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An interesting question. My dad always preferred being nude but did not (to my knowledge) swing. After my mom divorced my dad and married my stepfather, there was some non-monogamy. It might have been consensual early, but did not stay that way, and she ultimately divorced him and did not remarry. She had a series of lovers, and they were informal as to how things worked. Mrs FL and I have always been casual about nudity and matter-of-fact about sex. Our daughter grew up more or less without body shame until the teenage years hit, and remains comfortable with us being nude around the home. She knows about our 'special friends' and while she expresses no interest in consensual non-monogamy for play (she and her b/f of 3 years are monogamous), she is acutely aware that we remain happy and very much in love--and the same cannot be said for her other friends' parents who (by and large) have played the pretend-monogamy-cheat-rinse-and-repeat pattern. No, her swinging would not creep us out. Quite the opposite, if she and her b/f get married, we want them to find lives that will keep them growing together. If the LS is part of that, wonderful. As an aside, she has explored her bi side. That's 'on hold' for the moment, but could well re-emerge. There is probably a heritable (genetic) component to exploring alternative life styles. There is probably a much greater experiential (environmental) component to embracing a different social norm. Looking back (the people at the movie theater now just look at us and issue senior tickets, no ID required )and looking around the world, we have come to understand that social norms come in two ways--imposed or agreed upon. Different societies and different cultures set up the social norms of nudity, sexuality and so on differently. Europeans are more open, Japanese are comfortable with nudity but far less so about sex, Scandinavians seem to be more comfortable with both, Americans equate nudity with sex and so on. What matters --to us at least--are less the social norms and more the value norms. We have found that our values are much more likely to be shared among people we meet in the LS than people we meet in our vanilla lives. Nude is merely 'comfortable in our skins', sex is not weaponized, honesty is expected, discretion is reciprocated, communication is open, trust is foundational and so on. The LS is not utopia, of course, and issues will always arise and have to be resolved. The better question is what feels more "real" -- the vanilla world that is riddled with struggles for power, untruths, camouflage, and carnage? Or the LS world that is more or less free from envy, jealousy, dishonesty--and yet with a dose of carnality? We accept that the two worlds necessarily co-exist, and yet as we age into retirement, we are drawn further into the latter.

Last weekend our group tried something new and it was a total hit with everyone involved. We called it our CFNM party. We had the guys get naked and comfortable on the couches and recliners. The ladies all kept their clothes on and watched the guys masturbate for us. A couple of the guys were a little reluctnt at first but got on board with some friendly couch. The ladies were not allowed to touch them or themselves. Watching the guys get hard and stroking for is was nothing short of incredible. The ladies were absolutely panting. When the first guy ejaculated, I thought I was going to pass out. One of the girls had an orgasm watching them. After they came the guys were not allowed to touch themselves anymore. After the last guy popped, we all picked one, stripped and fucked. If your group wants a little spice and to to kick things into gear, you should give this a try!

So we're new to this and finding it difficult to find people around our age to hook up with. We prefer under 40 because we're still in our 20s and just aren't that attracted to much older people. However, it would seem that many get angry when we tell them that we are not into such an age gap. Is this normal?

My parents are about as conservative Catholic as one can be. I'm in a poly situation. My sister routinely says life with her husband is boring, then she "cheats" him (is it cheating if he knows it?), he forgives her and she says that life is once again exciting with her husband. Perhaps we got a recessive nonmonogamy gene from our parents, or maybe we're just rebelling, or need sexual excitement in our lives.

My wife started asking me if I would be alright with an MFM a about a year ago, we talk about it during foreplay and sex. But I would never consider an MFM as gay in anyway. I’m fine with my wife’s request and look forward to the future when we can make it happen. For me it’s about showing her and her skill set off, to her it’s about showing off as well. We’ve talked about and made up some ground rules already, some in loser on then her but..do t worry about what people think or say, this is about you 2 having an experience that’s it! Gay doesn’t play into it unless it was openly discussed prior.

Hi there. I read your post and can understand your desire for something a little more to spice up your sex life. What it sounds a little like to me is your wife thinks you just want to have sex with other women. She is likely a little put off by feeling inadequate in the bedroom. This is natural to feel this is way. I think you need to first make her feel how much you adore her in and out of the bedroom. Have candid conversations about fantasies but reassure her she is the only one you love. I can’t say this will be a ticket to the LS but it can’t hurt. Don’t mention swinging and see if she won’t have sex on the beach with just you somewhere a little risky. This all takes time for us ladies of the LS. We are not wired like you are and please consider that in your conversations. I really liked Jane1902 comment. She was right on the money.

It definitely leaves an impression on the recipient. I can't remember half our swing lovers but I remember every nipple and pussy that was displayed in an inappropriate setting. It's the shock value to see something so unexpected, like a lady bending over, legs spread in the back of a truck 'adjusting groceries" in very sheer yoga pants. And the smile as she looked back at me...Etched So thanks to you all!

He or I give her oral

We find that very few couples can understand our lifestyle choices so we choose to keep things private. We are known as nudists, sluts and perverts among some of our friends so we choose to not try to explain. We are also the only ones with a solid marriage and are always together having fun.

We hosted an event similar to this. A 4th of July LS party that in valves several couples and 6-7 selected single guys. Dubbed 4th of July Rocket Party. Held in a basement family room about 16 guys and about 9-10 women (wives and girlfriends) not a masturbation event but at any give time some guys would be stoking. Woman’s choice. Each lady would wonder around the room and play, tease, stroke, suck or fuck any guy they fancied. Every guy there came from one way or another. Women were in charge of who they chose and what they did and for how long. Lots of teasing not letting the guys cum right away. Each woman was able to enjoy whatever fantasy, fetish they liked. One guy, more than one to all of them around her. Those that enjoyed having guys unload on them had one or several at a time. One of our hottest most talked about themes. Started at 11am and didn’t start to run down until very late afternoon, but many kept playing off and on into the evening. Rockets going off all over the place and the guys able to recoup there were always a few guys available for the ladies to play with.

Too much deprivation for me. And a waste of semen. My preference is to have an ejaculation in my vagina for safe keeping.

The great upside is you already like people you are friends with. What better thing is there than to enjoy more with them. Shouldn’t you have something in common with someone you are going to be intimate with. I/we started with college friends of mine. The safety was they lived hours away. They have introduced us to new couples. There is an excitement to new people but the attraction is at first just physical. Currently the people we play with the most are my husband’s best friend and now we are including my best friend. So far, so good.

I too always give a warning. Mrs Doc is a swallower, particularly if she's really in the moment but she also prefers a warning so she can decide if she wants to swallow of have him cum on her boobs. Sometimes its a tough call……..

I've done the MFM thing a couple times. It feels so good to just be naked sexual beings with each other and not being concerned about sexuality. I have never had insecurities about it. I am technically straight but I have been bi-curious lately. I've been talking to a really hot male and female couple and they both want to fuck me badly. The condition is that he gets anything she gets. It seriously never aroused me before, but I am thinking I might really enjoy it. I'm thinking I will take them up on it. Just the thought of us writhing on the bed or having sex free of all inhibition is a major turn on for me. That doesn't mean that all MFM encounters have to involve gay/bi sex. My first two MFM encounters were with guys I had no sexual attraction to, the only thing we had in common sexually is that we both had sex with the same girl. The closest it ever came to male on male is that we both penetrated the same hole at the same time, and that was only one of the two MFM encounters I've had. The other one was a girl a buddy of mine and I had picked up at the bar and she couldn't make up her mind which one of us she wanted, so we made it easier for her by having a threesome.

Interestingly, I know no one who thinks that wanting to have a MFM means the guy is bi. My wife and I have done MFM frequently and the bisexual male contact has never even come up. Honestly, I wonder if someone pictures a MFM threesome, and immediately thinks of the two guys going at it, is that someone bi-curious themselves. Mind you, I am bi-curious and I don't think of two guys going at it in an MFM threesome, so whatever...