it no one is forcing you to ... neither are we forcing you to return to this site. It seems to me that you are just trying to make the fence sitters feel bad about their choices... ****