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Hey, all. My husband and I just had our first swinging experience, and it's kind of blowing my mind. It wasn't planned, though we had talked about the idea of bringing another man into the bedroom. My husband is bi, and to be frank, I love dicks, so this is a topic that had come up a lot for us. We've been together for a very long time and our sex life is better than it's ever been, so I think that factored in to things going the way they did this weekend. Now I'm trying to make sense of it all! As we often do when we have a chance to get away, we went to Atlantic City for a couple of nights. We love having great restaurants and entertainment right there and walking the boardwalk, as grungy as it can be. There's something about AC that's just pure indulgence. On our second day, we hit the pool and had a great afternoon fuck and went for an early dinner. Dinner was wonderful and done early enough to hit the tables for a few hours. I like to play blackjack. My husband plays poker. Anyway, I sat down at a table that seemed to have a good vibe and got chatty, like I always do. There were guys sitting on each side of me, which is par for the course when you're gambling. Guy on my right was a douchebag. Guy on my left was charming and equally unimpressed with guy on my right. Time went by and I got on a good run. Most of the table was winning. Douchebag guy eventually bottomed out and left (yay!) and I got to know the other guy better. We had a lot in common, especially 100% sarcastic attitudes. We started playing each other's hands when one of us went to the bathroom, and before I knew it, it's 1am and my husband comes back from poker. I ask Blackjack Guy if he'd like to go grab some food because I'm fucking starving (this always happens at the tables) and we end up stuffing our faces with pizza slices. Now, hubs and I had talked about the idea of inviting a guy to our room, so I discreetly asked hubs if he was into it and he said YES. I felt like I was having an out of body experience, but I made myself just do it and asked Blackjack Guy if he'd like to have fun with us. Turned out he wasn't bi, but he was into the idea of sharing me with my husband. Seriously, I thought I would faint. We grabbed some mixers and protection and headed back to our room. They undressed me together, which was fucking amazing. A few minutes later we were all in bed and getting acquainted and shockingly, it felt so normal and natural. Blackjack Guy turned out to be really kind and thoughtful, and wasn't in any kind of rush, so we really enjoyed the hell out of each other. By the time we were done, the sun was coming up and I needed a shower, LOL. While I know it's probably not much of a feat to find a guy who wants to have sex, it really felt like we hit the jackpot with Blackjack Guy and now I'm wondering how we ever get to that place again. Honestly, the idea of soliciting people online or in apps freaks me out. I don't want strangers to use me. I want to have fun with people who give a shit about the people they're with...so I guess I'm wondering what we do now. We told Blackjack Guy he was our first, and he was surprised. He thought we'd done it before, but we were just winging it. I'm nervous about winging it again, but I'd love to find a bi guy for my husband. Would love insights from others who've ended up in similar position (pun intended).

Folks please, please get your children, girls and boys, vaccinated. They will become adults, they will have sex, try to prevent this from happening to them.

You have a wonderful husband who is very smart not to let this get in the way of seeing how great you are. From what I have read in your other posts, he is now glad that you took this step as well. I'm not a Biblical person but every one knows the passage, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." That is true of your husband. And you have written a thoughtful follow-on about sex.

Whether MFM or FFM, I like it best when two start separately and already have the action going, then the third joins. I've been on all sides of this approach - they're all different and all exciting in their own way.

Drugs, alcohol and sex are not a good combination,

Points for the cards metaphors

Respectfully, I disagree. Swinging is about sharing. It requires communication, trust and honesty. When a couple establishes boundaries, they should be respected. Swinging is not a license to break the rules. It requires a different, in many ways stricter, set of rules.

Everyone says talk about everything. I wanted to make sure she wasn’t hurt and that he didn’t use her. She assured me that she is fine. She wasn’t forced to do it. She said she was experiencing the attention of two men and it was very exciting. She knew it was something new going on and assured me that there wasn’t any pain.