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First, good for your mother-in-law for staying sexually active into her 80s. I know my own mother was also sexually active late into her life because when she was 85 my brother-in-law walked in on her having intercourse with her 92-year-old boyfriend. (Glad it wasn't me who walked in on them cuz then I would have had to pluck my eyes out.) But all of her kids were happy that she was still able to enjoy this fundamental human pleasure. Second, based on your description of your mother-in-law being picked up and fucked in front of her husband by two strangers at the beach, I think I'd say she was at least a bit of a swinger herself. I find it extremely hard to believe she would call out your wife or you for your current behavior. Sounds more like a case of the apple not falling far from the tree. By the way, how did you and your wife come to learn the story of her mom's hotwife-ish adventure? Because I'm not seeing this coming up at a Thanksgiving dinner...

You can't change decisions or choices made 20 years ago. We've all made choices that have unintended consequences. In this case it's regret. Don't dwell on it and don't even think about telling your wife about twenty wasted years. She's more or less opening a door, enjoy what comes next.

Don't waste time looking backwards: learn form yesterday, live for today and prepare for tomorrow. It took awhile for you both to get where you are, in hindsight she SAYS that she would consider swinging, but she may not have done it back then. She seems to be ready and considering it now. Go forward with no expectations and NOT PRESSURE on her. If it happens, it happens. But in moving forward, keep talking and sharing and who knows...good luck and let us know how things go.

Loved watching him the other night. I had two guys taking care of me and he watched us for an hour. Hebedged the entire time and finally exploded. Watching him took my experience to an entirely new level.

Define "kinky."

I would not be surprised if the ratio of single men to single women on swinger sites is 100:1 (it may well be more). As mentioned, there are a lot of posers. Married players may look good, and work for some, but I personally will not go there (too much risk for severe drama). This is especially problematic if they are sneaking around on their S.O. One of the primary aspects of a good, working, swinger relationship is open & honest communication. So by playing with a cheater you are off to a really bad start. There are couples out there where one may give permission (a "hall pass") to the other to go out and play. These are pretty rare though. Perhaps even more rare than single women (a.k.a. "Unicorns") in the Lifestyle ("LS"). There are nice guys out there. They are just heavily overshadowed by all the jerks and rude men. You for sure have your work cut out for you (especially through date webs). Swinger Clubs give great favor to single women, so if there is one nearby, that would be a good start. Be prepared for an overwhelming amount of attention though. One place to find a club listing is here: https://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/ Clubs can save a lot of time by greatly reducing the number of posers, and cutting down on emails & chats. "Date Web" sites like Kasidie, SLS, & SDC will have more options, but it can take a lot of time to separate the wheat from the chaff. This BBS (SB.com) is a fantastic resource to learn from, and to get to know some active swingers. (It is not necessarily a "hook-up" site however.) Spend some time here, and you will likely be much better prepared as you enter the Lifestyle. Enjoy the Journey